To ask my DH to be considerate about the gym??

[Megirlan123]

So, this has been annoying me and wanted an outsiders prospective.
My DH has recently started going back to the gym in the past month. I’m keen for this because we aren’t getting any younger and he does need to start looking after himself more.
Anyway, by the time he goes to the gym, has a sauna and a swim, shower etc he is gone for around 2.5-3hrs.
I don’t have issue with this but he has gone in the early evenings the past few times (4 days a week) However, today I asked him if he was always going to go in the evenings for 3 hrs and we ended up bickering about it. He made me feel like I’m being unreasonable by asking him to sometimes go in the mornings etc so I’m not sat here 4 nights a week trying to get dinner, kids sorted etc etc. (3 kids, 2 school age) We are self employed if that makes any difference.

So AIBU asking him to be more considerate in when he goes to the gym ?

I think 2 nights a week would be legit if you were okay with it and got an equivalent amount of time - you could then also go 2 nights a week and have Friday night as a family night together or whatever. And then the rest of the time he needs to go first thing (with an equivalent number of available days first thing for you if you want).

He’s taking the piss! Exercise for an hour or maybe 2 at a push but not the rest!

This is exactly what I’ve asked him to do!
2 nights and 2 mornings.
He has agreed to this but not after getting his knickers in a twist and acting like it’s weird that I’m bothered!

It really annoys me that he is acting hard done by.

Anyway, thanks for the replies all.

Yanbu OP.
He's shirking his family responsibilities.
Yes it sucks doing the daily grind with kids and not fitting in hobbies unless outside of kids waking hours but that's life.
My DP goes to the gym at 5am 4 days a week before work (his start time is 7.30am) so I do get the kids up by myself but they usually sleep until 7am so it's not bother.

He knows full well what he's doing.
Don't let him take you for a fool OP.

Good for you. Hard done by, oh puhleeeeze. He knows exactly what he's doing.

I know quite a few gym bros and they don't spend 2 and a half to 3 hours in the gym when they go.

Did you ask him how far he's swimming? 😁