To think a 57 year old man following young women with massive boobs and bottoms is out of order

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There are many things that I'm unhappy with, yet bringing most of them up with DH would result in a head-spinning DARVO overload. If you have experience of this, you'll know what I mean. This following of young busty women though is something maybe I could mention that he can't make up an excuse for. I know all men look at women on line, but these girls are quite startling, like they've been inflated. The 'funny' thing is, I don't think he realises that anyone who looks him up can see who he follows as his account is public. His sisters follow him. I often wonder if they've seen this. Is it creepy behaviour, or just a man thing?

Creepy. And grim, his sisters can see him following these, erm, accounts?
Is he paying to follow them?

Why are you with him OP?

Bin him off, no it’s not just a man thing, it’s a creepy dirty old man thing.

@tartyflette this is how I see his profile come up, his sisters and I follow each other, so he keeps popping up as someone I might want to follow. No thanks. His family are all church going, professional, nice people who I'm sure would be shocked at what he's looking at. I can't exactly ask them if they've seen it. The whole thing whirls madly around my head as I try to find a way out

I never look at who other people follow so other people may not realise he is doing it. What are the accounts? Are they modelling/adult pages or just women he knows/celebrities that happen to have large breasts and bums?

I thought you meant 'following' as in down the street.

Yes its creepy.

This is on Instagram, I don't think I said that. I have a weird condition where I think I've said or typed something and I haven't! Argh!

@Squirrelsnut I doubt these ladies could get themselves down the street with such impedance! How they get the hoovering done or wash a window I've no idea

A chamois leather bra?

What actual harm is being caused by this

I joined a chatroom last week, have a sick husband just to chat online with people. I can't tell you the level of disgusting stuff married men sent me. I was truly horrified. A quick exit. I have realised we really never know what's goes on in our marriages.

That is nasty

An online Benny Hill.

I think the only question is why are you with him?

Creepy. And no not all men look at women online.

@cupfinalchaos funnily enough, that's exactly who he looks like

It is NOT "just a man thing"!
It is a "your husband" thing.
And yes, it's creepy as fck, and I'm continually astounded by how many people simply aren't aware of the public nature of what/who they follow, and how they interact.

My DP was born in 1968 - truth is I personally see 1968 born men as young and youthful!

My DP -

plays 5 a side football 3 times a week
wears 28” Levi jeans
has toned abs

i still see him as the young lad he was when we first met 😭

🤣🤣

Like the skits at the end of the Benny Hill show back in the day ?

Snap 🤣🤣🤣 i was hearing the music as well 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ahhhh no. Please don’t you understand how horrible this feels to most women . It’s a betrayal . Your husband getting off too another women online is bad enough but young girls too . Nope . To me it’s cheating and I love the fact that ‘it’s just what men do’ is now not good enough . It’s no excuse it’s men who can’t control them selves or respect the person they are with

Sounds like he takes you for a fool. Following such things publicly, lord knows what he’s up to secretly.
That said, it sounds like you don’t have a happy relationship. In unhappy relationships it’s never a surprise when people find comfort elsewhere. Perhaps it would benefit both of you to separate?

Grim.