All my historically fat friends have gone thin this year

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Okay maybe not ALL of them, but a few friends/acquaintances who have been very big for years and years, tried everything but could never shift the slightest bit of weight, have all had dramatic transformations and shed many stones over the past year. It’s just becoming expected now whenever I see another formerly large acquaintance or relative pop up on my feed with a super slim selfie.

I (rightly or wrongly) suspect it’s got to be WLIs or similar? Although all are adamant it’s a strict diet only. Just to add there is NOTHING wrong with jabs at all, and I’m aware it’s absolutely none of my business, and I sound mean but I wouldn’t actually discuss this in RL. It just got me thinking that being overweight might be obsolete in a few years?

Anyone else noticing this trend with people they know?

It’s always been rude to mention people’s weight loss/ body and ask them how they did it. We’ve just got better at telling people they’re rude.

You posted this: I've seen a few at the gym who have lost a lot of weight(by any means) and the sagging skin is so disgusting that I think I'd rather stay fat.

Disgusting is quite a prejorative word, which is possibly why you're getting a bit of reaction. I thought I was disgusting when I was obese, when I couldn't control my appetite, when I struggled to walk up the stairs. I don't feel disgusting now. I feel strong and healthy and proud. And perhaps a little judged for my soft belly and wrinkled bingo wings. But no worry, I'll get over it.

I disagree. My DH is on Mounjaro. He is far less proud of himself than when he lost the equivalent weight through diet and exercise a few years ago. He moves the conversation on as quickly as he can, now. And doesn't mention the WLI.

I lost 4.5st on WLI this year, now healthy weight.

I'm sure people assume that I’m on jabs, it’s none of their business but if people asked directly I’d be honest. However I don’t make a point of declaring it , as it truly isn’t anyone’s business.

People who are actually close friends and family know.

Intermittent fasting has a similar effect

Essentially though, it doesn’t matter whether he’s proud of himself or not. The end result is the same… he’s healthier for being slimmer.

What a shame none of the fatties tried that first…

Are these the awful long term side effects some people are saying we need to be worrying about?

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/jan/20/weight-loss-jabs-linked-to-reduced-risk-of-42-conditions-including-dementia

That’s a really uplifting anecdote

To be fair, I just have no appetite so don’t eat much. I haven’t worked my socks off and the bad habits that have stopped are temporary rather than permanent, if I don’t use it they quickly come back

No one gives a fuck that ‘you all know’. You don’t deserve someone’s medical information.

Quite. I have historically lost dramatic amounts of weight - ah, the yo-yo - and always found it deeply uncomfortable being subjected to an interrogation as to how.

What I particularly hate is the congratulations. Like, well done, you look amazing. You were vile before and not worthy of praise or compliments but now your body is an acceptable size, I will compliment you.

Hate it.

If you don’t have the kind of relationship with someone where you can tell them they’ve put on weight and should maybe do something about it, and it won’t offend them, you don’t have the relationship to discuss weight loss with them either. It’s circle of trust stuff. If your friends are using weight loss injections and don’t trust you enough to tell you, have a think on why. I haven’t told my best friend because even though I love her, she is judgy as fuck.

Yes, I see that. But I really did mean that it doesn't matter what they do, they won't love themselves when they look in the mirror so people could maybe stop the weird jealousy thing.

And does that make you feel better about their weight loss? That they’ll still be unhappy regardless?

But I have some loose skin and I do love myself when I look in the mirror? A lot of us do?

I don't think she's necessarily unhappy that people have lost weight as such, although she might be. I can't verify that one.

I do think her incredibly vile 'disgusting' comment shows how she values fat people and her patronising assumptions about how fat people who have lost weight must feel so awful are equally repulsive, regardless of her feelings around weight loss injections.

It is a miracle for a lot of people. I wish it was more readily available to people who cannot afford to buy it privately.
The bmi is too high to qualify in the UK. It’s lower in Ireland, at a reduced rate for lower income people.
I have never had an issue with weight gain.
My only criticism is that a lot of women who are slightly overweight are using it and they now look like walking skeletons.
Kelly Osborn, Katie Price etc and average Jane as it’s sold on WhatsApp marketplace (brought back from Turkey).
Otherwise it is a game changer.

Fair point.

I meant to quote @20bloodypounds

It’s the jab

So I say one word that is descriptive and you bombard me with how many? Perhaps you're the horrible one. Or maybe I touched a nerve, who knows.
I perhaps didn't get my point across well but I think people are hypocrites if they think that it's ok to assume a person is 'vile' for saying what I said. I was sticking up for those who use the injections by stating that they still have their insecurities. It's not all flowers and sunshine once the weight has gone. This is meant to be an honest conversation about the pros and cons. Not a way of attacking someone.

@inequalities Why are you staring at people in the gym. Very rude. You aren’t concerned at all about what they think about the excess skin. You’re being rude.
You certainly haven’t hit a nerve with me, Im naturally slim, I’m coming at you because you are back tracking, at least admit it was a dig and apologise for your faux pas. 💐

I think it's the old societal line of fat = lazy and unworthy of being attractive and thin = control and attractiveness. Evens that out now and the traditionally 'normal' weight people have nothing to hang over people using WLI and the lines 'haggard', 'cheating', 'gone too far' are now being bandied about. I will guess that the vast majority of people don't give it too much thought, apart from some posters on here. Again, for those who think it's cheating; are taking other prescribed medications for ADHD, Asthma, depression cheating or does that not matter as it doesn't affect their clothes size??? True friends only want what's best for those that they love and if they don't, there's a nasty reason you do not want the best for them.....

I do think that weight loss - and for that matter weight gain - is “catching”. When you work with people who have been larger but then they start dieting, you often end up eating more healthily too. I know when the woman I sit next to at work was on a diet in February, I didn’t want to be offering her cakes and biscuits, but then I ate less too as I didn’t see someone else having a biscuit that made me want one. Similarly when I was sitting next to someone at work all day who was going through a tough time and comfort eating, I gained weight because there were more treat foods out in the office and it’s quite tempting when you see someone else having some chocolate, to just have one as well.

I do wonder how many people are losing weight just because they work with /live with /spend a lot of time with someone who’s on the jabs and they are being influenced by their better diet.

All of my friends, are, and always have been, slim, except 1. She has recently lost 3-4 stones on WLI, but has a lot more to go. She's open about WLI. I hope she experiences lots of health benefits as a result. We are all in our 50's - this friend is the youngest by about 5 years. She's a fabulous person, and deserves this chance to feel great.