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Is USA safe to visit?

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perellonuts · 02/01/2026 06:06

I can’t even believe I’m asking this but is it safe to visit USA now? I’m concerned about the social media issue, I’m pretty sure I’ve liked one or two anti-trump posts each time I’ve doom scrolled since his first term. Could this be used against me? I definitely feel free speech is not tolerated there now. I’d be travelling with my neuro diverse son, age 7. He is perfectly capable with full autonomy and we travel a lot but being separated with no due process would be a disaster and scares the hell out of me. We’ve been invited to go to collect a prestigious award and they put you in a hotel for a few days etc. We have American friends and family and the first hand ICE stories are horrific.

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Lisacuddy1 · 02/01/2026 15:05

StandFirm · 02/01/2026 14:55

If someone is a us citizen but lives abroad they are seen as equal risk as someone from abroad That is the surprising bit to me, yet any US citizen based abroad is still expected to file their taxes every year like those who've stayed home their whole lives. Not very balanced.

it is super annoying having to fill out a us tax return!

ElaineBurdock · 02/01/2026 15:05

This is really weird. I thought you were concerned about the terrible crime and filth in liberal cities, but you are worried because you believe we don't have free speech here.
We are allowed to talk shit on the internet about anyone. Even saying racist things isn't again the law here. We have the right to voice our opinion and anyone who disagrees with us, has the right to tell us why. It's a beautiful thing. Unless you have been threatening anyone with violence/murder you have nothing to fear. I know you can get imprisoned in the UK for voicing your opinion on social media, but it's not like that here.

Wallywobbles · 02/01/2026 15:09

Came back from Florida today. Amazing time. Lovely people. Felt aafer than anywhere in the UK.

Carriemac · 02/01/2026 15:17

DdraigGoch · 02/01/2026 14:27

Could you go out via Dublin or Shannon so that you go through pre-clearance? The US border control officers who work overseas are supposed to be a bit more human than the arseholes you're more likely to encounter at an airport in the US and at least if refused you're only in Ireland, not stuck at the mercy of Kristy Noem.

That’s a really good idea and it can identify be cheaper than direct UK flight and so much faster when you land

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/01/2026 15:18

ElaineBurdock · 02/01/2026 15:05

This is really weird. I thought you were concerned about the terrible crime and filth in liberal cities, but you are worried because you believe we don't have free speech here.
We are allowed to talk shit on the internet about anyone. Even saying racist things isn't again the law here. We have the right to voice our opinion and anyone who disagrees with us, has the right to tell us why. It's a beautiful thing. Unless you have been threatening anyone with violence/murder you have nothing to fear. I know you can get imprisoned in the UK for voicing your opinion on social media, but it's not like that here.

Is “here” the US? I know online that’s the default but I’m just checking.

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/01/2026 15:21

Wallywobbles · 02/01/2026 15:09

Came back from Florida today. Amazing time. Lovely people. Felt aafer than anywhere in the UK.

Murder rate in Florida around 5 per 100,000 people annually. UK around 9-10 per million.

May have felt safer. Absolutely wasn’t safer.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 02/01/2026 15:21

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/01/2026 15:18

Is “here” the US? I know online that’s the default but I’m just checking.

" The crime and filth in liberal cities" - I think they are from the freedom country 🔫 🦅 🤭 .

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/01/2026 15:23

Doingtheboxerbeat · 02/01/2026 15:21

" The crime and filth in liberal cities" - I think they are from the freedom country 🔫 🦅 🤭 .

I don’t like to assume Grin

Parker231 · 02/01/2026 15:28

ElaineBurdock · 02/01/2026 15:05

This is really weird. I thought you were concerned about the terrible crime and filth in liberal cities, but you are worried because you believe we don't have free speech here.
We are allowed to talk shit on the internet about anyone. Even saying racist things isn't again the law here. We have the right to voice our opinion and anyone who disagrees with us, has the right to tell us why. It's a beautiful thing. Unless you have been threatening anyone with violence/murder you have nothing to fear. I know you can get imprisoned in the UK for voicing your opinion on social media, but it's not like that here.

