To think baby change facilities should just be for that?

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Just returned from a supermarket, baby needed changing so I popped to the baby change, it was locked, so I waited… and waited for around 15 minutes.

I just assumed someone may be feeding their baby or something so I just patiently waited until the door opened and out walked a middle aged man who had absolutely stunk the place out so I gagged as I walked in and had to change baby in the stench he’d left behind.
I couldn’t go anywhere else and I really had to change the baby.
The baby change is situated next to the gents but he obviously wanted the privacy of the baby change which he occupied for at least 15 minutes and however long before I arrived.

This is super annoying when you have a baby with you and need the toilet though. I hate baby changes with no toilet.

"But what if the disabled toilet is in use? Sometimes people really can’t wait. Do you really begrudge someone having a poo if they can’t hold it in?"

And if it is due to a disability then using the loo in the baby change is a reasonable adjustment anyway.

Well yes because it says baby change on the door with an illustration.
The disabled toilet says disabled with an illustration.
The ladies says ladies with an illustration.
The gents says gents with an illustration.

There’s toilets in the gents but that doesn’t mean I would use them if the ladies were occupied, I’d be expected to queue.
There is quite often a queue for the ladies in the town but not for the gents.

People who poo on the wall and ceilings should clean up after themselves! I can't even think of what disability would cause that, when we all know its actually just disgusting people rather than a disability.

That is NOT fair on a cleaner, or anyone else to leave.

Yes, yes the man may have had a hidden disability and the disabled loo might have been occupied and he might have needed to go urgently, but realistically he was probably just an entitled shit.

None of us have any idea either way, though, do we? People are assuming the worst of him on here, without any knowledge. Even OP was trying to shame him for the fact that his poo stinks, as if that's somehow unique to him - like baby change areas somehow don't also stink if the baby has had a poonami.

He may have been a horrible entitled person and, with no other reason, decided to use the baby change deliberately to make life harder for a parent - more likely a mum. Then again, the only cubicle in the men's and/or the disabled toilet could have been out of order and/or occupied and a staff member told him to use the toilet in the baby change which, if he wasn't a father of a very young child himself, he probably wouldn't even have known contained a toilet.

I agree that it's not fair on a cleaner or other user; but you also can't just dismiss the possibility of a physical or mental disability, just because it isn't one that you're personally experienced in.

Even if somebody didn't give a stuff for anybody else except themselves, do you think they personally would want to be in a toilet cubicle with poo smeared all around it? And would they want to touch the poo (even after lining their hands with a bit of bog roll) in order to smear it? I think the likelihood of severe SEN and/or mental health issues must be very high.

Whilst it's clearly very unpleasant for the rest of us, would you prefer to have mental agency and occasionally encounter something like this, or to be that person who has to live that very limited life every single day?

Toilets do get stinky, as do baby change facilities though. You can't really complain about that.

If have incontinence issues, then you often have a minute or so between realising you need to go and going whether you like it or not. Unless there were infinite disabled toilets, then judging whether there were "adequate facilities" means you would have to know whether the disabled toilet was free when he got there or not. Since it sounds like you didn't rock up there until after he was in the toilet, you need to stop making judgments that you simply don't have the knowledge to make.

Yes and if someone is that impaired they would have a carer with them. Or should do. Who’s literally paid to clean poo off the ceiling if that’s what their client needs. Supermarket staff aren’t paid to do that.

If it was a mother with two 12 year olds and a toddler and they were half an hour and the place stunk because they all had a stomach upset. Would you even be talking about it. There is a loo there someone used it would you be less angry if he had a child with him or if it was a woman and baby. If so your issue is him been male and entitled and not someone else making the place smell