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All my historically fat friends have gone thin this year

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donttellscotty · 30/12/2025 15:43

Okay maybe not ALL of them, but a few friends/acquaintances who have been very big for years and years, tried everything but could never shift the slightest bit of weight, have all had dramatic transformations and shed many stones over the past year. It’s just becoming expected now whenever I see another formerly large acquaintance or relative pop up on my feed with a super slim selfie.

I (rightly or wrongly) suspect it’s got to be WLIs or similar? Although all are adamant it’s a strict diet only. Just to add there is NOTHING wrong with jabs at all, and I’m aware it’s absolutely none of my business, and I sound mean but I wouldn’t actually discuss this in RL. It just got me thinking that being overweight might be obsolete in a few years?

Anyone else noticing this trend with people they know?

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Shmoigel · 30/12/2025 17:59

Lemonlimonade · 30/12/2025 17:41

Rather than living healthily, you think we should all rely on statins and weight loss jabs? I find that an abhorrent opinion (and a waste of money)!!

I tried for years on slimming world but with my endometriosis I was insulin resistant and would go up and down with the same few pounds on and off. I barely ate anything but craved sugary drinks and dairy products constantly.

Since being on Mounjaro I eat lots of protein and my sweet tooth has gone. I have been on them for 20 months and they also seem to reduce inflammation so I hope they do some
more research for women who have PCOS and endo.

I still had to focus on eating healthy so it’s not a lazy magic pill.

SilenceInside · 30/12/2025 17:59

@Rosscameasdoody the poster was asking about whether the risks of rapid weight loss are comparable to being obese. Not about T2 diabetes.

I appreciate you are angry about your DH having such terrible complications from his T2 diabetes. But none of that is the fault of obese people using WLI. Neither is any price increase or any shortage in his NHS supply of medication.

InfoSecInTheCity · 30/12/2025 18:00

HoppityBun · 30/12/2025 17:47

Cholesterol rises in women after the menopause because of reducing oestrogen. It’s raised in the elderly. Some medications raise cholesterol. Obviously extending life expectancy increases these age related rises in cholesterol.

I don’t consider that lowering cholesterol is a waste of money in my case. I accept that others, including you @Lemonlimonade will not share that opinion. Tant pis pour toi.

Very good point! Reduced oestrogen also results in decreased insulin production and insulin sensitivity so menopausal and post-menopausal women are at higher risk of T2 diabetes and increased weight due to excess glucose being stored as fat.

23Shadows · 30/12/2025 18:00

Rosscameasdoody · 30/12/2025 17:53

Type 2 diabetes increases the risk of vascular problems, which my DH has as a direct result. He had a leg amputated because of diabetic ulcers which had developed to the point where they were untreatable and is now in danger of losing the other leg. He has diabetic retinopathy which affects his eyesight and also has reduced sensation in limb extremities, putting him at risk of injury and associated medical issues. He’s at massively increased risk of damage to blood vessels by increased blood pressure causing coronary heart disease and stroke. That enough ‘empirical’ evidence for you ?

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Are you not reading these posts properly or something? That poster was talking about the risks of being obese vs the risks of rapid weight loss. Nothing to do with diabetes. This is a thread about weight loss injections, stop trying to make it about your DHs diabetes.

littlefireseverywhere · 30/12/2025 18:01

I’ve lost nearly 5 stone I’m really pleased with how it’s gone. However, I’m totally open about it with people, apart from my in-laws, who are so judgemental.

Binus · 30/12/2025 18:01

Rosscameasdoody · 30/12/2025 17:53

Type 2 diabetes increases the risk of vascular problems, which my DH has as a direct result. He had a leg amputated because of diabetic ulcers which had developed to the point where they were untreatable and is now in danger of losing the other leg. He has diabetic retinopathy which affects his eyesight and also has reduced sensation in limb extremities, putting him at risk of injury and associated medical issues. He’s at massively increased risk of damage to blood vessels by increased blood pressure causing coronary heart disease and stroke. That enough ‘empirical’ evidence for you ?

