To ask what age you would say is no longer dying young

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Although hard still I feel from 80 onwards it’s expected

Id say old enough to have experienced at least 10 years of retirement. So 75+. 80 for those that will have to work until they are 67+.

It depends. A family member of mine got to 40. They had a medical condition where it was a miracle they even saw their teens, so I don't consider them having died young. I think they were very lucky for their situation.

For your average person, I think anything under 80 is young. 85+ I feel they had a good innings. 70-80, shame they didn't get a bit longer. Under 70, young.

I'd say 80 onwards. My dad died at 78 that felt way too soon, and I felt quite cheated.
My mum died at 93, and while that is definitely advanced years, she lived life to the full, and at one point I thought she'd live forever, so it still felt too soon.

I am 60.

I don't understand how work and retirement length connects with the ge of death being too young?

Nobody classes a 40 year old as a young person. Or a 45 year old. It’s middle aged. But dying at that age is very young to die. So is 50 and 60.

I'd say 80 onwards although I do think ages are different. I feel that my 74 year father died young, but I certainly have different feelings about his death then those of my best friend aged 42 and my sister in law aged 39. Now they truly died young.

Maybe it's more about why you died. My DF and my SIL both had horrendous battles against cancer, while my best friends battled a life shortening neurological condition. While my father was much older than the other 2, I think I might have felt less like he died young, if he'd passed suddenly in his sleep of "old age" (but younger than many) rather than undergone a cancer battle. Watching my friend lose everything (speech, swallowing etc) slowly over a number of years, hammered home the fact she was dying young.

Under 50 to "die young"

But anything before 75 definitely feels unfortunate / premature

Nobody?
But I have just said that I would class a 40 year old as at the end of the young scale (not a "young person" as I clarrified). So clearly I do think that.

You’re likely in a minority.

My husband passed away in August, he was 69 - unexpected and definitely too young 😢

80

Agree. Dying young to me means dying whilst still young, so under 40 probably. Dying too young means dying before your life expectancy.

My Dad died in his 60s. I feel like he died before his time but I don’t think he was ‘young.’ I’d say under 50 or so is dying young, dying aged 50-75ish is dying before your time but not young. Dying 75+ is dying at a normal time, although can still be sad and unexpected within individual circumstances.

My parents and in-laws were all 90+ when they died. So anything under 86 seems too early to me. I was shocked this year when friends died at 74 and 76. And the older I get the more it seems too early!

65

I'm sorry for your loss. That is definitely too young.

Anything past 75.

every Decade older is a shock for me. Now I’m in my sixties and my friends are in their seventies. Still living life to the full, every day. So whereas I used to think 80 would be old, I see it as still young as my friends will be that age in a couple of years. Anything under 85 is too soon to me now

I feel people have been cheated if they die before 80. When I was younger 70's seemed normal.
Not many have made it to 80 in my immediate/wider family.

When people die at say, 68, I agree it seems to young to die, but it's not 'young.' Any age after 60, is not 'young.' Even in your 50s you're not young. Too young to die, but not young.

Until you are 80. Then it’s too young.
My dad is 85 and fitter than most 60 year olds. He still cuts the hedges, digs the garden and drives. He painted the entire house recently and still builds things. He has full capacity and is sharper than most people I know.

Any age is too soon for someone you love

70

Over 75 is not dying young.

I’m 61….I still feel young….my own mum is 89 and full of life….still driving….dog walking…living independently …..socialising…..i don’t feel ‘old’ enough to die with my Mum still fit and well