AIBU to keep quiet about a competition cash win?

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I’ve won £1000 in a competition but not yet told anyone as I don’t have the money as yet (it does seem like a genuine win!).

At first I thought of telling my immediate family (DH and 3 teens) and sharing it out equally but I’m now thinking of staying quiet, keeping it in my account and just using it for carefree treats for the family as I fear the kids would go on a reckless spending spree (but maybe that’s a good thing too?)

AIBU to keep quiet about the money?

I would tell DH. I would probably have £200, give DH £200 and save the rest. I wouldn't have told DS. None of his business.

One of the many mean posts on this thread. ‘Very cheap shops’?! £200 is four fifty pounds items which would count as a spree in my world.

If someone gave me £200 to spend on Amazon even I would be delighted! There is plenty of stuff in my basket I could purchase guilt free and I am in a six figure household.
£1000 is a great win and a decent amount of money.

However I would tell DH and maybe have £50 each, including children, to buy something wanted not needed and stash the rest away.

I'd tell DH (but not DC in your situation).

I'd tell my DC but they are younger so they would just be excited I'd won a competition.

Congrats! I’d tell dh but not kids.

I’d tell my husband but not the children although I’d probably use some of it to treat the family to a meal/day out.

It's subjective.

What counts as a spending spree to you, may not be to other people. I don't call £200 a spending spree at all.

My difference in opinion isn't mean...it's simply a difference.

A £50k salary could be a lot for some, where others see our as low pay.

It’s your prize, you don’t need to tell anyone about it.

If it’s a lot to you then you should definitely keep it

I don't see why you would need to share it out if you tell them. It's your win.

I would definitely tell DH and then maybe give the kids £50 each to spend as they please. If you don't need it for any specific reason then I would arrange a nice day out or something.

Yea, it's subjective, so seeing as the OP has already told us that she'd consider it a spree, what was the point of your post except to belittle her by implying she must shop in 'cheap shops'. You were being shitty and you know it.

It’s not even a months pay check,..

How much of a pay check is it?

Say it is a weeks worth or two weeks worth of earned in a job money.

I work hard each week to earn my money. If someone gave me a weeks worth of money for NOT working that would be pretty special? If I think of every hour I spend in my job to be given some money as a prize would be lovely.

This post could have been answered without folk saying what an insignificant amount of money they feel it is.

As previously stated by me we have a good income but I can still appreciate a £1000 as a prize is a big deal.

But my monthly pay is already allocated to bills. Getting an extra £1000 is a lot of money to me because I definitely to not have that left over after paying for everything!

How rude.

I’d tell DH and we’d decide what to do with it together - maybe go for a nice meal or buy something we need/want and put the rest in savings. We have joint finances though.

Id probably not tell my kids. Maybe I’d give them a bit of cash each or they’d benefit from the meal or another family activity

Id be quite hurt if DH won £1k and kept it a secret from me. Doesn’t mean I want half of it to go out and spend on myself.

And yes it’s a lot of money (to us anyway). Not life changing but enough to make a difference to us

I wouldn’t tell my kids or other people , it is a lovely sum of money and you need time to think what you want to do with it .

I won £3,000 once. Didn’t tell a soul not even the husband, just used it for days out & treats.

Is there any particular reason you won’t tell DH, your DC don’t have to know, but I would find it hard not telling DH.

I really don’t understand why people are saying the kids don’t need to know…I mean nobody needs to know, but why wouldn’t you want to share such nice news so nice with your DC?

What a bunch of tone-deaf arseholes there are on this thread. Especially the "very cheap shops" dick

Congratulations @800metresprint !! That must have been exciting! I’ve never won a competition/on the lottery etc.

Personally, I wouldn’t tell anyone and keep the vast majority of it under the mattress for a truly rainy day (I’ve been divorced twice, security for me and the children is very important to me). I’d probably use a wee bit for a nice family meal out, but that’s it.

I hope you enjoy it, whatever you decide.

For sure I would tell DH. I would also put some away in an emergency fund. This week my boiler broke unexpectedly and I needed a new one. It crossed my mind at the time that I was so fortunate to be in the position to be able to ring up the merchant and have it fitted the next day. That is due to my emergency fund which needs a little pampering right now. Have fun spending the rest either on your family or you. A takeaway, going to the hairdresser or a family day out - enjoy your prize.

I would tell DH, Id be hurt if he won and didn’t tell me. not sure what I’d do with if, maybe holiday money pot? I wouldn’t split with kids but then usually most things I buy benefit them too.

It is a lot to OP though

I’d tell DH. Why wouldn’t you? If a man kept a competition win secret from his wife he would get crucified on here