Neighbours unpleasant vehicle

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Inspired by another thread , my neighbour is spoiling my view and bringing down the neighbourhood !😁.

My neighbour two doors down has parked an old ambulance ) which he plans on restoring)
directly opposite

it really spoils my nice view from my window and is a bit jarring every time I open the curtains or when I walk home I occasionally have a mild panic when it looks like there is an ambulance outside my home . Apart from my view and emotional reaction to seeing an ambulance ( past trauma family member killed )

I have asked him nicely to move it as it spoils my view ( I didn’t want to go into other reasons ). But it is still there

it could be moved to the side road or to another home he has recently inherited.

I am not going to do anything unpleasant like slash his tires or be aggressive

am I being unreasonable to ask him to move it again? should I suck it up and get over myself ? or ask his wife as I have nice rapport with her ( which our conversation could ruin)

it disproportionately upsets me but I have already asked him once
what would you do ?

I don’t think you can do anything about it tbh. I had an ambulance ride with my daughter (we didn’t know what was wrong with her at the time but it seemed bad) an for a couple of years after hearing or seeing a ambulance would give me massive stop still anxiety, so it can happen xx

When I lived on a terraces street I really hated tge few neighbours who had high sided vans - if they parked in front of tge house, half on the pavement, literally all you could see from your front window was tge side of the van. Mostly it was a guy who had a camper but he moved it every day because it was his only vehicle. But at one point we had some people who bought one of those big vans the roll up back door, slightly bigger than a supermarket delivery van. It was outside my window for 2 weeks without being moved, and worse thru used it as a kind of workshop to work on old furniture with the attendant smells and noise. I saw him in the street one day and asked if they were ever planning to move it and he told me that they didn’t want it in front of their house because it blocked the light! I must have looked as I felt because he went quiet and it was moved to in front of theirs later that day!

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We have covenants in our road which prevents commercial vehicles or any other large or eyesore vehicles parking outside residents houses. Whether they could be enforced is another matter.

We had a neighbour who worked at JLR stealing motor parts which he stored round the side of his house. He would do up really old land rovers on his driveway and we would have three on the drive in progress and two of his own on the road outside his house. He would be hammering and drilling to 10pm at night, it made the neighbours life a misery. We couldn't look up the road anymore as all you could see where battered muddy vehicles.

Somehow a petition was drawn up by the whole road with the threat that if he didn't sell up and move his stealing would be revealed to his bosses. He moved to another area in the same borough and presumably made their lives miserable like he did ours.

I drove past a house out in the country the one day and noticed his son on his driveway with another heap of tatty old land rovers doing them up. The apple never falls far ....

That thread has since been removed by MNHQ for breaking guidelines. Not sure why, anyone have any ideas?

Did you want him to give you a trigger warning?

Gicen the amount of vile aggression that poster has displayed in two short posts, I imagine people spit in her tea quite regularly. They won‘t necessarily tell her about it, of course. 😆

Your street would have been green fields once and building itimpinged on somebody's nice view!

Bloke next door to me has got a bloody great camper that we can see from the lounge window. it’s like something out of sodding Ghostbusters with all the kit on the roof.

Nothing to be done, not that I would anyway.

Do we actually know what the view was? Reminds me of the sea view scene in Fawlty Towers.

It wasn’t just someone I knew, it was my parents killed by a drunk driver outside my home just after making them grandparents and , yes I did see a psychiatrist for a year after

I appreciate it’s my issue not his , and accept he is parked legally and there is nowt I can do .

as I’ve said I don’t own the view I just used to find it lovely to sit and look out at

hes a great neighbour and I don’t want to slash tires or get unpleasant with him etc just really really wish it wasn’t the first thing I see every morning and as I walk up to my house

My reply was aimed at DoIdriveaVauxhallZafira* *

Maybe you could just write him a gently worded note on a pretty postcard/ notelet, including the specific emotional trigger. Sometimes, things put in writing, can have more impact.
appologies if you’ve already done this.
I hope the situation doesn’t go no too long.

