at being annoyed at dh going on at me about how much driving we do, and how much he is spending on petrol?

[stitch]

i limit the number of car journeys, but the lifestyle we live, i cant do without a car. and he was the one who chose to live seventy miles away from where he works.
its not my fault the price of petrol has gone through the roof

YANBU but it sounds like he's fretting about it. Is he blaming you or is he just going on about it generally.

yanbu - tell him to buy u a diesel car you'll get more miles to the gallon

70 miles!! Does he actually commute that? No wonder he is complaining about what he spends on petrol, but it sounds to be self-inflicted.

generally going on about it.
but sort of blaming me at the same time. he has a knack for doing so.

he stays there one night a week, and works from home two days a week.
self inflicted is the right word. he chose to live here, not me.
he wont buy me a diesel. he wont buy me anything! i get his cast offs! ( i'm not moaning, his cast offs are very nice cars. )
right. he is being unreasonable blaming me for it then. i shall continue to cycle and walk as much as possible, which i do anyways. but we still have to use the car an awful lot. i shall keep my conscience clear.

Sounds like he's just looking for someone to blame cos he knows it's his fault really. Desperately trying to deflect it.

and failing. Bless him.