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How does your husbands experience of Type 2 diabetes function as empirical evidence about the risks of rapid weight loss?

Midnights68 · 30/12/2025 18:01

I think these jabs have the potential to change society massively for the better (there’s early research about how they could be really helpful for addiction).

But it does get right on my nerves when people pretend they’ve lost 4 stone in 3 months by drinking lemon water and exercising more - it’s just a bit awkward and embarrassing to have to pretend you believe them. I’m really open about getting Botox for similar reasons.

LetTheMadnessEnd · 30/12/2025 18:02

Lemonlimonade · 30/12/2025 17:33

But why are people in other countries a lot slimmer? On a recent trip to Japan hardly anyone was overweight, let alone obese, for example. Also in several African countries there’s hardly any obesity.

So I do think our unhealthy western diet and lack of exercise makes us overweight.

Of course it's diet related but it's also not just down to will-power.

The food chain in the west has been compromised since the 1970s which is when obesity became an epidemic in the USA due to the pervasiveness of high-calorie sugary foods. We followed shortly after and many other countries are experiencing an obesity epidemic for the very same reason (India, Indonesia, Egypt, Algeria, South Africa, etc.).

Japan has a very healthy diet which is high in fish with almost no dairy products of any kind due to Buddhism and being lactose intolerant. However, the younger generations are consuming more dairy and sugar than ever before so I would not be surprised if they end up with the same issue in a generation or two.

SeriaMau · 30/12/2025 18:02

Flowers999 · 30/12/2025 15:48

I am one of those people 🤣 lost 7 stone this year with Mounjaro. I get asked all the time if its the jabs and I always say no because, quite frankly, its not anyone elses business!

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Why do you lie?

IndigoBluey · 30/12/2025 18:02

I know of a few people similar OP. Big weight loss after years of yo yo ing. I agree it is up to them whether they share the reason but it’s very obvious anyway. One thing I noticed was such a rapid weight loss, their faces are older

Shmoigel · 30/12/2025 18:03

GladFatball · 30/12/2025 17:52

Yeah, I've had a fair few in real life. I actually had the Sharon Osbourne one the other day, which was a personal triumph.

My mum told me the other day that they give you a baggy vagina! That seems to be the new scare tactic! Can’t say I have noticed that side effect

raffegiraffe · 30/12/2025 18:03

AInightingale · 30/12/2025 17:02

How can you tackle insulin resistance without resorting to WLI? If you're not seriously overweight, so can't be prescribed it. (Though some people seem to be able to get it regardless. Maybe being rich helps.) Are there any methods that actually work?

Low carb diet can help. Also there is a herbal supplement called berberine which has some evidence behind it

GladFatball · 30/12/2025 18:03

SilenceInside · 30/12/2025 17:59

@Rosscameasdoody the poster was asking about whether the risks of rapid weight loss are comparable to being obese. Not about T2 diabetes.

I appreciate you are angry about your DH having such terrible complications from his T2 diabetes. But none of that is the fault of obese people using WLI. Neither is any price increase or any shortage in his NHS supply of medication.

Yes, this. It must be awful to see this happening to your husband. I really am sorry to hear about it. I'm not without empathy at all.

But please don't suggest that I, and those like me, am somehow preventing diabetics from accessing life changing treatment licenced for their condition, by legally accessing life changing treatment licenced for my condition. It helps nobody and takes focus from the true problem here, which is the dire state of the NHS.

robinsinthesnow · 30/12/2025 18:04

SeriaMau · 30/12/2025 18:02

Why do you lie?

I wish I’d lied. It’s simply that it’s no one else’s business. The absolute fascination with the topic when I only casually mentioned it really bothers me: it has dominated so many conversations and honestly I am sick of it.

