Would you inform the school?

[Winterstorms2]

My friend recently got into an argument with her friend. The argument started off as a conversation which quickly turned into an argument, (my friends friend accusing her of things, name calling her etc) in the end my friend was spat at. She was horrified but does not want to do anything about it. My friend’s “friend” is a teacher. AIBU to think my friend should inform the school of this behaviour? Im tempted to do so myself! Our children both attend the school she teaches at. What would you feelings be?

I wonder how the responses would go if a child spat at a teacher!
What action would a teacher take?
What action would a school take?
What would the discussions be like with the parents of the child?

Was the issue in regards to a parent/teacher issue? Or was it personal as they were friends? If it was personal and happened off school grounds I'm not really sure what the school would do? Personally I wouldn't report it to the police as I don't think they would do much, could even make things difficult at school for the child, but I suppose that's up to your friend x

If a child spat at a teacher ? Child would be suspended or possibly Permanently excluded depending on the schools behaviour policy (bearing in mind a school child isn't an adult) Letter to parents, child removed from school either for time specified on suspension or permanently to a different provision from the 6th day.... Etc etc ...
A child spitting at a teacher isn't handled the same way as its not a criminal assault.
Common assault is anything which could make anyone be in fear of even potential violence. Neither friend or OP can gain anything by trying to report directly to the school. The police will decide who needs to be notified then the school evoke their employment policies.

Maybe the teacher shouldn’t have assaulted someone by spitting at them? Any ruining of life was done by herself and her actions

Police informing the school is exactly the same as police informing any employees place of employment about what has been alleged. Because said person is in 'a position of trust' the employer (in this case the school) can decide to suspend the employee pending investigation. It's the same as you or I having an argument, one of us spitting at the other and the person being spat at deciding they want to report to the police. OP can't report it and no employer would act on second hand information. At this point in time it's an allegation so even schools can't 'sack' someone.

It’s really tedious when people try to create their own narrative on a post. You either take the op on face value or you go down a million rabbit holes coming up with your own theories. What’s the point?

The scrabbling about to somehow try to defend the woman who spat (oh maybe the friend did it first - despite us having absolutely no reason to believe this was the case) is crazy. Why can’t people just admit it’s disgusting and wrong and that she should face the consequences?

Can you imagine the reaction and responses on here if this had happened when covid was rife? You would have wanted the teachers head!!

it is a bad season for flu and sickness bugs, as well as being assault and disgusting, there are so many diseases that she could have spread. What the hell was she thinking? I do think the school need to know about this.

It's your friend, not you, so don't involve yourself. If she wants to take it further that's up to her. You weren't there, always 2 sides, why being a teacher is different to any other job? I'm sure if she spat at work it would be dealt with, as any other profession.

I'm not creating a narrative nor defending anyone. I'm pointing out inconsistencies in the OP's storytelling. Why don't you take 5mins and actually read what I wrote? I didn't say "maybe the friend spat first". I said that OP's changing account suggests, for example that the friend was also unpleasant (and gave an example of an unpleasant action) or that OP was trying to drum up sympathy because she'd been called out on her bad attitude.

If you read all my posts, I actually did suggest the friend go to the police if she feels she was actually assaulted.

The number of people who read what they want to read and take offense where there is none as a result is also crazy.

I know. Time after time people have said spitting is horrible and friend should consider going to police. No one is condoning this.

I agree re the inconsistencies. OP was asked early in thread if she disliked this teacher prior to this incident. Her answer was 'I didnt , until she spat'. Then she stated that this teacher had been bullying and intimidating and causing 'hell and havoc' for ages, acting like she was 'untouchable', was a really awful person who had caused much distress. But at the same time she wasn't concerned enough to raise a complaint to head, so can't have been that bad?

There are still no inconsistencies here,
“Then she stated that this teacher had been bullying and intimidating and causing 'hell and havoc' for ages, acting like she was 'untouchable', was a really awful person who had caused much distress. “

indeed all of the above is true.

“Good lord. Teachers are people. They are varied, like the rest of the population. Some of them aren't that nice. Some of them get up to all kinds of things outside of school! There already aren't nearly enough teachers. If you're holding out for all teachers to be morally irreproachable, I'm afraid you're being wildly unrealistic.”

please excuse me… but this sounds suspiciously like condoning spitting…

Well, given that 592 people, and only 89 think you're reasonable to date, I'd say there is a very good chance the police will think the person reporting this is wasting their time.

Yet you stated that prior to this incident you did not dislike this lady, until she spat. Which is it?

592 people think I would be unreasonable to report it to the school. They have therefore suggested my friend reporting it to the police would be better.

true, the spitting unleashed a severe disgust in me I must admit.

Glad to be of service 😉 btw, I thought your last post as you so dramatically declared was a good few posts back… but your back 😂

Except it really doesn't 🤣

Wait... OP did you once also have a teacher hit on you whilst out clubbing?

You're giving me similar vibes...

Are you 4?

If someone spat at me, I'd report them to the police, and take it from there. If they choose not to act like a civilised person, they deserve everything they get.

You might be bitterly disappointed, OP. CCTV is rarely of the quality that the public seem to believe it is. It is possible that someone spitting won't be detectable on the images. Also, bearing in mind that this is likely to be regarded as common assault - which is a minor crime - the police may well decide to take no action. One of my sons was assaulted - not spat on, his cheekbone was fractured - and there were witnesses. No charges were brought. "Not in the public interest".