Does it bother you when someone deletes you from Social media?

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Chatting with a friend today and we somehow discovered that a mutual contact has deleted DFriend from FB.

DF had no idea that this person had deleted them, or when or why they would have done it. I suggested DF asks the person why they deleted her. DF said she wouldn't give it a second thought as she also deletes people if she feels like it.

I on the other hand would be really bothered by someone randomly deleting me for no apparent reason. Especially since we see this mutual contact on a very regular basis. I doubt I'd be able to feel comfortable in their company again.

Would this bother you? I feel I would want to ask them why they suddenly felt the need to remove me as a 'friend' without any obvious reasoning. DF says I'm over thinking the whole situation.

I doubt id notice. If it was someone I spend a lot of time with and am close to I'd assume it was by accident if it was someone I haven't spoken to in 20 years I would see there point

It wouldn’t bother me. I have never noticed that I’ve been deleted by someone but I’m sure I must have been. I get rid of people all the time. If I wouldn’t stop to talk to them in the street I remove them. I would expect other people to do the same to me. Why would you want to share information or photos with someone you don’t know anymore.

I’m old. I don’t cull anyone on mine, I don’t use it much and never update my status, put pics on it etc. I like to keep it really for extended family but I give “likes and loves” to everyone on there that I know and see. I occasionally think I haven’t seen X pop up for a while and when I search their name, I see they’ve got rid of me lol but can’t say I’m too bothered. Well not bothered at all really. But it’s only happened with past colleagues and one distant family member. I don’t know how I’d feel if it was someone that I’m really close to see really regularly. but even then, I’m not sure I’d be motivated enough to ask them about it. It’s their choice.

No because I feel as adult i realise not everything is about me they may have their own reasons

A so called friend fell out with me. I didn’t know why or what I was supposed to have done because he wouldn’t tell me and found out he had immediately deleted me on SM. It made me laugh because it was so childish. He never posted anyway and I see him every single day so I inwardly smirk when I see him as he can’t delete me as easily as he thinks.

i have deleted people for a number of reasons when I was on it. Still spoke to them but couldn’t be bothered with the silly posts over sharing. Deleted someone based on the food posts they shared every day. No one cares what you have for dinner. Not bad people but they honestly thought some of the stuff posted and shared was needed. Did delete one person because she shared photos of her baby naked and felt uncomfortable seeing her posts. Last straw was a post with photo of her unclothed child sat on a potty and another of his poo.

No but I drop people quite often.

I occasionally have a cull and delete people i have only met once or not spoken to for a while, no point keeping people i don't really know. Forget it, social media isn't the be-all and end-all of friendship.

No, because I cull too sometimes.

I delete people I don’t see or interact with but I do find it odd when people you get on with and see regularly delete you, it’s a bit awkward.

It does bother me, I am an overthinker so worry about all these scenarios that could have happened to make them delete me when in reality I know it's probably just because we haven't spoken in a while and they have cleaned up their friendship list

It would bother me op. I'm really sensitive rejection- pathetic I know but I'm working on it. I wish I could be more like those people who wouldn't bat an eye

Nah wouldn’t bother me. I’ve deleted people too over the years.

It didn’t upset me as such, but did make me go, “Ooook…?🫤” My stepmum’s sister.

No. Everyone has a cull on occasion. Especially this time of year.

Wouldn’t bother me. However I do regularly delete people from my social media, I delete people who I don’t speak to either online or in real life for a while. I don’t want nosey bastards getting snippets of my life, I want to share it with family and real friends.

I wouldn't notice or care. I know I have fewer FB friends now than I did have. I couldn't be bothered trying to check who has unfriended me.

I delete people all the time, if I’ve not seen or spoken to you in the last few years there is no need to show you my life.

I probably wouldnt notice unless they were someone who l was close to.
l keep my Facebook friends to people l actually speak to in real life so delete old work colleagues , lapsed friends occasionally. I problem would wonder if a friend l often spoke to deleted me, but then l would just ask them?

I can understand deleting people that you no longer see or speak with, that's understandable. But it's a bit awkward when you need to see this person almost daily.

You are all much stronger than me. I think the not knowing why would eat me up.

I have no idea who deletes me or not i dont check but if you are genuinely upset by this get help it cant be normal

Bit extreme lol

Eta, I haven't said I'm upset over this? Only that it would bother me and be a bit awkward if I still had to see a person that deleted me without knowing the reason.

You said this in your opening post

I on the other hand would be really bothered by someone randomly deleting me for no apparent reason. Especially since we see this mutual contact on a very regular basis. I doubt I'd be able to feel comfortable in their company again.

That would seem to suggest a level of 'upset' way beyond what is normal.

I mean, I can't say I'd notice if someone deleted me, but if they did, and I somehow found out (how?) that's fine - there's all sorts of reasons people might not find what I post interesting.

I think you’ve had some harsh (and unrepresentative replies). Yes, if it was someone I’d had no contact with in 15 years then it wouldn’t bother me. But if a friend or someone I’d got on very well in the past with (even if I saw them a lot less), unfriended me, I would be sad and wonder what I’d done to upset them.

I imagine most people would. In general, people like to be liked.

Being bothered by something and being upset by something are two completely different things.

But ohh well, it wasn't me that was deleted so it's completely irrelevant.

My friend seems to side with most of you anyway. I'm obviously more sensitive to these things than what she is.