Am I the mug? Emma Bridgewater saga...

[NoMoreMsPushover]

A couple of months ago, took DP and DP's sister to the Emma Bridgewater Factory in Stoke. Bloody brilliant day. Made me proud to be British, and really enjoyed learning about the Victorian history of pottery in Stoke. Can't wait to go back.

It was a day out for DP's sister's birthday. She's usually great. But am a bit peeved, to be quite honest, that my birthday came and went a few weeks ago, and nary a message received by me - on my big day (it was a milestone birthday), or after.

AIBU to be expecting at least a little thought? Or am I being taken for a mug? Especially after I paid for her to paint a custom Emma Bridgewater mug? Not sure how to feel about it all...

Thanks loves.

Bad at hoovering? I think you clearly need him to set a budget and choose your own present! I’m sure a job most 10 year olds can do can be
masfered by mr pushover!

It’s a DH / SIL saga don’t blame Emma B for it

Noted albeit not my experience. DP's sister has over three dozen pieces. I've got a few myself. Brilliant craft. Thanks for sharing nonetheless.

The Holiday was on TV over Christmas. Its on terrestrial TV. You could have watched it repeatedly.
He is seriously crap at presents.

Not quite sure I'm ready to LTB yet.

what more do you need????

We've been talking about getting married for a couple of years now but always something to put him off. And now I'm not getting a good feeling. He says he loves me though.

As to the hoovering, he says he got a back injury years ago that plays up. I did want something a bit more romantic but have had this for years really.

Dame Emma, your PR team are having a giraffe here.

He gave you a hoover he has no intention of using himself. and it was big birthday for you. why not give yourself the biggest birthday gift and dump him?

Those are objectively not good presents for a big birthday. The Holiday is on ITV 2 every other day. What did you get him for his last birthday? Or last big birthday?

I didn't know this!!! Where was this knowledge when I needed it?

I've already watched the film on DVD 4 times, and it was thoughtful of him. Uncharacteristically... 😒starting to feel like he just gives me crumbs to subsist on.

Jude Law, on the other hand? 😍

Seriously you think this is ok ?
my 12 year old son is crap at hoovering but with perseverance and withdrawal of crisps until he gets it right, will mean by the time he is an independent adult he will have mastered it

please do not allow this bollocks

Does the back injury bother him when he goes to the gym?

Just looked on Amazon. The DVD is £5.99. I know money isn't everything. Even so.

Maybe I should withdraw something from my DP until he gets his act together... 😉

Thanks for the support though in all seriousness.

For last big birthday I got him a holiday to North Wales. Booked a cabin and paid for everything. Saw Aber Falls together.

In hindsight, think I did that just to get some quality time with him. Which is hard to come by these days!

FML, what did you get in your Christmas stocking, a bottle of bleach and some rubber gloves?
Come on OP. You deserve better. A fucking hoover!!!

YANBU at all
I know the feeling, except it was a friend who ignored my big birthday, in spite of our birthdays being 2 days apart, and me spending ££ on her card and gift. Her birthday wasn’t a mile stone , but I made an effort,
she had 0 effort, not even a text message.

Needless to say I’ve kept my distance sine as I’m very disappointed in her.

I had had a terrible year, as my mum had died last February and I really thought she would make an effort…

Stepping away for a bit, going to prepare tea. Thanks ladies for thoughts. Giving me a lot to think about... would appreciate more advice in the meantime. Think I have a bigger question to answer here perhaps.

honestly OP
What is it going to take???????

This sounds really difficult. Sending you lots of love and handholds💐

A hoover 🤣 If you live together and you do all the hoovering, that's not a present. And a DVD? Where did he get it, Woolworths? I think he's gone back to the 80s and he should stay there.

Yep YANBU. Birthday arseholes who like someone to make a fuss of them, but not prepared to reciprocate to put one iota of effort into anyone else’s. We’ve got them in our family (also SIL) op, I feel your pain. I’d have loved that day out - I would’ve been so appreciative.

Honestly, I can’t bare people like you. Go and piss on someone who else’s parade. Yes it’s made the OP feel proud, and why shouldn’t it? Our heritage is something to be proud of, the generations that came before us built these industries and it’s brilliant to see brands like Emma Bridgewater carrying on with the traditional ways. It’s an incredibly thoughtful gift, a great experience, much better than some cheap tat gift set from a supermarket.

A hoover for your fucking birthday?! Some people are crap at choosing paticularly thoughtful presents but this is beyond. If in doubt chocolate/candle/nice mug/massage voucher/breakfast in bed/evening meal out are a good guess for most women. (And as your partner id hope he'd know if some are not your thing) The dvd on its own would be better.

If I was your dh I'd get you a pottery taster class so you could have a go making your own thing.

As always on mn it's a dh problem. Where do you find these men?!

Get him a set of sponges and a new toilet brush for his next birthday cheeky fuck .