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In wanting Mumsnet to help Judi Dench and Joanna Lumley

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GiantBranch · 08/01/2026 18:55

Last week, Israel banned 37 international aid organisations from operating in the strip, including Oxfam, Save the Children and Medicine Sans Frontieres (MSF). MSF delivers one in three of Gaza’s babies, and experts warn that immediate action must be taken to prevent a catastrophe.

It has prompted more than 100 leading members of the arts, including Dames Judi Dench, Imelda Staunton, Joanna Lumley, Sienna Miller, Suranne Jones and singer Paloma Faith, to sign a letter urging popular online platform Mumsnet to join them in demanding urgent government action ensuring maternity care is accessible in Gaza.

www.independent.co.uk/news/world/middle-east/gaza-israel-baby-birth-judi-dench-letter-b2896981.html

International aid groups grapple with what Israel's ban will mean for their work in Gaza

Israel has revoked the licenses of more than three dozen humanitarian organizations, and now those groups are grappling with how that will affect aid operations in Gaza

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/israel-united-nations-norwegian-refugee-council-palestinians-doctors-without-borders-b2894091.html

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Twiglets1 · 12/01/2026 08:23

Clementi · 12/01/2026 08:21

It is very much ‘support my ill-thought out cause, on behalf of your users that we are not going to bother engaging with, or we will expose you to all as a heartless witch who doesn’t care about vulnerable newborns/cute fluffy things’

Sums it up.

ArabellaScott · 12/01/2026 08:24

It's signalling. Ineffective timewasting at best.

BIossomtoes · 12/01/2026 08:34

Nyeaccident · 12/01/2026 08:22

Well if it existed as an open letter in the press I imagine it would be easy to find

If you don't know that it exists then you can't run that as an argument

I didn’t “run it as an argument”. I simply said we don’t know if such a letter exists or not when someone suggested it would be a better approach. 🤷‍♀️

All this kerfuffle about a bloody letter.

Genericfestiveusername · 12/01/2026 08:36

Clementi · 11/01/2026 17:05

Why shouldn’t members of Mumsnet object to being used to support Hamas just because you cannot see the manipulation?

You have to do a lot of manipulative mental gymnastics to spin people caring about women and children trapped in a warzone where the majority of casualties have been women and children and where pregnant women are sometimes undergoing c sections with no anaesthesia into supporting Hamas. Absolutely disgusting. It's coercive control to ask someone to express support for maternity care but it's not coercive to say "if you care about these women you are supporting terrorists?" Shameless

Genericfestiveusername · 12/01/2026 08:37

Twiglets1 · 11/01/2026 18:21

They don't think they do but by criticising Israel as enthusiastically as they do, they play right into the hands of Hamas.

Considering how many Jewish people are critical of Israeli policy this is a disgusting thing to say. Shame on you.

Nyeaccident · 12/01/2026 08:37

BIossomtoes · 12/01/2026 08:34

I didn’t “run it as an argument”. I simply said we don’t know if such a letter exists or not when someone suggested it would be a better approach. 🤷‍♀️

All this kerfuffle about a bloody letter.

If it was an open letter we would know that it existed. If it wasn't an open letter then that begs the question why Justine was treated differently

It's not a trivial point at all.

Genericfestiveusername · 12/01/2026 08:41

MrsOvertonsWindow · 11/01/2026 22:21

Posters are addressing the issue you raised in your OP about the luvvies "signing a letter urging popular online platform Mumsnet to join them in demanding urgent government action ensuring maternity care is accessible in Gaza"

Ironically you're showcasing precisely what will happen to Justine if she doesn't fawningly agree with them. She'll be framed as "uncaring about pregnant women in Gaza".
Which is exactly what many of your responses are to posters addressing the flaws in this rather arrogant letter. Ignoring their legitimate criticisms of the letter and wailing that they're just uncaring about pregnant women.

Odd you can't see that. 🙄

Except posters arguing that this is the intention are doing this exact behaviour of accusing anyone who does support this cause as "supporting Hamas" which is completely baseless. If Justine doesn't want to express support for the cause saying she didn't want to publically support it is at least an accurate representation of the situation but it's not the same as leaping to "Justine supports Netenyahu" which is the extreme manipulative twisting people are doing (and it's unsurprising WHO is doing it) n this thread.

The hive mind continues to prevail.

suggestionsplease1 · 12/01/2026 08:46

How unsurprising, Feminism and Women's Rights board posters leading the charge against getting humanitarian aid to mothers and babies in warzones.

Guess it detracts from their anti trans obsession.

Clementi · 12/01/2026 08:48

suggestionsplease1 · 12/01/2026 08:46

How unsurprising, Feminism and Women's Rights board posters leading the charge against getting humanitarian aid to mothers and babies in warzones.

Guess it detracts from their anti trans obsession.

How unsurprising FWR board posters recognised manipulation when they see it.

