Report this staff member at school?

[Bellee108]

I came into the school at lunch time, visitor to the school. It was end of lunch. Over heard lunch time supervisor saying all the children are feral and then ‘I think half of them are inbred’?

As it wasn't said to a child and you were just eavesdropping I'd leave it. Not a nice thing to say but also it wasn't intended to be heard.

YANBU, I cannot fucking stand uppity non-teaching staff, the ones at my DS’s school are awful and total bullies, and my nephew who has ADHD and autism was terrified of going to his school (different school in another part of the country) because of the nastiness of the TAs and lunchtime supervisors, and ended up being off for 2 full terms.

I can’t believe people are saying she must have had a bad day. So what - pull yourself together and keep the words inside! It’s day 2 of the new term and you’re talking about children within earshot of parents. No excuses to make such horrible insults. If school staff hate children so much they need to leave that job, not be validated by people who got some reason think that having a low paid job entitles you to nastiness

I wouldn't report anything but the inbred comment wouldn't have racist overtones where I live.

Inbred doesn't necessarily mean that the parents are siblings! I have taught classes where many of the children were cousins or the children of cousins. To the point where it was genuinely concerning, because the children were inheriting physical differences/disabilities.
No, the LTA shouldn't have said it but it could well be accurate.

No necessarily 50% or parents who are siblings, but it is well know that in certain areas there are families that marry cousins etc, and in these areas in the maternity department there will be a midwife assigned to such families ( close marriage midwife ) it has a different name because the NHS cannot be seen to draw attention to it........................

Did anyone else hear this ?

If not, then I am sure you can see how your "report" may come across.

And if someone else did hear it, what is their opinion ? Why are they not reporting it ?

"You really think that 50% of the children have parents who are siblings?"

Inbred is an insult used where I live about people from other small towns. It's considered pretty mild.

Why is it racist to comment that in certain areas there is evidence of marriage between cousins? Why is it racist to state that in some areas there are midwives who deal with such eventualities?

Yes I’m sure she was just striking up a non-bitchy conversation about the demographic of the pupils 🙄

It doesn't have to be siblings to be inbred.

There was a local news article a few years ago that I remember, where for the first time in the school's history, every child starting reception had the same surname. Nobody's parents were siblings, but if that's happening in your population, inbreeding is happening at some level!

We all have shit days, and if the kids were being particularly wild, any one of us could make a throwaway comment to a colleague that we wouldn't say to someone else. Who here hasn't said something in private in anger that they wouldn't want taken out of context and reported.

Why are you assuming it was said in front of a parent, the OP said she was visiting, she could be visiting as a professional, not a parent.

It was said within earshot of a non-staff member then. Does it matter?

It’s so disappointing to see so many people downplay this. To say children”must be inbred” is a nasty, classist and possible racist insult. When we hear of adults behaving awfully to children, everyone goes “How did nobody stop it?!”
Now here is the OP, trying to do something about a horrible and prejudiced woman, and everyone is going “But think how you would look OP”. Well, if you do that you’re part of the problem.

BTW I worked in a school for 3 years and never once made nasty comments about the children. Nobody did, it would not have been tolerated. We’d say we were fed up, they were particularly difficult today? But never ever anything like “I bet half of them were inbred”. You didn’t get personal was the unspoken rule.

Yes of course you should report.
What a horrible and offensive way to speak about anybody. I can only imagine that the school have more than one member of staff that behave (and think this way) so if you can, i would flag it up but, also maybe flag it up to the board of governors too.

She could still be staff?? Visiting another school.

It was a comment between colleagues, have you never said anything untoward to a colleague?

Not in front of visitors I haven’t, And never ever about children.

She may be a colleague in another school in which case she’s in an even better place to report a fellow staff member and hold them to higher standards. School staff are consistently encouraged to report alarming behaviour from colleagues.

Yes I agree, the same here. It is used as a jokey insult about people from a town that is smaller and perceived as being a bit more backward than your own.

In the town where I have lived for the last 40 years the target of this joke is a neighbouring town. I worked in that town for several years and discovered they make the same joke about an even smaller town a few miles away.

Where I originally came from the butt of this joke was, well, the village I came from! TBF I did have a lot of cousins in the area! Our village was so small and remote that we didn't have many places we could look down on but there was a little hamlet of about twenty house that sometimes got mentioned in that context. Actually I think I had ancestors from there....

Was that in Nuneaton lol

"YANBU, I cannot fucking stand uppity non-teaching staff."

Uppity is also an unpleasant word to use.

Not when you’re being uppity it isn’t

But saying inbred in wrong when in some schools/areas it is an accurate representation of the cohort?

I don't get why Feral is ok but PP are getting so worked up over Inbred

And I think you'll find most people who work with children will have called them feral, bastards, little shits etc at some point

It wasn't said TO the children. Let it go

It wasn't like she was standing on a stage making a speech about the pupils to an audience. If you eavesdrop you never hear anything good. Just having a bad day and a moan, she didn't actually mean any of it literally, just letting off steam. Would you prefer 'the little darlings were all having a a mental health crisis today possibly mass hysteria, we must get another psychologist on the team.'

Oh and all the cousin marriages I know are white...

For those claiming inbred is rascist

If anything it's more likely to be abelist because it's being used to suggest some mental health issue or physical disability

I suspect in this case it was going hand in hand with feral to mean "acting like animals"

She was letting off steam in a private conversation. Why are you so keen to snitch?

Is she good at her job otherwise? Treats the kids fine? If the answer is yes then mind your own business.