Would you tell your ex that you are pregnant?

[emilytr]

2 weeks ago I ended things. Dated for 2 years married for 4 Today I found out I’m pregnant . We talk but only about our son. I do not want to get back with him and I also don’t want to say anything to him. The only reason why it’s being considered is because I have really bad nausea. I work 2 jobs moved away from family years ago. I have friends that I’m positive would help if I needed it. Am I going about this the wrong way?

the reason why I left was because of the constant arguing, him putting everything before us and I got tired.

Are you going to continue the pregnancy?

This is probably the most important factor in whether to tell him or not
Is he likely to want to get back together if you tell him

I’m sorry if this makes any readers upset, but right now I’m leaning towards not going through with the pregnancy. I’m not sure how I’d manage.

No..We are done. At least I am.

Thanks for your response.

If you don’t intend to continue then I wouldn’t tell him
There is a possibility that he would want to give the relationship another try if he knew
Why do you think you should tell him

If you are going to terminate the pregnancy then no, I wouldn’t tell him. No reason for him to know and he may try and influence your decision. Do what’s right for you OP.

Only tell him if you are planning on continuing the pregnancy. Otherwise keep quiet.

the nausea I experienced had me bed bound. Only for help if my friends are not able to help out. And it would only be him getting our son if I’m not able to move around as much.

If you're not going to continue the pregnancy then there's no need to tell him. Don't give him a second thought, there really is no need for him to know.

Can you not just make some other excuse up for being unwell. I wouldn’t tell him if not planning to continue pregnancy

After reading the comments I thinks that’s best. I just need to decide the best thing to say because he will eventually ask why do I need him to have our son for so long.

Tell a half truth. You’ve got abdominal pains and nausea and the doc isn’t sure what it is you’re waiting on some investigations, maybe it’s your gallbladder etc etc

Having been in a relationship with an absolute tyrant, no, I wouldn’t tell him. I’m sorry, OP, I know it’s a hard decision to make.
take care of yourself, above all things. Keep yourself safe.

Thank you!!!

I terminated a pregnancy after finishing a relationship. I've never regretted for one minute not involving him in the decision making. I am fairly certain he would have pushed for me to carry the pregnancy and that was not going to happen.

Thank you all!!

No way don’t tell him. At this stage too I d just get termination sorted asap and anti nausea meds from GP until then.

Don’t apologise, it is your body and your choice, even more so as you would be an single parent. Have you considered talking it through with a non biased person such as a helpline, maybe BPAS? You might feel like your ex could pressure you to keep the pregnancy but this is ultimately your decision to make.

If your decision is to terminate the pregnancy, then I don’t see there would be any benefit to telling him.
You need to bear in mind though what you’d say should he find out later though. He may be angry/upset.
I hope it all works out for you.

She works two jobs when most of us only work one. She’s on her own with her young son.

I would use the sickness virus excuse and if you genuinely don't want to continues with the pregnancy, and I am not judging, then I would suggest doing it as soon as possible.