ReapTheWhirlwind · 12/01/2026 08:49

suggestionsplease1 · 12/01/2026 08:46

How unsurprising, Feminism and Women's Rights board posters leading the charge against getting humanitarian aid to mothers and babies in warzones.

Guess it detracts from their anti trans obsession.

I certainly have done no such thing. What an appallingly inaccurate accusation.

Twiglets1 · 12/01/2026 08:54

Genericfestiveusername · 12/01/2026 08:37

Considering how many Jewish people are critical of Israeli policy this is a disgusting thing to say. Shame on you.

Why is it a disgusting thing to say? Hamas love any show of support from the West. They were delighted when Keir Starmer promised to recognise Palestine (with no mention of securing hostage releases first).

A senior Hamas official crowed, “ victory and liberation are closer than we expected”.

I’m in favour of a 2 state solution but not in the middle of a war when Hamas were still at the time holding all those Israeli hostages (mostly civilians). It’s one thing to criticise the Israeli government’s policy on certain things, quite another to criticise Israel as often and as enthusiastically as many people do in the West.

ArabellaScott · 12/01/2026 08:55

ReapTheWhirlwind · 12/01/2026 08:49

I certainly have done no such thing. What an appallingly inaccurate accusation.

As I said, the whole thing is a weak attempt to malign site users.

Ellen2shoes · 12/01/2026 08:56

We have no idea how many letters these people have written personally. No
open letter to YC but agree it would be a good idea.

We have no idea if these people have engaged on Mumsnet or not do we - or am I missing something?
Many more people read than comment. I don’t personally know anyone else that comments on here and have myself only started posting in the last year after 12 silent ones.

I wonder why it is that when someone tries to speak up for women in Gaza or Palestine, it must be virtue signalling. Why can’t it be that they simply want to help? Using a high profile to benefit others should be encouraged not disparaged surely.

As the OP said, perhaps they didn’t expect women’s maternity healthcare to be so divisive. It is weird.

Twiglets1 · 12/01/2026 08:56

ReapTheWhirlwind · 12/01/2026 08:49

I certainly have done no such thing. What an appallingly inaccurate accusation.

It’s the usual playbook of resorting to personal attacks when they their argument fails to convince.

suggestionsplease1 · 12/01/2026 09:00

ArabellaScott · 12/01/2026 08:55

As I said, the whole thing is a weak attempt to malign site users.

I think some site users are doing a pretty good job of showing themselves up all by themselves.

Ellen2shoes · 12/01/2026 09:05

Twiglets1 · 12/01/2026 08:56

It’s the usual playbook of resorting to personal attacks when they their argument fails to convince.

Whose usual playbook? Who are they and their? Who are you actually talking about?

Clementi · 12/01/2026 09:09

suggestionsplease1 · 12/01/2026 08:46

How unsurprising, Feminism and Women's Rights board posters leading the charge against getting humanitarian aid to mothers and babies in warzones.

Guess it detracts from their anti trans obsession.

Back to your omnicause….

Twiglets1 · 12/01/2026 09:09

Ellen2shoes · 12/01/2026 09:05

Whose usual playbook? Who are they and their? Who are you actually talking about?

The people who resort to personal attacks instead of debating properly.

The kind of posters who on the CITME board get lots of posts deleted for personal attacks on other posters who they disagree with.

You hang out on that board too so must see all the deletions.

quantumbutterfly · 12/01/2026 09:22

Clementi · 12/01/2026 08:48

How unsurprising FWR board posters recognised manipulation when they see it.

If your Spidey senses don't tingle when you see

' 'feminists on fwr don't care about mums and babies because they're obsessed with trans',

then you've never tried to reason with a toddler. (Quite sensible actually - sometimes you just shouldn't engage)

Ellen2shoes · 12/01/2026 09:25

@Twiglets1 I don’t see any personal attacks or deletions here. One poster referred to posters generally from another board much as you have just done.

Twiglets1 · 12/01/2026 09:27

Ellen2shoes · 12/01/2026 09:25

@Twiglets1 I don’t see any personal attacks or deletions here. One poster referred to posters generally from another board much as you have just done.

Edited

None on here yet but the chat which has generally been quite polite beginning to descent into personal attacks which are quite unnecessary.

5MinuteArgument · 12/01/2026 09:33

It would be inappropriate for Justine to support this letter on behalf of mumsnet.

There's a huge range of views on this site and the assumption of the letter writing luvvies is that mumsnetters are left-leaning social justice campaigners, which some are, but by no means all.

Clementi · 12/01/2026 09:41

5MinuteArgument · 12/01/2026 09:33

It would be inappropriate for Justine to support this letter on behalf of mumsnet.

There's a huge range of views on this site and the assumption of the letter writing luvvies is that mumsnetters are left-leaning social justice campaigners, which some are, but by no means all.

It was an open letter because they assume the contrary to so wanted to force Justine’s hand or show her up.

ArabellaScott · 12/01/2026 09:49

'Come up, accept your little award, thank your agent, and your God, and fuck off'

Ellen2shoes · 12/01/2026 09:54

Why so nasty?