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I just got pulled over for doing 32 in a 30

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dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 13:02

I’m shaking as I write this. I just drove out to walk the dogs and on my way back a police car pulled me over. I was doing 32 in a 30 and he said I was “lucky” that he’s not choosing to prosecute me over this.

AIBU or is this total overkill? It’s a dry sunny day, the roads are relatively quiet and I wasn’t driving erratically.

OP posts:
PatThePenguin · 17/01/2026 13:57

ginasevern · 17/01/2026 13:53

He saw a lone woman and thought he'd put the shits up her. The Police are very good at that. His power trip probably gave him a hard on. Anyway, much easier box to tick than tackling the drug dealers and their snarling pit bulls in town.

Anyway, much easier box to tick than tackling the drug dealers and their snarling pit bulls in town.

Since when has this been the job of the traffic police?

blackbunny · 17/01/2026 13:58

PumpkinScarf · 17/01/2026 13:07

Seems excessive with the amount of idiots on the road they could and should be pursuing instead.

It’s not either or, they can do both.
Probably if a car had overtaken the OP at 40 they’d have prioritised and persued them.

Coulddowithanap · 17/01/2026 14:00

dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 13:13

I just think it’s a bit silly. About two miles away there’s a town full of drug addicts and drunks who make part of the town a no go area. But they’d rather pull over innocent people!

If a police officer notices a car doing slightly over the limit then they would pull them over, chances are they could have been drinking/on drugs. Not all drunks drive with their foot flat to the floor.

They pull you over and make a judgement from there. You obviously weren't a drunk or on drugs and car must have been taxed and insured. You haven't been charged and police have done their job.

1457bloom · 17/01/2026 14:01

ToKittyornottoKitty · 17/01/2026 13:56

It’s not hard to understand that you are more likely to run over a pedestrian when speeding through a town than on a motorway. Both are dangerous, but it of course makes sense to deter people from speeding in residential areas where children could be running around.

That’s not the point. The speed limit is the law, there shouldn’t be different interpretations depending on where you are, it’s too confusing.

Lightuptheroom · 17/01/2026 14:02

My DH activated a speed camera at 32 in a 30 limit so consider yourself lucky as he got a £100 fine and had to attend a speed awareness course (which is offered at the discretion of the police) you can end up with a fine and points on your licence so it's up to you whether you learn from the experience or end up with the fine and points next time.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 17/01/2026 14:02

dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 13:08

oh give over. If I was doing 35 I’d understand but a couple of MPH on a clear road with a slight downhill isn’t speeding.

Why are you bloody 'shaking' then? You are so obviously convinced that you haven't done anything wrong. You were caught speeding, end of. Just consider yourself lucky that there were no consequences for you this time and don't speed again. I bet you will, though.

jamandcustard · 17/01/2026 14:02

ACIGC · 17/01/2026 13:57

There are multiple posts referring to dangerous driving and killing someone. 32MPH is not dangerous driving in the conditions as described.

I don't think she is "blaming" the police as such. She's asking if pulling someone over for doing 32 in a 30 is overkill. Arguably yes. Though I do question why the exchange would leave someone shaking.

Of course she's blaming the police, she's trying to say they only pulled her over because she's a "lone woman" - when they'd not have pulled her at all if she wasn't over the limit.

I do actually think pulling someone over for such a minor issue is overkill and would be pissed off if it happened to me, but I would at least admit it was my own fault for being over.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 17/01/2026 14:06

dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 13:14

Because he was very intimidating, I’m a woman on my own and he was treating me like a criminal

From when I read your first post, I immediately thought it was a male officer on a power trip. Some men get a kick out of intimidating lone females.

Did he show you any evidence that you were going over 30mph? As if your speedo said 32mph, it's unlikely your car actually was going over 30mph due to the way they are calibrated. Did you admit to him that you were going over 30mph? (it's advised to admit nothing).

Anyway, I'd be considering whether to make a complaint about his intimidating behaviour, the fact you were a lone female and that his demeanour left you feeling shaken. It may be that he has form for this behaviour, recently I saw a case in the USA where an officer had been picking out single women to intimidate them, he was actually being investigated for it. In your case, it certainly sounds like the officer's behaviour should be noted, as it may form part of a bigger picture with him. Misogyny in the police force is still very much a huge issue.

Please ignore the posters giving you grief, idiots.

amigafan2003 · 17/01/2026 14:06

ThisSparklyHelper · 17/01/2026 13:44

Yeah go and catch some murderers and rapists instead of intimidating a lone women driving 2mph over the limit 😡

I don't think there are different road laws depending if you are a lone woman or not.......

MartySupremeisascream · 17/01/2026 14:07

NemesisInferior · 17/01/2026 13:08

You are shaking because you got pulled over because you were over the speed limit?

Get a grip. You broke the rules, you got caught and were lucky enough to just get a warning. It's not hard to keep to the limit.

Get a grip yourself.
This is nonsense pure and simple.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 17/01/2026 14:07

1457bloom · 17/01/2026 14:01

That’s not the point. The speed limit is the law, there shouldn’t be different interpretations depending on where you are, it’s too confusing.

I follow the law because it’s the law, I don’t follow some because I don’t want to get caught and ignore others because I think il get away with it. OP got pulled over and warned for speeding, because she was speeding. She was in the wrong, it’s not like she’s going to jail for it.

