MIL arriving this week, house a mess

[Janblues28]

We've been away for Christmas, got back Sunday and straight into work/school. MIL comes to stay at the end of the week. Normally we have a cleaner but she's not available. DH works part time - maybe does 2/3 hours work per day. I'm full time also do lions share of parenting DS (has ASD and im the preferred parent). DH has no plans to clean house, make the bed before his mum arrives. I'm so angry that he's a lazy a**hole but also don't feel i can leave it in a mess before she arrives. Ordinarily I'd clean up on the weekend. Do i leave it? I don't see why I should do it and realistically means I will be cleaning/organising 6pm to 10pm tomorrow night.

As above, your update regarding your husband suddenly cleaning etc perfectly shows that he does, in fact, ‘see’ what needs doing and he can do it without being told, he just doesn’t want to. He’d rather treat you as the unpaid, unappreciated help. As for your statement that there’s ’no malice’ in his useless, bone idle behaviour then following that almost immediately with the fact he’ll tell his mother it’s all your fault… sounds pretty malicious to me!! Fucking prick.
Well done you for not bowing down and doing it all anyway. You deserve better!

Good for you on not caving in and helping with the last minute clean.

Can you invent some sort of work emergency where you are needed away? Still book the hotel and have at least 36 hours to yourself. DH and MIL will be fine with your son for that time. Do IT!