The spark has gone

[Thisgirlcandance]

Posting here for traffic.

Looking to see if anyone here has experienced this, and if so what happened, if anything.

I'm 47, perimenapausal I think. I honestly feel ugly and old and have no time for sex. No energy for it either. I feel like my partner is making the effort just for the sake of it but doesn't actually find me attractive anymore.

He hasn't said as such but that's how I feel.
I can't see things improving and am scared that we have lost the spark we once had forever.

I have a few health issues that are long term which don't help. I'm curious to see if anyone has had similar and things improved at all.

TIA

Hmm @Thisgirlcandance

There are 27 threads on the "Relationships" board which have had replies from users today and hundreds more active threads.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships

Why do you need more "traffic" here? The Relationships board has people on it who are very attenuated to replying to such topics, whereas AIBU tends to be a bit more robust on here.

Ironically this post is actually at the bottom of page 1 of AIBU and no one has replied yet, so by "bumping" it I might get you more "traffic"

I think the best thing to do is sit down and talk to him about your feelings and see how that progresses if you feel you've lost the spark your husband should be aware so you can both decide where to go from here