GladFatball · 30/12/2025 18:05

Shmoigel · 30/12/2025 18:03

My mum told me the other day that they give you a baggy vagina! That seems to be the new scare tactic! Can’t say I have noticed that side effect

Given how much better I'm looking these days, I hope very much to be in a position to find out soon.

robinsinthesnow · 30/12/2025 18:06

GladFatball · 30/12/2025 18:05

Given how much better I'm looking these days, I hope very much to be in a position to find out soon.

I couldn’t care less if it does 🤣

SilenceInside · 30/12/2025 18:07

@SeriaMau the poster said why in her post! It’s no one else’s business. If someone has the temerity to directly ask, I don’t owe them the truth about my personal and private health decisions. And I don’t owe anyone a conversation about it. So, I will not tell them, and I have no compunction whatsoever about that. If other people are upset, angry or judgemental about me not telling them, well that’s their choice.

GladFatball · 30/12/2025 18:07

robinsinthesnow · 30/12/2025 18:06

I couldn’t care less if it does 🤣

Me neither. What's a stretchy windsock vagina between bedfellows?

Binus · 30/12/2025 18:07

Lmao I wish I'd tried measuring mine before starting now. Sex and mooncup still feel the same, but maybe we need cold hard data!

GreyBeeplus3 · 30/12/2025 18:07

Not in my own circle no
But if it was really only down to a diet/exercise regimen
They'd have done that sooner wouldn't they?
But good luck to them; it's their business
I'm only curious about what the long-term/possible side effects are and may be in the future for those who do

Alltheunreadbooks · 30/12/2025 18:08

If I see a previous obese friend showing a dramatic weight loss after years of struggle, I assume they are on the jabs and good luck to them.

Honestly, as far as I'm concerned there's absolutely no reason for a rich/ well off person to be obese now the jabs are becoming so accessible.

Needtogetthetreedownnow · 30/12/2025 18:09

How long does it take to lose weight?

Eg if I start in Jan, how much weight loss by July for example? It’s just the cost!

GladFatball · 30/12/2025 18:09

Binus · 30/12/2025 18:07

Lmao I wish I'd tried measuring mine before starting now. Sex and mooncup still feel the same, but maybe we need cold hard data!

If I'd known of this side effect before starting, I'd still have started but perhaps created some kind of spreadsheet.

20bloodypounds · 30/12/2025 18:10

PrincessofWells · 30/12/2025 17:44

I grew up in the 60s and 70s with a diet that did not include upfs. Everything my father cooked was homemade and we occasionally had dessert, maybe a couple of times a week. Portions were smaller and very few of us in general were overweight. It is about what you eat. There is nothing complicated about it. Stop eating upfs, buy veg and meat unprocessed. It really is no more complicated than that. Upfs are addictive along with sugar highs so stop feeding your addiction. It gets better after a few weeks.

Well you had a very fortunate start in life. Genuine comment. However, not every parent has the interest, the skill, the time or the money to eat like that (do you know how much cheaper a diet high in UPFs is than one based on organic veg, grass fed beef and responsibly sourced fish?). So there are succesive generations growing up also without the skills or knowledge about nutrition. Look at the obesity rates in children, it's not their fault that they are eating UPFs.

By the time people have been obese for years, many of them will have a metabolism that is no longer functioning as it should - insulin resitance and other hormonal imbalances. For them it is not enough stop eating sugar and UPFs, it is so much more complicated than that. If you or those close to you have never had to face and understand the desparation of metabolic disorders, you again are fortunate.

For some I know on WLIs, getting to and maintaining a healthy weight, along with being able to make better food choices, has gone a long way to reversing some of their health issues. But most of them would never and made that progress without Mounjaro.

Gettingbysomehow · 30/12/2025 18:10

I've lost half my body weight in a year. Of course on mounjaro and feel great but everyone else I know looks enormous and have really put on weight. I don't know anyone else "on the pen" other than me.

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