They always used to be one of these large, white vans parked outside my front window, every major holiday and bank holiday, for days on end. I only live in a small house so I felt like I was looking out from my window onto a white prison wall each time. I eventually found out whose it was, and it was near neighbour. When I next saw him, I asked if he’d mind moving it and I explained that I felt trapped when this was right inside my window. He was fine about it and I noticed that a few weeks later, when there was a holiday, he was parking it a little further up the street. I tucked a note under his windscreen wiper with a thank you, my name and house number and a smiley face. And next time I saw him he smiled and said “I got your note“.

Your problem is that you’ve already asked your neighbour and he is ignoring it. I suggest that another explanation might help, making sure that you explain how it affects you and asking if he’d mind parking elsewhere.

i completely understand how you feel about this.

Beautifully handled by you 👏

Never said I was going to slash tires in fact I specifically stated that in my OP

i have repeatedly said he is a good neighbour and I don’t wasn’t to even ask him again as it would be awkward

also fairly certain he is parked legally

i alway read carefully if I feel like posting something arsey

Given that other than this issue, he's quite a good neighbour, could you tell him that?

He might be more inclined to move it if he knows why it bothers you so much.

Given your cordial relationship with him, I would leave it now. Problem with these things is the more you focus on something the more it annoys you. We've all done it. It's better I suppose to have this niggle than a falling out and hostility.

The point was, saying slashing tyres is “unpleasant” was a bloody understatement.

That's horrific, I'm so sorry
If he's generally a nice neighbour then I think it would help to explain your reasons, just tell him you're not being a Mrs bucket but if it's possible for him to move it just a bit you really would appreciate it

Honestly, this. He thinks you are complaining about the view when it’s something entirely different and valid.

You could also show an interest in the project once it’s moved. Possibly even begin to overcome your panic reaction in time?

Im truly sorry for what happened.

If you have genuine anxiety / trauma from seeing an ambulance then you need to seek help and fix that not expect the world to bend around you. If the vehicle is taxed, had a valid mot and insured then your neighbour is entitled to park it anywhere on the road.

Reading your posts, it sounds like you have a reasonably good relationship with these neighbours. I would tell them why having an ambulance outside your house causes you more issues than just 'it spoils my view'. It's not as if it's a car on wheel stands. They can't understand if they don't know. There must be parking space outside their own house surely? Why not a little note 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hi Neighbours, We've already chatted about your exciting ambulance project. I can't wait to see what it looks like finished and hear about your travels (positive etc). However, do you remember when I asked you if it could possibly be moved a little so it wasn't directly outside my house? I didn't tell you all the information about why and I'm sure you will understand once I explain. Etc etc

Thank you for being so understanding about moving your ambulance away from my house, would it be possible to move it by (couple of days time). Let me know if you want me to move my car/help when you guide it out etc. As you might imagine, its been so hard to explain and so emotional, which is why I have written it down etc etc

Just an idea, positive, friendly, but expecting it to be done.

I wouldn't be this assumption to be honest, it reads quite entitled

Like the idea of a letter, but I'd go for something along the lines of

Dear Bob
I know I probably came across as a neighbour moaning about her view, but the reason why it disturbs me seeing the ambulance outside my window is because I saw my parents killed outside my home by a drunk driver and despite continued therapy, i feel panicked whenerver i see it outside. Although this is my problem, not yours, if it wouldn't inconvenience you too much to move it a short way to X I would really appreciate so much because it would make a big difference to me.
I'm actually excited to see your conversion of the ambulance and look forward to seeing how it turns out,
Apologies and thank you for your understanding,

She isn't expecting the world to bend around her, she's hoping for a little kindness and consideration from her neighbour, which is how a functional and civilised society works

Would rather not live in your world, it sounds very cold

Yeah we have an entitled neighbour like this. Really fucks me off.

How about consideration to neighbours? I know this isn’t how this horrible country works anymore, but it used to be like that,