Nothing to fear? I wonder if the parents of children massacred in their schools would have the same opinion or are they reassured by the “hearts and prayers “ message which keeps getting rolled out?

Eepddjdn · 02/01/2026 15:48

Wallywobbles · 02/01/2026 15:09

Came back from Florida today. Amazing time. Lovely people. Felt aafer than anywhere in the UK.

I'd like to go one day. Bit scared of the alligators though. But I would watch videos on how they refused to lockdown during COVID, made me jealous.

I know they have stand your ground laws in Florida compared to our cower in fear laws. I think the data actually shows that most of the victims are the ones who are unarmed. Makes sense for them to be targeted more (obviously they didn't deserve it), no one does.

ParmaVioletTea · 02/01/2026 15:59

I’d say you’re probably ok if you’re white and going on an ESTA. If you’re a brown person, I think it’s far trickier.

Eepddjdn · 02/01/2026 16:19

ParmaVioletTea · 02/01/2026 15:59

I’d say you’re probably ok if you’re white and going on an ESTA. If you’re a brown person, I think it’s far trickier.

I'm brown but a UK citizen. CBP didn't bother with me. But others might have had different experiences. Surely CBP officers themselves are the same regardless of the white house is blue or red.

Primavera3 · 02/01/2026 16:20

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/01/2026 15:21

Murder rate in Florida around 5 per 100,000 people annually. UK around 9-10 per million.

May have felt safer. Absolutely wasn’t safer.

Ludicrous. Your conclusion assumes everyone is at equal risk of being murdered.

YourBlueShark · 02/01/2026 16:20

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/01/2026 12:39

I literally explained what I meant.

No gumption Hmm required. Knowing that rhetoric like Trump’s can lead to events like the holocaust isn’t minimising. It is taking racism and othering seriously. As it should be.

Spending so much time and energy saying that people shouldn’t compare things to the Nazis means we can’t talk about the risks of this kind of racist rhetoric. Dangerous and stupid if you ask me. Sending people to torture prisons in another country without due process is quite far down a very dark road.

I'm an American in the US and I agree with what you've posted. Many of us are extremely concerned with exactly that and due to the degree of political propaganda from the GOP, we are worried that we are heading down the same road. We have political pundits endorsed by the Trump administration who will openly say that they are pro Nazi and/or that they wish the Confederacy had won our Civil War. It's not at all hyperbole. The CECOT video that was removed from air here is absolutely horrifying.

user233675892 · 02/01/2026 16:23

Lisacuddy1 · 02/01/2026 14:30

They question everyone. They ask how long I’ve been away.. I tell them I live in the Uk. Why do I live I the UK? How long have I lived in the Uk… Why am I here? They take it a bit personally that I have left the US 😂**

I'm a US citizen resident in the UK. When we went over in November, immigration at JFK was facial recognition. Never even came in contact with a human, which was super weird.

OP, the odds are 99/9% that everything would be fine. But if it wasn't for friends, family and sometimes work, I wouldn't make the choice to go there right now.

YourBlueShark · 02/01/2026 16:24

Primavera3 · 02/01/2026 13:56

Who suggested guns weren't issue? Certainly not me. Nobody else as far as I can see.

My father had a friend who was shot by his own father because he thought he was a burglar. That was back in the late 50s. I know very, very well what the issues are with guns. They are rooted in the history and culture of the United States. But many, many Americans don't own a gun and don't use a gun. In 50 plus years of travelling in the US and living there twice I never came across any danger relating to guns anywhere. Its BS to say, as the person I was responding to said, or along these lines, that every other person is walking around with a loaded gun. It is not true. As you said yourself a lot of the shootings are related to criminality and gangs. To extrapoloate those stats across the country and population as a whole is 'laughable'.

I live in the safest and wealthiest neighborhood in my city in the Northeast part of the US. We have an Ivy League university in our neighborhood. We just had a mass shooting at the university several weeks ago and it was terrifying. This is one of the last areas you'd ever expect to experience gun violence. It truly can and does happen anywhere.

user233675892 · 02/01/2026 16:27

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/01/2026 15:23

I don’t like to assume Grin

Presumably from one of the states that relies on those 'liberal cities' they're so afraid of (but have never been to) to fund... well, pretty much everything.

