Neighbours unpleasant vehicle

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Inspired by another thread , my neighbour is spoiling my view and bringing down the neighbourhood !😁.

My neighbour two doors down has parked an old ambulance ) which he plans on restoring)
directly opposite

it really spoils my nice view from my window and is a bit jarring every time I open the curtains or when I walk home I occasionally have a mild panic when it looks like there is an ambulance outside my home . Apart from my view and emotional reaction to seeing an ambulance ( past trauma family member killed )

I have asked him nicely to move it as it spoils my view ( I didn’t want to go into other reasons ). But it is still there

it could be moved to the side road or to another home he has recently inherited.

I am not going to do anything unpleasant like slash his tires or be aggressive

am I being unreasonable to ask him to move it again? should I suck it up and get over myself ? or ask his wife as I have nice rapport with her ( which our conversation could ruin)

it disproportionately upsets me but I have already asked him once
what would you do ?

But you can. I see it's pointless arguing, but parking a tractor unit with or without a trailer, as long as you aren't causing an obstruction or on the pavement isn't against any "rules".

If SORN'd them it should not be kept on the highway......... this one is.
A SORN'd vehicle should be kept on private property

I think most people would not enjoy having a knackered old ambulance blocking a nice open view. I’d ask again (nicely) if he wouldn’t mind moving it to the side space you mentioned because you miss the nice view.

Does his house also have a view/space opposite or are you one of only a couple of houses on the end of the street that don’t have any buildings opposite them? There’s a road like that near me where about 4 homes at the top of the street face a glade of woodland. I have noticed people appropriating the edges of it and have wondered about the neighbourhood dynamics.

I think that a project like restoring a large vehicle is quite selfish to do on a public road. Putting the ambulance on his drive and parking his car on the road would be more neighbourly imo. However, I agree with most pp in that you can only ask nicely and that if they are otherwise good neighbours, you will have to stick to cursing the ambulance in your head.

You can’t dictate what type of vehicle is parked outside your house. End of.

Unfortunately you don’t own the view from your house.

You have two issues - the loss of view and your trauma response.

The loss of view is, unfortunately, just one of those things.

Your trauma response is understandable but not something anyone else is really responsible for, the best thing to do would be to try to get some help to address that.

What happens if the neighbour isn’t sufficiently intimidated?

If it's SORN'd it can't be parked on the road.

OP - do have a quick check on the DVLA website, if it isn't taxed and MOT'd it can't be parked on the road and he will have to move it to MIL's drive and out of your eye line

There's a bloke who constantly parks this horrendous bright yellow van in the small street where my mum lives. Definitely spoils her view as she's elderly and likes nothing more than a bit of curtain twitching 🤣🤣 Wouldn't mind but he doesn't even live there, his parents do.

Tbh you’ve said he’s a good neighbour. They’re hard to find, especially one who will help you out with bins, parking cars on your drive when you go on holiday. I’d really suck it up if I were you and put all this energy to addressing this mini jolt memory of an ambulance every time you see one.

Our neighbour buys a new white van every time his old one breaks down but seems unable to get rid of the one that no longer works. He currently has 4 non working ones on his drive. Luckily not left in the road but i do hate looking at them!

I get why you don’t want to look at this but he’s declined so I don’t think there’s anything you can do.

Next it will be old ambulances with stuff on it's window sill.

I know you have already asked, but I'd give it one more go if they are nice like you say they are. Were they aorund, or at least know about the person who died? I'd ask when they are both together as they will then be able to discuss it and maybe one sway the other. Something like "Hey, I know I mentoned it before, but is there are chance you could move the ambulance to "insert exact location" please? I know it probably seems really silly and a bit irrational, but when I first see it when I come round the corner or open my curtains, it just gives me a jolt and reminds me when X died and the ambulance was parked outside. It would be such a relief to not have the reminder right there every day"

They may just think you are being a bit Hyacinth about your view, whereas if they know it is upsetting you for a genuine reason they may be happy to do it. Sometimes being honest and truthful, especially given they are nice people, might be just the ticket.

We have a massive camper van next door to us and there is nothing I can do about it. We also have several work vans parked on our road which look unsightly but it’s allowed so nothing can be done. Several years ago a rental property started selling cars from the property and a boat so we did complain about that to the council.

As you get on with her, tell his wife that it being directly in front of your house is triggering you because of your past trauma and ask if it is possible for him to move it 4m further along. I don't see how that would affect your relationship with her or inconvenience him a jot.

Knock his door say "I'm sorry Dave, I know this sounds daft, but seeing the ambulance outside reminds me all the time of something really awful that happened. Is there any way you could put it over there? I'd really appreciate it".
If he's decent and there's no good reason for not moving it, it may work better than complaining about your 'spoiled view' and his 'unpleasant vehicle' as such things get people's backs up because they see it as snobby and petty.

You said and I quote

One of your neighbours could park an artic outside your house and there'd be nothing you could do about it.

There is a lot she could do about it actually, see the rules I quoted above, you cannot park an articulated lorry in a residential street, though I see you have now changed it to tractors, tractors are not articulated Lorrie’s and the rules for tractors are completely different.

Put some net curtains or blinds up.

You are being very unresonable, what he has on his drive is nothing to do with you and you were out of order to even go and ask him to move it,im surprised he didnt ask you to move your house instead. What is it with so many badly mannered british people living in their matchbox homes acting like lords thinking they own the whole street,get a grip.

As for the lame excuse that someone you knew was killed and ambulance triggers you you should be seeking psych app instead of expecting the world to work around you and you only

Wow, who spat in your tea?

I wouldn’t like it cluttering up the road or blocking my view either but unfortunately we can’t police other people. Asking usually results in lots of heel digging. We have a neighbour who throws out leftover food for the birds. It makes me want to scream because it attracts vermin. Every time I see it I report it to street cleaning who come and clear it up. It’s like a game but if I asked her to stop I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t. People exist as insular individuals nowadays. They don’t give a shit.

Ah kerb Vs driveway.

You don’t own the view, so he doesn’t have to move it. You’ve asked once and it’s still there. That’s your answer.

As far as slashing tyres are concerned, that’s not unpleasant, that’s criminal damage and aggression will either get you laughed at, or worse.