Does it bother you when someone deletes you from Social media?

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Chatting with a friend today and we somehow discovered that a mutual contact has deleted DFriend from FB.

DF had no idea that this person had deleted them, or when or why they would have done it. I suggested DF asks the person why they deleted her. DF said she wouldn't give it a second thought as she also deletes people if she feels like it.

I on the other hand would be really bothered by someone randomly deleting me for no apparent reason. Especially since we see this mutual contact on a very regular basis. I doubt I'd be able to feel comfortable in their company again.

Would this bother you? I feel I would want to ask them why they suddenly felt the need to remove me as a 'friend' without any obvious reasoning. DF says I'm over thinking the whole situation.

FB is not real life so no, it wouldn't bother me at all. I actually quite frequently find people in my "people you may know" despite being friends with them in the past. They've clearly spring-cleaned their friends list. I should also be doing that more often, I think.

I wouldn't give it s second thought

I would be very unlikely even notice

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Not at all, I like to have a cull now and then myself.

It doesn’t bother me but I don’t accept any friends request from them in the future, in fact I don’t think I’ve accepted any friends requests in about 6 years - not bothered

Why the eye roll?

It would definitely bother me if I was deleted by someone I need to see on a regular basis. Especially if there was no obvious reason for it.

I think it's strange behaviour.

No i sometimes delete. It's just social media

Doesn't bother me although I do block them so they won't see any comments I leave on mutual friends posts.

No because the only social media I do is here and Reddit.

No. I'm not sure I'd even notice.
Maybe someone has.

It doesn’t bother me, but when I do a yearly spring clean of people who don’t interact with me, I do get messages asking why! It seems to be a new thing, I would never do that, but some people want access to all you do

I get more bothered by someone trying to add me 🤣

This has happened to me, I don't care. If it was my best friend I might be a bit miffed and would ask why, but I'm not bothered if a colleague or acquaintance removes me.

It's not strange behaviour. I want to curate what I am seeing online and so do many other people. It's a simple social media hygiene, if you like. Just because you don't think there is an "obvious reason" doesn't mean there isn't one.
If I am seeing the person regularly in real life, why would I need to follow them on the socials at all. Unless they are doing something exciting professionally that I am particularly interested in, there is no need. I don't want hundred's of self-empowerment quotes on my feed that one of my friends was particularly keen on posting. I don't necessarily want endless reposts of the daily mail articles either. And so on.
If you post nothing, then even less reason to keep tabs on you on socials.

I cut back my FB friends last year. My youngest dd left school and there were a lot of school mum acquaintances on there who I’ll never see again. And I also moved away from the UK. It was time for a sort out.

And no it wouldn’t bother me if someone unfriended me either. Life moves on.

@MyfeedTopicsActiveImon it wouldn't bother me.

I muted a friend who started doing this Herbalife diet. She became really obessive and cult-like behaviour, constantly posting these things and reacting really over the top if anyone said anything negative. Almost rude to people. Very unlike her.

She then started going through friend lists and adding friends of friends (some of my friends asked who this woman was that was requesting being friends) then spamming them with offers for this diet shake stuff. I decided to delete her as its like she had a personality transplant.

If people delete me then that's fine. Perhaps i annoy them. Perhaps they just don't want to follow me any more. I'm ok with that.

No because I’m not 12 years old and prefer real life relationships as opposed to online ones.

It’s only bothered me on one occasion when I couldn’t see a reason. I no longer have Facebook anyway so I don’t care.

Maybe she's just not interested in the stuff your friend posts. You're reaction is quite strange.

If someone started questioning me about why I deleted them then told me they couldn't feel comfortable around me because of that, I'd ditch them as a friend completely.

I delete people off social media all the time. Lots of reasons, mostly we just don’t talk anymore for whatever reason (barely knew each other in the first place, an old colleague, etc) but sometimes it’s people’s posting behaviours and I just don’t wanna see it anymore. So likewise if someone removes me I just don’t care.

It would have bothered me 10
years ago, but not now. Facebook is such a bin fire these days I probably wouldn’t even notice.

In amongst all the sponsored stuff, what their algorithms want me to see about politics and the general autoplay shite, I don't think I'd notice if anybody had deleted me because I never see anything beyond yet another ad on the grounds that somebody I went to school with liked that product (or whatever was on that account before it was taken over by some company). I don't even see the check ins to hospitals or Snakes everywear/whats up hun/dm me anymore.

I don’t look at FB anymore, so I wouldn’t notice.
A good few years ago a friend unfriended me…
Well pissed off when I turned up on a night out.
She seethed in silence as I chatted to the gang.

I wouldn't notice.

Think it would depend. For the most part no. But if it was e.g. a really close friend or relative then I would certainly wonder.

I culled about 60 friends from FB when I came out of hospital. Some people who I’d not spoken to in years so there seemed little point, some people who claimed to be my friends but who never once showed any kind of support while I was in hospital or when I came out. I wasn’t expecting anything huge, but a hello text occasionally perhaps? Never so much as a word, You certainly find out who your friends are….

So I binned them, either they’ve never noticed, or they really were the friends I thought they weren’t iyswim.

One of them I wasn’t overly surprised as she’s really quite self absorbed. But the other one did surprise me as he didn’t ever seem the type. But ah well.