NewYearNewMee · 17/01/2026 14:08

Honestly OP I’m surprised you didn’t get a ticket if you gave him half the attitude you’re giving people on here 😮 😂 shaking is a bit OTT!

He’s a traffic officer - I don’t think in his very short dealing with the OP, how many rapists do you all think walked by unchecked 😂 😂 it’s a good idea for them to police the roads, reminding people of the speed limits, keeping an eye on things - being a visible police presence - it’s what we pay for! I’m sure in the future on that bit of road OP will keep an eye on the speedo. No harm done and a warning imparted. He shouldn’t not pull you over because he’s a man and you’re a woman on your own - sounds like he was in a full livery car. You were doing something wrong, got told so - there’s no defence to it needed. Just one of those things to not do again!

Shawdown · 17/01/2026 14:08

He’s not taking it further so how can it be overkill?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 17/01/2026 14:09

ACIGC · 17/01/2026 13:57

There are multiple posts referring to dangerous driving and killing someone. 32MPH is not dangerous driving in the conditions as described.

I don't think she is "blaming" the police as such. She's asking if pulling someone over for doing 32 in a 30 is overkill. Arguably yes. Though I do question why the exchange would leave someone shaking.

She is blaming the police, claiming he pulled her over to intimidate her just for being a woman because in her (incorrect) opinion she wasn’t speeding. She’s not asking if it was overkill because she thinks she’s an innocent victim of mean police men

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 17/01/2026 14:09

I thought they didn't bother with anything that was less than 10% over the limit?

Regardless, best to stick to 30 or under in future.

Jamieson90 · 17/01/2026 14:09

I think it's one of those grey areas where you're not wrong but you're not right either. You see jobsworths in all areas of life.

32 in a 30 does mean you were breaking the law and you are criminal though , so own it. At least you didn't get a fine. If it had been a camera there would have been no discretion.

If you're going to speed, don't get caught, and if you do don't complain about it either.

I'm not saying this to be judgey or holier than thou, I got done for doing 90 on the motorway at midnight when there might have been 4 cars on the road. One just happened to be an unmarked Audi.

At the time I mistakenly thought you had to be doing over 100 to get banned, but class B speeding offenses start at 11-20mph over. Those 2 weeks waiting to find out if I was getting a 28 day ban were scary. The points and hefty fine were guaranteed.

It was a learning experience.

Yours is too.

Now you know that police and councils like to put cameras and speed traps on downhill stretches of road where speed naturally creeps up.

rwalker · 17/01/2026 14:10

I think this falls under education and prevention

fair play to them

BoudiccaRuled · 17/01/2026 14:10

If that has you shaking then you need to toughen up. What will you do if you are involved in an accident at some point? Faint, like one of those goats? Hardly helpful.

CautiousLurker2 · 17/01/2026 14:10

dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 13:05

Because it’s a slight downhill?

So you were not driving with due care and attention, then? If you are going dow hill you use you break to ensure you control the speed. If you are maintaining that the car was outside your control and you were gaining speed on a downhill slope then you are beyond lucky you didn’t get charged. It’s only 2 miles, yeah, but the speed limits are legally defined, not optional or approximate.

Another2356 · 17/01/2026 14:11

Ru good looking?

Usernumber36373647323 · 17/01/2026 14:12

I might be wrong but if it was recorded as 32mph it’s actually like you were going a few mph over this so potentially 35mph.

I got caught on speed camera and recorded as doing 38 in a 30 and had to do a speeding awareness course, I was really annoyed at the time, it was a few years ago but in the end I found the course really informative and what the impact hitting someone or something at 30 would be compared to 40mph. Really made me think about it, it was my first and last speeding offence (if I can help it!)

no harm was done op but it might make you think next time.

allthingsinmoderation · 17/01/2026 14:13

i think with speed cameras theres a threshold of 10% plus 2 for prosecution.
But i think with police its discretionary ,i would have asked what the criteria they use. It may be an increase in speeding related accidents are making the police focus on it.
I do understand your shock of being pulled over if it's never happened before .
Bottom line it's easily done and its helpful to be reminded ,i would have apologised and let it remind me to more careful/vigilant .

Dweetfidilove · 17/01/2026 14:14

dialdrunkforyou · 17/01/2026 13:13

I just think it’s a bit silly. About two miles away there’s a town full of drug addicts and drunks who make part of the town a no go area. But they’d rather pull over innocent people!

You're not innocent if you are indeed over the speed limit at 32mph, and I say that as someone who dips over 30 and have to slow myself.

Most officers would overlook that, understandably; but shaking is as much of an overreaction as you think being stopped is.
Is there something about the police that triggers you?

jamandcustard · 17/01/2026 14:14

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 17/01/2026 14:09

I thought they didn't bother with anything that was less than 10% over the limit?

Regardless, best to stick to 30 or under in future.

No, they can prosecute for 31 in a 30 if they want to.

jamandcustard · 17/01/2026 14:14

allthingsinmoderation · 17/01/2026 14:13

i think with speed cameras theres a threshold of 10% plus 2 for prosecution.
But i think with police its discretionary ,i would have asked what the criteria they use. It may be an increase in speeding related accidents are making the police focus on it.
I do understand your shock of being pulled over if it's never happened before .
Bottom line it's easily done and its helpful to be reminded ,i would have apologised and let it remind me to more careful/vigilant .

Nope, there's no threshold. Some forces choose not to prosecute until you're a certain amount over, but that's just choice, it's not the law.

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