To ask what age you would say is no longer dying young

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Although hard still I feel from 80 onwards it’s expected

I’d say that, thanks to medical advances, anyone who dies before 85 has died “too young”. It will be interesting to see what happens if/when the first generation of anti-ageing drugs arrive. Maybe reaching 100 will soon be considered a right.

I work in A&E and I feel the consensus amongst doctors/ nurses based on when we get a cardiac arrest pre-alert is anything under 70 where we all visibly cringe and someone will comment how young they are. Obviously all cardiac arrests/ deaths are awful but not as unexpected.

Depends if male or female. Many men are still all there and active into their 90's, whilst women tend to dry up much past 55-60 ?

60

I definitely wouldn't describe someone who dies at 70 as having "died young" and find it quite bizarre that so many people on this thread would

Retirement age plus a few years so 70+. We've had a couple of family members die six months after retiring or less and it feels like a real shame they didn't get to enjoy their later years.

Any deaths 85+ must be referred to as "a good innings"

It would be interesting to collect this data at the same time as the socioeconomic background of the poster. In parts of Glasgow just reaching retirement age means you’re winning.

My DM died in her mid-50's. She was "young to die" but I'd not say she died young as such. DF was 79. My grandparents - one died in early 60's, the other three in their late 90's

I reckon you're too young to die if you are less than 10 years older than me.

I lost my mum at 60 and my dad is now 79. She was ill and seemed quite old whereas my dad is healthy and well. I am now 53 and have 16 y/o and worry about dying at 60......

80+. But I think that only fairly recently my answer would be 70s. I'm not sure if that's because I'm aging or because people are living longer.

70

I'm nearly that age and if I die now wouldn't say I'd died young. I've lived 3 score and ten years. My mind is young and I'd like to stay longer but I've had a good run.

Mid to late 70's is before anyone's time in general, to my mind

I think it's very person dependent. My gran is in her 80s , she's in a choir and proudly told me they went to sing at the old folks home at Christmas! She plays county bowls, she runs a walking group, volunteers for a charity and organised a huge toy drive this year and last, she still drives and holidays frequently. She's lovely, social and bright and active.

My other gran died about ten years ago when she was about 70 but she was frail, didn't go far, livid in sheltered accommodation, wouldn't go out after sundown even in winter and even in daylight the local shop was as far as she'd go without someone taking her, she had a very negative outlook on life and when she died it was sad but didn't feel too soon.

Far too many people take longevity for granted, and seem to strangely believe that illness is just something that happens to "other people."

I’d say 70. I don’t really understand all those saying 80. Although many people live to be older than that these days, you surely wouldn’t consider that a 75 year old (for example) had “died young”.

I think 70ish. Many people live longer (my Dad’s 87) but I think 70 is a reasonable lifespan. My Mum died in her 60’s and that really felt too young because she’d had me on the older side so I was in my 20’s.

70's or even mid 60's onwards is not "young" to die to me and if I read someone this age has died in the media etc, I don't think that is young.

But I have lost a few people from their 40's onwards. 40's and 50's I would say is very young to die.

It’s 50

I imagine that the death of anyone below the age of average life expectancy could seem a bit young?

Meant to say that as I had my kids in my early 30’s, they’d be late 30’s if I conked out at 70 so I think they could deal with it.

I’m not ready to leave them yet!

@3luckystars Many 50-year-olds have teenagers or younger children though (I’m 51) so we’d consider that far too young.

Sadly I have a friend with terminal cancer who’s unlikely to make it through this year and her children are far too young to lose their Mum. 😕

Haha dream on, average life span for women in the UK is 83. It's only 79 for men.

I think 70 is a decent age to get to but it's so close to retirement. I'd like to get to 75 at least.

Sorry what. Dry up? My gran lived until she was 86. My mum is 76. I'm in my 50s. I can assure you I've not "dried up"

Are you trolling?

Under 50- tragically young

50-60- far too young

60-73- too young

73+- awful for those who love them but not really young to die

My mum just about made it to 70. I still of course feel she was gone too soon but I don’t think I can say she ‘died young’. If she had died in her 60s (which it looked as though she would do for a while) then I would have done given that her official retirement age was 67.

I think it’s relevant to the circumstances. I lost a cousin at 31 but he was born with a live limiting illness and wasn’t expected to reach double figures! My other cousin died was she was 43 of cancer. So for us, cousin 1 didn’t die young infact he lived 20 years more than he should, cousin 2 did die young