All my historically fat friends have gone thin this year

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Okay maybe not ALL of them, but a few friends/acquaintances who have been very big for years and years, tried everything but could never shift the slightest bit of weight, have all had dramatic transformations and shed many stones over the past year. It’s just becoming expected now whenever I see another formerly large acquaintance or relative pop up on my feed with a super slim selfie.

I (rightly or wrongly) suspect it’s got to be WLIs or similar? Although all are adamant it’s a strict diet only. Just to add there is NOTHING wrong with jabs at all, and I’m aware it’s absolutely none of my business, and I sound mean but I wouldn’t actually discuss this in RL. It just got me thinking that being overweight might be obsolete in a few years?

Anyone else noticing this trend with people they know?

Yes and I've noticed some people have a gaunt look around the face that comes from rapid weight loss

@inequalities an honest discussion doesn’t need people to be called disgusting. It’s just a descriptive word…. Yeah, a very judgemental one. And an opinion not a fact.

When I was morbidly obese I avoided mirrors, no full length ones in the house. I’d even avoid looking at my reflection in shop windows. Now having lost half my body weight I pose in front of the mirror all the time, including naked on occasion. Yes bits a bit loose here and there but overall I look so much better than when morbidly obese. There are parts I actively like now, whereas before I hated every single bit of me.

What we have to realise is that there are a lot of people who absolutely despise obese people. They despise them for being fat but they don't actually want them to lose weight. They want someone to despise so they can feel superior. So when people do lose weight they move on to despising them for "cheating" with WLIs. Then they despise them for having saggy skin.

I think it may be a deep seated fear of being fat themselves. My FIL is like this. To him, being fat would be the worst possible thing in the world. He'd rather get cancer. He absolutely despises fat people, never fails to comment about it.

Well I do. I love myself because I see the strong, confident, healthier person I am now. My sagging skin is a reminder of how far I've come, like trying on the pair of size 24 jeans and being astonished that I wore them. And a determination never to re-fill the jeans or the skin. Although in fact my loose skin has tightened up during the last 6 months.

I think your post was perhaps meant to express something kind suggesting people should not being jealous of people who've used WLI (subtext because those formerly fat people will find their loose skin disgusting and will find it hard to love what they see in the mirror? I don't know if you've ever struggled with your weight and felt judged by society? If not, I'd urge caution with your language and sentiments. You are not in my head, and you have no idea how I feel about myself. I've got pretty thick skin (or at least lots of it) but other posters who have struggled with being overweight for much of their life may still be on a journey of restoring their self esteem.

Your point about people 'starving themselves' is a really good point.

I know three women who have in the past year, medically or surgically tackled their obesity, by which I mean GLP1-agonists or gastric band surgery. Every single one of them has experienced hair loss. All of them see it as a managable side-effect, as they have lost a lot of weight, though none of them are now 'thin'. They have however seen other chronic conditions' symptoms improve beyond anything any other drug has been able to do.

I think we are coming to the realisation that it simply isn't possible to live in a calorie deficit significant enough to treat obesity, that doesn't risk a certain level of long-term malnutrition, whether you do it 'through diet and exercise', surgical or medical means.

You are right that the fact this gets little attention is increasingly troubling. Perhaps because it calls into question the idea that there is an objectively 'healthy' (and therefore moral) way to lose weight/treat obesity?

@SilenceInside Good for you. Congratulations on your new health, happiness and confidence. 💐💪

Don’t fucking ask! In the same way I’d not ask why you suddenly looked much less lined if I knew you.

Skin is like a balloon, once it’s been stretched too far it will never go back to how it was before being inflated. Whether you lose the weight fast or slow there is no unringing that bell. I have been obese since primary school, I’ve gone up and down hovered in obese and morbidly obese for 30 years. I am now in the bottom half of the healthy BMI range. Yes there is loose skin, there would always have been loose skin even if I lost 1/2 lb a week for 10 years, the skin had been forced beyond breaking point.

I look fucking fabulous in my clothes, seriously amazing, and I’ve never worn a bikini or crop tops so I’m missing nothing by not adding them to my wardrobe now.

