To ask though I probably know the answer

[Whyohwhy88]

I used to talk to this guy we meet on some app at the time called “Ki he was three year younger I was 17 when we started talking obviously nothing sexual was talked about due to the age gap at that time. Fast forward a few years and our last messages to each other was 2023. He’s now deleted me from Facebook so I guess that’s a certain he wants nothing to do with me. I did think about him in that time but just had so much other stuff going on and didn’t message neither did he he mind. I’m tempted to message him for clousure but I guess deep down it’s not right. Forgot to say they had been light flirting over the years but never meet in person mainly to do with ne

You never said how old you are now? How long ago did this chatting take place? I'd cut your losses and not even think about it going forward.

Him deleting you is closure. In fact it's a massive slamming of the door in your face!

You are incredibly rude, borderline incoherent, and appear to have a very strange lack of boundaries and instincts -- most adults would be horrified to discover they had inadvertently been talking to a 14 year old online, and would have immediately ended the online relationship once they found out, even if that was after the younger party was an adult.

In the nicest possible way, this is someone you've never met, and with whom you've had no contact in two or more years. He has now deleted you. Just leave it there.

Leave him alone.

I’d ask for this thread to be removed as well, otherwise you’ll keep coming back to it and winding yourself up about it. It isn’t good for your mental health to do that and I wish you all the best.

I think what people are picking up on is the age 14years for him and the 17years for you.

You should have explained that you are both in your 20s and when you were 17years you innocently spoke with a 14year old, although I can't see what those ages have in common, but I do understand that things like gaming you speak with all ages, I don't know if that was the case or just one to one private chatting which tbh is a little weird.

You said there was light flirting, however you don't say when ? When he was in his 20s or 14/15 which isn't appropriate.

I would just forget about it, he's deleted you so he has made the decision that he doesn't want any contact with you.

You asked if you should contact him, we all think you shouldn’t. That’s not going to change.

What more do you want from this thread?

Yeah he had a clear out and realised it was weird behaviour hence why you were part of the clear out. You don’t “clear out” people you actually like OP.

How am I rude exactly? When I’m the one being laughed at and called a predator.

17 year olds are not adults

Or people can just clear out because they no longer talk to the person? I’ve been dealted by people I went to school with was I predator of them to

He was in his 20’s and it was instigated by him.

How would you feel if a 14 year old girl was “chatting” to a 17 year old boy?

Dress it up however you want to justify your behaviour- it is fucking weird. He can see that now, I’m sure.

Regardless though it doesn’t matter the reason, you’ve been deleted, that is your closure.

Funny how I’m being called rude yet people are swearing at me. No need to put chatting in quotes we were just chatting about school and holidays normal things