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[Whyohwhy88]

I used to talk to this guy we meet on some app at the time called “Ki he was three year younger I was 17 when we started talking obviously nothing sexual was talked about due to the age gap at that time. Fast forward a few years and our last messages to each other was 2023. He’s now deleted me from Facebook so I guess that’s a certain he wants nothing to do with me. I did think about him in that time but just had so much other stuff going on and didn’t message neither did he he mind. I’m tempted to message him for clousure but I guess deep down it’s not right. Forgot to say they had been light flirting over the years but never meet in person mainly to do with ne

When you say closure what do you mean?

I wouldn't reopen whatever that was to be honest. Id just let that be a thing that was over - particularly if they have removed you from their socials

...why? He was 14, what could you want to talk about now?

Only last spine 20203 he was in his 20’s

So two almost three years ago? Just let it go. You don’t need ‘closure’ - you weren’t in a relationship.

No but we talked daily at points

You’ve got ‘closure’ he’s deleted you from FB…what more do you he’d to know??

Don't read too much into it. He was probably just having a digital tidy up. I don't see the point in having a long list of people who never respond or react

You haven't been in contact for nearly 3 years. You don't need closure, you're just curious and it's too late now.

So what does this closure look like for you? What would you message to say? How do you expect him to respond?
You've never met. You haven't talked for two years. You didn't want to talk (as we all know, nobody is too busy to type a 10 seconds message), neither did he. He now did the normal January FB cull of people he doesn't talk to anymore. What would you like to happen next?

He’s deleted you, there’s your closure.

Don’t be a stalker.

I've tidied up my friends list a few times and deleted people I knew in real life/used to speak to regularly. You're talking about someone you've never actually met. I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. The fact he's deleted you already gives you closure.

OP, you’ve not spoken/messaged this person for at least 2 years and now that you’ve discovered he’s deleted you on FB yoh suddenly need ‘closure’.
This just sounds like an example of the scarcity principle. You have no access to him so suddenly he’s a lot more interesting. He’s moved on, you should move on too (and clearly
you had until you realised he wasn’t interested in maintaining any relationship with you.)

What closure more than being deleted? The friendship was wrong from the start. Why would you even befriend a 14 year old boy and to still want closure 2 years and a block or delete later, I think you need to talk to a professional because this is not a normal social and emotional development on your behalf.
Don't search him up, don't contact him again, go to therapy.

Sometimes friendships end dramatically with tears and heartache, other friendships just gently and quietly drift away over time. There are seasons in our lives - not everyone is mean to be a part of every season. Don’t make it dramatic when it doesn’t have to be. Let it go. As time go by you will have more than enough drama filled endings you don’t want or need. Don’t go looking for them.

Um, he's probably got to the age of 17 and deleted you after realising it was pretty fucking weird a 17 year old was flirting with a 14 year old? You need to think about why you didnt see it was inappropriate for you to be flirting with him.

What @Gnarab24 said. He hasn’t suddenly become magically interesting just because he deleted you after no contact for several years.

How did you come to notice he'd deleted you, do you regularly check his profile?

I’m sure I’ve got this wrong but you talked to a 14 year old on face book, have never met him, then sex talked him as he got older, still never met him. He deleted you on Facebook and now you want closure on it ? Surely not?

He has probably just got a girlfriend now

'Closure' on something that never was? You're seriously overthinking this. Do not message him.

He has probably realised how creepy and inappropriate it was for a 17yo to groom a 14yo and decided to delete you as his own form of closure.

He was older when it happened and I was made of clear there was an age gap even when he was 20..

So it’s grooming to be friends with someone?

He has deleted me recently he’s far from 17 now

It's pretty damned creepy.

Would you be happy with your 14yo child getting befriended by a 17yo stranger online?