Ridiculously indulgent things you have recently done for your children that you would only do for them?

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Stood at bus stop for 40 mins in rain and howling wind to wait for DD 13 to get off bus as she had forgotten to take her hood attachment to school. The bus stop is maybe 200 metres from our front door.

Arrived at B&Q at 7am in order to get a heated blanket for DS 16, a journey of 8 miles out of my way to work because he casually remarked that he occasionally felt chilly in his bedroom at night and it was going to be the only opportunity of getting to buy before work.

What have you done recently that you accept it indulgent and would only ever do for your children?!

6??? I can’t even fathom letting a 6 year old walk to her friends home alone. And not would I have been allowed to and I’m a child of the 80s!

My near year old scoffed his takeaway too fast. Let him sit on my lap and patted his back until he burped and felt better. That's 9 year old not 9 month old....

For DS1, stood on the sidelines of a freezing cold rugby pitch in sideways rain, unable to feel my fingers or toes. And enjoyed it.

For DS2, ferried him to various nerdy tabletop gaming shops and listened to and absorbed more Warhammer 40k lore than any human being should be exposed to. For the Emperor!

You’ve misunderstood. The other parent met the two girls, but I also turned up to walk her there !!

Today I sieved the Rice Krispies to get rid of the flour / powder that always falls to the bottom of the bag, preventing my DC from finishing the packet. 🙄

Since we're in AIBU, yes OP YABU there's no need to martyr yourself. Your kids won't love you less if you treat them like the capable teenagers they are. They could have learnt a bit more about personal responsibility, resilience and less about entitlement. Your daughter wouldn't have shrunk in the rain, she might learn to remembered her belongings in future and your son can add on an extra layer if he's cold or wait untill it's convenient to go shopping for a blanket or for an online order to be delivered

Drove to Luton airport (2hrs each way) when I had horrible flu to pick up DD because it was her birthday and although she could have got a coach it was late and I didn’t want to miss seeing her on her birthday.

Picking 6th former DD up from school at 1.30 because she doesn’t want to wait until I pick DS up at 3pm

Martyr yourself? 🙃

I do it only for them because I love them, and where did I say that I resented doing it?!

Anyone else… well, I’m certainly NOT what I see bandied about on mumsnet…. “A people pleaser”!!

I’m curious @CheeseandFigs do you have children? And what was / is your relationship with your parents like?

I was born in 79 and I was definitely walking to junior school alone after the first week or so, I would have been just 7. I do think walking a short distance to a friend’s house at 6 would be normal. We were always in and out of neighbours houses when I was a kid. The only thing that concerned my parents were busy roads, as long as there we didn’t cross the main road we could roam wherever really. I remember one family on our cul de sac didn’t let their kids out all the time and we thought that very strange.

Genius!!

I drove to DSs flat an hour away to take him something he’d had delivered to our house- he forgot to change the address when he moved out.

To be clear, he neither asked nor expected me to do that, he would have happily come over and picked it up but he’d not long moved out and I missed him so saw him sooner than I would have!

ah so you met your child at school and walked her to the play date? Got it. Didn’t you trust the mum?

Oh good Lord, as a fellow reluctant Warhammer mum, I feel you 😀I even did a long bank holiday weekend at Warhammer World, which is something only my child could ever have got me to agree to.

I often bake a banana choc chip tray bake if the kids ask for it- I will just whip it up. To be honest i would crawl over hot coals for them.

im 37 and was staying with my parents recently and I went into the city centre to meet friends and my dad came and picked me up at 3am cus it was raining and taxis are super expensive 😹😹😹

This is such a lovely thread and is brining back memories of all the lovely things my Mum would do for me, just because she loved me.

Oh lordy, nothing is too much trouble for our kids and now they are young adults they are very appreciative of it. There are far too many to mention but a few over the years
1.Driving 5 miles to take my son a spare bike as he had a puncture while out playing with his friends.
2.Driving 3 miles to take him and all his friends bottles of water as they were playing footie and were thirsty.
3.Regularly taking son and his oversized TV to his mates for XBox parties
4.Driving 8 miles in the other direction from work to get DD some cosmetic that she wanted
5.Taking 2 cars to take our DD to uni because she insisted taking her Dutch style bicycle because she had some image of herself riding around campus but she didn't ride it once!
6.Picking up Takeaway pizzas to deliver to parks etc to lots of hungry teens
7.Taking food to my DD at the hairdressers when having a very long treatment.
8.Walking around a city centre in the bouncing rain with DH trying to find a bookable bottomless brunch venue, immediately after covid for our DS's birthday with his friends.

There are 100s more I could write. I don't regret any of it and we still do loads for them. We have brilliant relationships with all our now adult DC.

For my 4 year old daughter we were in France recently near Disneyland and i took her on a whim for the day to Disneyland ! Husband took her again 2 days later !! It was brilliant

Isn't all this just modeling what they should expect and give in a loving relationship?
That's what I tell myself.

Bacon sandwiches and tea when my children had friends back after nights out.
Numerous other favours throughout their teenage years because I was happy to .
All fully functioning independent adults now @!

My narcissistic mother had her golden child (and it wasn't me)

She still saves the chocolate balls from a muller yogurt for him in a tupperware box (or he goes mental at her) and if she eats super noodles,she has to save the flavour powder packet as he likes them really strong and one packet isnt enough

She also buys him his own expensive hot chocolate,coffee and jam and god help you if anyone moves them,let alone have some

She wouldnt walk to her front door for me

He's 41 years old

You certainly chose to suffer disproportionatly to the magnitude of the issues you gave as examples.

Room service for my adult dd if he’s watching a match in his room. No wonder he doesn’t want to move out!

Dressed up in regency clothing at a stately home. DD(8) adores getting dressed up but was too self conscious to do it by herself, so DH and I joined in. DH loved poncing about pretending to be lord of the manor but I was cringing internally the whole time, it's just not my thing. The beaming smile on DD's face made it totally worth it though!

Disagree with the "builds resilience" posters. It's perfectly possible to make sure your children are prepared for the harsh realities of life whilst remaining a soft, cushioning place of love and indulgence for them. And no one is martyring themselves, I make sure I get plenty of love and indulgence too (including from DD!).