Does it bother you when someone deletes you from Social media?

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Chatting with a friend today and we somehow discovered that a mutual contact has deleted DFriend from FB.

DF had no idea that this person had deleted them, or when or why they would have done it. I suggested DF asks the person why they deleted her. DF said she wouldn't give it a second thought as she also deletes people if she feels like it.

I on the other hand would be really bothered by someone randomly deleting me for no apparent reason. Especially since we see this mutual contact on a very regular basis. I doubt I'd be able to feel comfortable in their company again.

Would this bother you? I feel I would want to ask them why they suddenly felt the need to remove me as a 'friend' without any obvious reasoning. DF says I'm over thinking the whole situation.

So, you aren’t upset by something that “eats you up inside”?

I'm not upset over anything because it didn't happen to me.

I was speaking on terms how how I think I would feel

Chatting with a friend today and we somehow discovered that a mutual contact has deleted DFriend from FB.
DF had no idea that this person had deleted them

So, do you mean you told her? 😁

I’ve never done an FB cull ever…
All the people from 15 years ago are still there. I think!

Yes I told her? How else would we have worked it out?

No. I frequently remove people. FB reminders telling me it's someone's birthday is usually a reminder that they don't really feature much in my life and that's when I usually delete.

I'm finding these random character assassination attempts a little odd on this post.

I'm not sure why posters are making out that I'm hiding something. I've been completely transparent.

My friend agrees that it's not a big deal and I agree that I would be more sensitive over being deleted. That's it really 🤷

YABU and really overthinking it at the end of the day it’s just Facebook it’s not real life someone unfriending you is really not that deep. I do it all the time when I just don’t care enough to want to know what’s going on in the life of a virtual stranger and I’m sure people
have done it to me and I don’t care.

Have occasionally wondered how a friend is and noticed I haven’t seen their posts.
I certainly don’t give it too much headspace. Have probably been muted but am at a stage in life where I don’t actually care 🤦‍♀️

It would depend on who it was for me. If it was someone I saw a lot of, id want to know why, in case I’d pissed them Off inadvertently, if it was just someone I went to school with or whatever and we didn’t really interact then no.

I accidentally blocked a work colleague and she asked me why and I had absolutely no knowledge of id done it - or how

I blocked an in law who was really bothered and was asking around the family but she had pissed me off . I would pretend it was an accident as I hate her posts and dint want to see them

I blocked people who post their holidays as I can’t afford one and I block people who brag about their kids school achievements as mine are sEN and it makes me jealous - same with home improvement

one old uni friend was dying snd posting her demise everyday

what you think is a great post is another persons mental health problem all the people I unfriended I’d speak to nicely in real life I just don’t want to see their posts

It bothers me a bit OP but then I suffer quite badly with anxiety which leads to overthinking. I gradually saw a pattern on FB where work colleagues that had left would unfriend me but not anybody else from the store that was on their list. It wasn’t always as soon as they had left though. One ex colleague removed me from her list a good few years afterwards. Then I remembered that my DSil’s sister admitted that she had removed me because of the amount of stuff I posted. I believe there have been other reasons for unfriending me but I would say how much I put on FB is probably the main one. I am better these days!

I agree you are overthinking the whole thing.

It sounds like it might be wise for you to spend less time on social media if you're in so deep that you check other people's friends lists.

I don’t use it any more mostly for this reason really but it did used to upset me. I used it heavily in my 20s and had self esteem issues. At one point I downloaded a third party checker to see who had unfollowed me. It’s toxic.

I think that’s because you are contradicting what you initially said. That you would be really bothered and uncomfortable in their presence and you would have to ask them about it and it would eat you up inside.

Then you are saying it would not upset you.

There is nothing wrong with it upsetting you but you say it hasn’t which doesn’t make a lot of sense due to what you have already said.

It would bother me if it was someone i saw regularly and we were friends. Someone from my past it wouldn’t bother me at all.

I’m not on FB but if it was a close friend or old friend I’d want to know why. If I hadn’t done anything wrong I’d wonder whether maybe the stuff I was posting was annoying them, and then I’d probably have a deep think about whether my posting style was annoying (overly opinionated / political / over sharing / boasting) and possibly do something to redress it.
Sometimes though, it’s about them and not you.

Would not bother me at all, tbh i probably wouldnt even notice. Irl connections are the only ones that really matter imo

I’d find it awkward if someone I saw regularly unfriended me on social media. It’s a weird thing for them to unfriend rather than just muting, in the social media etiquette among my circles/age group.

I have social media contacts who are the social media equivalent of my mum’s “Christmas card friends”. Used to be close, would like to be close in future if our life circumstances changed. It would definitely sting to find out those people don’t feel the same.

If it was someone I never saw and never interacted with, I wouldn’t take it as an insult.

I would wonder who is still paying so much attention to Facebook that they are curating their friends still. It’s dying dead and I look at it infrequently. It seems to bemoan popular with 70+ now

*be more

I'm not on it so would be more irritated if someone added me.

I’m not sure how you would even know, certainly wouldn’t be bothered, but I’m no great lover of fb anyway

Who still uses Facebook? Most people don’t post personal stuff on it any more.

It might bother me if it was a close friend who I saw regularly IRL. Otherwise I wouldn’t notice probably. So many social media contacts are obsolete.