Would you been annoyed sleepover

[Molly2135]

My daughter went to stay at a friends house as it was her friends birthday . They went for food and then went back to her house for a sleep over .

Two other girls stayed also and she lives with her Mum . When I picked her up the next day I noticed that mums boyfriend was sat there ( the boyfriend she had split up with 3 months before as he hadn’t been very nice ) hadn’t realised they where back together . I was taken aback as didn’t expect him to be there or would be staying the night with the girls . They are 10 years old and I wouldn’t have let her stay knowing that he was staying there as I don’t know this man and what ive been told about tho isn’t really nice .

Am I over reacting or would you feel the same ?

I dont think people should have to say on a sleepover invite who will be in the house, but i think you should be asking.

If you asked and she said it would just be her and then you saw him there, then this would be a big problem. If you never asked and just assumed, then that's on you really.

I dont think you're unreasonable to be concerned that he was there though, there's zero chance I'd have let my daughter go to that sleepover.

You haven’t read the post properly. She said that she loosened the reins when the kids were older and able to stand up for themselves.

This is the risk you take when you send your child to a sleepover. You never know who else will be in the home. You can’t get arsey about it afterwards

I wouldn’t be happy about this. I have declined a sleepover invite for my daughter for this very reason. I am a single parent, and if I were to have my children’s friends for a sleepover and I had a partner (not living together) then I would inform the parents prior to them accepting the invite if he’d be staying. For the very reason that I would want to know if it was my child going for the sleepover.

I’ve also declined a sleepover where there was an invite and it turned out the parents would be going out and it was an Uncle who would be there. Luckily I got this information from my daughter first!

@Molly2135 i work in a similar occupation to your husband and so I get it.

Some of the things we see makes us incredibly risk averse. I don’t blame him for the way he feels at all.