I am happier and healthier and if I want I can always get skin removal surgery at some point to address that.

In case it hadn’t already been made clear to you by other posters , your post reads like you’re a bitter, nasty git. That’s way harder to fix than a bit of loose skin, and way more disgusting to be around.

For the avoidance of any doubt I already know that I’m blunt and can be spiteful to people I don’t like. I’d say I’m working on my flaws but I’m not, I just avoid people I don’t like instead.

Thanks for your amazing insight 🙄 obesity is cured!!!

I don't stare at anyone in the gym - that's a creepy assumption. But. I'm also not walking around the gym, or classes, with my eyes shut. I'm not back tracking. I am adding to my post and have not changed my point of view on the subject.
My pov is that anyone can do what the hell they like. I really don't care. I do not judge anyone, ever. However, if I lost that weight and suffered from a lot of loose skin, is personally hate it and I'd be shocked if those people don't hate it too. People seem to think that they have 'cheated'. I don't see it this way as it's not a reversal. They now have loose skin and a person who hasn't been obese doesn't. This is being said in a way where I am not thinking about individuals feelings, it's an observation that people should consider (a) before they get jealous and judge and (b) before investing the money- especially if they're doing it for superficial reasons, as soon might possibly be.

Stop assuming that a person is vile just because they call sagging loose skin disgusting.

I’ve lost weight without WLI. I have loose skin, because I’ve lost a lot of weight. I don’t hate myself, I love myself and think I look fantastic. And even if I didn’t, I feel I don’t see why that would be different if I’d lost the weight through WLI 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Consultants can (and do) get it wrong. My consultant oncologist refused to prescribe me local estrogen cream. He told me 'it would encourage my breast cancer to return.' He is demonstrably wrong in this assumption. He clearly hasn't bothered to keep his knowledge up to date (many consultants don't).

@inequalities people who think like you are one of the reasons that I don’t in any way like going to gyms. To know that’s what’s going through some peoples heads…. Wow.

I hope you are shocked that I don’t hate the loose skin that I have. I am fairly neutral about it. It’s outweighed by all the bits that look fabulous, like my shoulders, collarbone (who knew I had one!), cheekbones, jaw line, waist…. I even love that I don’t have fat hands anymore. I genuinely check out my shapely fingers every now and again when typing! I’m late 40s and I’ve had two large babies, two c sections and I’ve been obese since childhood. I am thrilled at how I look now all things considered.

More fool you for doing it without a tool that could have made it much easier. It’s like saying you’re annoyed because you used a dustpan and brush to clean the floor and someone asked if you used a hoover. No medal from me I’m afraid.

This is how I am doing it. It really works.

Are you suggesting that WLI don't make it all a hell of a lot easier 🤔

You really don't see how that is an awful thing to say?

I lost 5 stone with diet and exercise but it was hard. I dont in anyway begrudge people taking the jabs and I would have doen so if they had been available to me then. the anti anxiety medication I am on now seems ot suppress my appetite so I have to almost force myself to eat now.

To be fair, arseholes generally don’t realise they’re arseholes.

Possibly but I saw someone lose a lot of weight - she said she hired a personal trainer. I think weight training is also in - though maybe in reality she did both. I don't blame people.- whatever works for you.

Why "more fool". I've nothing against the jabs but there are side effects like nausea and it saves money if you can lose weight without needing it.

Agree . I have lost 20 kgs since May and I stopped MJ in October,my weight has not increased but still look at 22-20 rather than 14-16 sizes ! I even went to Oz a few weeks ago and wore my very oversized summer clothes rather than clothes that would actually have looked so much better.
It’s really hard to explain TBH .

My DS’s school has about 7 TAs suddenly losing about 8 stone each. I can’t see how it’s anything but weight loss jabs. They have the Ozempic jaw to show for it

For those saying that people using them for weight loss are interfering with supply for diabetics....they are not. The price has gone through the roof because Donald Trump interfered and whined that usa were paying too much.

Question for weight loss jabs users - when you lose the weight will you take traditional steps to not put it back on? Because it doesn’t teach good eating and exercise habits.