Lisacuddy1 · 02/01/2026 16:27

user233675892 · 02/01/2026 16:23

I'm a US citizen resident in the UK. When we went over in November, immigration at JFK was facial recognition. Never even came in contact with a human, which was super weird.

OP, the odds are 99/9% that everything would be fine. But if it wasn't for friends, family and sometimes work, I wouldn't make the choice to go there right now.

Oh this would be strange! I am from the mid west so usually fly into ohare and was there last Christmas and made it through human free right until the end. This is what I meant by my first post is that I am actually finding it a lot less angsty and it’s to do with automation not politics. I remember the days of having to fill out the lading card ect and now that’s all done on a machine

user233675892 · 02/01/2026 16:31

Lisacuddy1 · 02/01/2026 16:27

Oh this would be strange! I am from the mid west so usually fly into ohare and was there last Christmas and made it through human free right until the end. This is what I meant by my first post is that I am actually finding it a lot less angsty and it’s to do with automation not politics. I remember the days of having to fill out the lading card ect and now that’s all done on a machine

Not to diss O'Hare (born in Chicago, parents from Chicago, both went to U of C) but that's an airport that's about 20 years behind the times!

Lisacuddy1 · 02/01/2026 16:37

user233675892 · 02/01/2026 16:31

Not to diss O'Hare (born in Chicago, parents from Chicago, both went to U of C) but that's an airport that's about 20 years behind the times!

Diss away! It’a honestly the worst…. Actually LAX is the worst. If I’m visiting family I can actually fly either to Detroit or ohare and Detroit has had a major upgrade so will prob try to do that but it’s not always a cheap

Toddlerteaplease · 02/01/2026 16:43

You have to give your social media account details? Why? That’s shocking!

Lisacuddy1 · 02/01/2026 16:48

Toddlerteaplease · 02/01/2026 16:43

You have to give your social media account details? Why? That’s shocking!

You don’t.

Parker231 · 02/01/2026 16:48

Toddlerteaplease · 02/01/2026 16:43

You have to give your social media account details? Why? That’s shocking!

Part of the proposed changes from the US to the ESTA application

lljkk · 02/01/2026 16:59

Wait... OP is a US citizen and worrying like this?
You having American passports means they can't deny you entry.
You may get a random extra search at border but that just happens, every 20th person or whatever. It's no biggie. They ask questions, you act and are genuinely bored, small children always do or say weird things, they are looking for bombs & weapons not poorly filtered small kids.

Go or don't go, but fretting about entry when you're US citizen is waste of energy.

I was in FL last week. National Parks are heaving with foreigners (as ever, all the rich countries were represented). Alongside Mennonites, Sikhs & every skin colour of American born person. We met a lot of French families on the beaches and on the airport shuttles. And Germans, Ukranians... the locals say that lots of Russians are buying property.

BTW: the Americans literally don't have resources to store, process or analyse individual arrival social media or DNA. Most of that is very hot air.

Primavera3 · 02/01/2026 17:01

YourBlueShark · 02/01/2026 16:24

I live in the safest and wealthiest neighborhood in my city in the Northeast part of the US. We have an Ivy League university in our neighborhood. We just had a mass shooting at the university several weeks ago and it was terrifying. This is one of the last areas you'd ever expect to experience gun violence. It truly can and does happen anywhere.

I know it can happen anywhere but it doesnt happen everywhere and to everyone. There is a difference in risk.

Some perspective here showing 2025 had lowest number of mass shootings in 20 years. I.e. the peak years were nothing to do with Trump. And mass killings make up 1% of gun deaths in the US. This is one article, I haven't done detailed research but its findings give pause for thought.

https://news.northeastern.edu/2025/12/08/mass-killings-data-2025/

Mass killings in the US fall to lowest levels in 20 years, data shows

As 2025 winds to a close, new data show a surprising trend: this year is on track to record the fewest mass killings in two decades.

https://news.northeastern.edu/2025/12/08/mass-killings-data-2025/