AIBU to keep quiet about a competition cash win?

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I’ve won £1000 in a competition but not yet told anyone as I don’t have the money as yet (it does seem like a genuine win!).

At first I thought of telling my immediate family (DH and 3 teens) and sharing it out equally but I’m now thinking of staying quiet, keeping it in my account and just using it for carefree treats for the family as I fear the kids would go on a reckless spending spree (but maybe that’s a good thing too?)

AIBU to keep quiet about the money?

How would you feel if you found out your husband had kept a £ 1,000 win from you.? . I'm not sure it's a great way to behave in a marriage but not all marriages are great to begin with so very much depends on that I think. .
With my abusive ex I would have kept it a secret for sure and not felt remotely guilty. But with my husband who are very much shares everything he has with me it would feel really awful if I was to hide this money from him.

I won £10k this year, i only told famly & a far flung friend. it went on general life stuff & made it much easier for me this year not having to juggle so much, thats all. Have planned in yr head what you'll do with it before telling anyone. Dont let anyone sway you.

Agree with @Chonk .
The fact that OP has written a post about the windfall suggests that £1000is a significant extra amount of money to have. I would be thrilled to suddenly be £1000 richer.

To be honest I wouldn’t say anything. Keep it to one side for little occasions you might need to put some extra cash into. It’s not a lot of money in the scheme of things, it’s not going to make much difference.

I’d keep my mouth shut.

If you and your DH have agreed to have separate finances and you're happy with him being secretive about how much money he has in his account then it's fine.

If this is counter to how you normally arrange finances and you'd see it as out of order if he told you his bonus was 2k less than it actually was this year then it's kind of shitty.

This is what it comes down to. I’d just tell him.

It’s a good amount to have a in savings for emergencies. Boring I know, but if the cooker packs up or the fridge-freezer breaks down you’re sorted.

I’m shocked by some of these replies - if my husband kept winning £1k from me I’d be really hurt and angry.
This

1000 I would tell DP only …
100,000 I would tell DP only…
1million…I would tell DP only…

there is no need to tell anyone else imo!

£1000 is a lovely amount of money to win, id be delighted! Ignore the rude comments from people who are saying it’s not much.

I wouldn’t let the kids go off spending it. Tell your partner and do something nice with it together. Unless you want to keep it secret for yourself, I wouldn’t blame you if you did!

Yeah but your husband is male so....

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Honestly, I can’t understand why so many people are saying to keep this from your DH. Unless there is abuse or gambling addiction, why would you not tell him? All money is joint in our house so both of us would see it as “we’ve won £1000”. My DH tells me when he’s won £2.50 on the lottery!

The only time I can think of when I wouldn’t tell him is if I used it as a surprise for us. Booking a weekend away and telling him it was paid for with the winnings would be well-received.

It's not life changing, so I would keep quiet and just put it away for a rainy day.

If £1000 is a lot to you then put it away and don’t touch it

FWIW it’s a lot to me - I’ve managed to squirrel away £2000 over the years but it’s taken A LOT of saving. But I know that if the freezer packs up or the washing machine goes, it’s there as a buffer

Congratulations! It absolutely is alot of money for alot of people. Yes it doesn't go far but to win that much is amazing! I'd tell my husband (kids are only little) and have a great day out somewhere we couldn't usually afford and then pop the rest to the side for a rainy day....

The sneaky side of me says by all means tell them you've won £500. So you can do both, keep half for yourself and treat them but to a lesser extent? Xxx

Keep quiet about it, It won't last long if anyone knows about it!! Yes, keep it for a special family outing or two. Well done and I hope you really have won.

Nice weekend away with your husband

@800metresprint I earn what most would say on here is more than a decent amount of money but of course 1,000 is enough for a spending spree for you all!! that’s 200 each if you divide it up, if I spend 200 on myself I consider it a spending spree, I’m not sure who wouldn’t?!

I’d probably tell my DP but not the kids. Nice to give them a little bit as a treat though, like 50 quid each or something. Congrats!

Tell your husband only and then take your time in deciding what you want to do with the money. Either put the money away in a long term deposit account for emergencies or book a caravan/cottage holiday for Easter. Or put the money in a high interest account and save it for Christmas so you don't need to worry about budgeting for it.

Right?? My husband won £1k in a painting competition a few months ago. I knew he had entered and was waiting on the result and he told me immediately when he opened the webpage to see. We were both thrilled and popped the money straight in the savings account when it arrived. We’re hoping to move house this/next year so it will go towards that :)

Keep quiet ? It's only a grand not a million 😂

Well, it's either £200 each, do what you want DH and kids, go wild.
Or it's an Airbnb for a half term break.
Or you keep it, as you say, for treats and contingencies.
It's a decent win but not life-changing, no.
Is there anything you, yourself, would bloody love?