Can I wear this Satin Dress to a Wedding. Husband says no. I feel stunning in it, and think it is ok to wear.

[MegsyLondon]

Opinion needed. I got gifted this dress for Christmas it's a bit tight as it is my pre baby size, but it somehow makes me look smaller than I am.

https://www.iconleva.com/collections/best-sellers/products/adel

It is cinched on my waist and then flows into a fitted skirt. I feel confident in it. I feel like me again. I have been desperate to wear it since I got it but we never go out.

It's my husband's best friend's wedding in February. He is one of the best men. I am not in the wedding so I wont be in any of the pictures or anything like that.

Husband isn't happy about me wearing it. Is it reasonable to wear it? I never go out and I think we will be having another baby by the end of the year so I wont get another chance to wear this beautiful dress. I also dont want to go out and buy another dress when I have been gifted this one and it is sitting in my wardrobe.

It is white at the bottom but clearly with the black lace top it is not a wedding dress. Be honest please.

There is a big difference between lemon and white sating. And between glamourous and tacky. This dress is tacky. T*ts out in a church in February will just look stupid.

No, sorry OP. Too revealing and black and white not suitable for a wedding. You and DH need to go somewhere glam before you have DC2

I hear your rationale around wanting to use this as your only opportunity to wear it. Because of the constraints you mentioned maybe you can have a romantic date night at home, light lots of candles put some music on and get all dressed up. Or if you have friends who'd be up for it explain your dress situation and invite them over for bubbles in their finery.
If you've been feeling crap about yourself it might be worth the effort.

It’s not the satin, it’s the white. Don’t wear this.

No... I wouldn't . It's satin and too much white as well particularly when it's long. If thr top half was white or cream it could very easily be a bridal dress.
wear it to an other event instead.

Hmm, the colour and fabric isn’t suitable for a wedding guest outfit.
You could easily transform it, by adding some black to the bottom, a lace piece that matches the top, with a nice jacket.
I would definitely look at adding to the skirt before buying something else.

Absolutely no. It was no just seeing the top half.

Lol, no. But you already know this, surely.

You seem determined to validate your decision to wear this dress despite most people saying it's not suitable for a wedding.

No, it's not ok. So now you know for sure .

Not for a wedding.
the white bottom looks like half a wedding dress and the black lace top doesnt help make it more suitable.
if you want to wear it you need to dye the bottom half. Maybe dye the bottom half navy blue? You can chuck the whole dress in the dye as the black wont change colour

I don’t think so no.

If it looks different on then feel free to take a photo but it would still have a white bottom half.

Just go on a date night.
If you’re going child free for the wedding then going out a 2nd time will be fine too.
You can always stay local and not drink in case you need to go home early.

This has surely got to be a wind up. No one would even think this would be suitable no matter how glamorous the wedding or bride. To me the dress just looks tacky, v down to the navel. It's something a z list celeb would wear to the British Soap Awards.

Has taste and style been taken over by tacky at weddings?

It’s too stark for daytime - great for night.

I think it will work if you wear a pastel coloured shawl to cover all of the black top during the ceremony and team it with a similar coloured fascinator or elaborate white slide in your hair.

Why do people ask us questions when they've already decided what the answer is?

And no, the fact that your friend also doesn't know how to dress as a wedding guest doesn't make this half white, slashed to the waist dress appropriate either. But if you think she deserves it for wearing Swiss cheese to yours, that's your call. It's probably better that such birds of a feather flock together.

Can you ask the bride? That's probably what I'd do.

And if the bride days ' God no!' that's really going to cause upset.

Absolutely not. The cut and fit the isn’t a problem imo but you absolutely cannot wear that much white.

I imagine you’d end up with a red wine down your skirt by a furious bridesmaid.

The bride won't be the only person there though. Nor will the glamorous friends. Would OP really want all of the other guests (looking at the poll) talking about her apparent attempt to upstage her?

I wouldn't; she might feel pressured to say it's ok even though it's clearly not, for fear of being a Bridezilla. There's a very clear consensus on here and even OP's husband thinks it's inappropriate and men aren't generally very switched on to this. She's got her answer.

It’s not a race to the bottom though. The fact that you seem to know several people who don’t know how to dress appropriately for a wedding doesn’t mean you should go ahead and join their ranks.

It’s a shame you can’t use the dress seeing as you already have it. Hopefully the MIL will provide a night of babysitting to go with the dress so you get a chance to wear it.

FYI black and white is ok if it’s patterned or predominantly black. The problem with this dress is that it is a long, white, satin skirt which looks very bridal, with only a small amount of black at the top. Plus it’s very plunging - as a guest you don’t want to look like you are trying to upstage the bride. Finally, it’s an evening dress so would only be appropriate if the wedding was in the evening with a black-tie dress code assuming you are in the UK.

It sounds as though you have a really lovely and thoughtful mother-in-law, which is nice.

The website has a wedding section and they have put the dress in the bridal section and not the wedding guest section so even the brand themselves are telling you it’s not appropriate to wear to someone else’s wedding!!

The whole idea is that the bride should shine on her special day - the family or the couple are paying a lot for this day. Guests should be appropriate and not attempt to upstage the bride. Yes, they can look nice, smart, chic or whatever but not in a way that upstages the bride. A married woman in her thirties (as I assume you are) should not be turning up to wedding with her boobs hanging out of a low cut dress on the basis that she feels fabulous in it.

Absolutely not - too bridal