Ex on holiday for 'space' with a girl

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My on/off ex has been asking for space to decide what he wants, lots of history over a few years but not relevant to the story.

He has now booked a city break with a friend (female) and has said we'll speak when he's back. Can't decide if I'm being a mug to hang around and give him space or whether to move on. Obvs I'm concerned something happens between them when they're away - I don't think anything is going on right now since hes asked to talk to me when home

AIBU to be furious hes done this even though we're not together?

By not blocking him you are staying available to him and deliberately choosing to stay in this negative pattern of behaviour. Your relationship sounds like an an addictive pattern of going back and forth, and your nervous system has got used to the adrenaline and uncertainty. It's also sad your using this situation to place blame on yourself - but I think your doing that to feel some control over a chaotic situation and justify your situation. You are allowing this person to dictate your worth and have control over you. I would want to look deep inside myself and ask why? Life is too short. Block him, choose yourself, and focus on loving yourself and making your world full without him.

This.
Where is your self respect?

YABU to keep this loser in your life. He's just keeping you as a sort of backstop so that he has got somewhere to go (for sex) when he is between relationships.

Have nothing more to do with him.

I think you need to block him otherwise you won’t ignore him, you’ll be back to square one.