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To think someone that’s 7 stone and 5’4 is tiny

255 replies

101360i · 29/12/2025 14:31

And to be worried d

OP posts:
5128gap · 29/12/2025 14:35

Yes, I'd be worried as the person is medically underweight. Not sure 'tiny' is helpful though as it's subjective and considered positive and aspirational to some people. Facts are its not a healthy weight.

The6thQueen · 29/12/2025 14:39

My mum is 5 foot, just under 7 stone and a size zero. She’s perfectly healthy (blew the physio away with her arm muscles from gardening 🤣).
Clinically she’s underweight, but contextually she is fine.
Do you know the person, have you seen them?

MylipstickiscalledHugMe · 29/12/2025 14:39

Is this an adult woman? Is she still losing weight or levelled off?

You could give more information about your relationship to her etc if you want proper advice

daffodilandtulip · 29/12/2025 14:42

Unless it's a friend who has recently lost weight, (probably using WLI) and you don't approve...

SemperIdem · 29/12/2025 14:48

Yes, I would be concerned, they are significantly underweight for their height.

NewPinkJacket · 29/12/2025 14:48

Bit of a strange question with absolutely no context.

You're basically asking if you're being unreasonable to worry about someone who's underweight, yes?

If so then YANBU obviously.

thornbury · 29/12/2025 14:49

At 18-24 I was around that weight, size zero wasn't a thing back then. I enlisted in the military and was told 7st 5lbs was the minimum weight they could accept a female my height, I was only a few pounds over. I'd never been over 9st until I was about 6 months pregnant at 29.

So, its not necessarily a healthy weight but each of us is different.

ShesTheAlbatross · 29/12/2025 14:49

That’s what I am. I’d have to put quite a bit of effort into gaining weight (I’ve tried, because it’s hard to find clothes). There’s nothing wrong with me in terms of long term conditions or consequences of being this weight. I exercise but not excessively, I run once or twice a week and I do a bit of weight work. I got pregnant and had two healthy babies at this weight, and dropped back down to this weight within a week of giving birth both times with no effort at all. It’s just where I land.

I do worry that if I ever become seriously unwell, I don’t have a lot of spare capacity to lose weight as a side effect of illness or treatment.
But as things stand right now, I think I’m fine. I’ve been this weight my whole adult life with no issue.

GasPanic · 29/12/2025 14:52

It requires more context because if you were a small frame and also were say a keen amateur distance runner then I think 7 stone at that height would not probably be completely out of possibility.

DancingNotDrowning · 29/12/2025 14:55

It’s petite and possibly a couple of pounds underweight depending on your ethnicity.

MaloryJones · 29/12/2025 14:55

Yes it's tiny
I'm 5ft 3 and 7 and a half stone

Namexchangex · 29/12/2025 14:56

Hmm I'm 5ft 5 and gave been 7.5st as an adult and whilst skinny I wasnt "tiny", I was still a UK size 8

Itsmetheflamingo · 29/12/2025 14:58

Bit concerned this is the usual mumsnet orthorexia frenzy where you can enjoy people arguing about how it’s fine to be 7 stone which is deeply unhealthy and unproductive.

however- taking it at face value- what do you mean? Are you just musing? Gossiping? Are you worried about them? You know anorexia has incredibly low recovery rates and you can’t really do anything to help them?

mikado1 · 29/12/2025 14:59

It's funny how different weight can look on seemingly similar bodies. I'm 5ft 3 and look horribly underweight at 8 stone but pp looks fine at 7.5.. I've a friend who's taller than me and 8 stone and looks great. So i think it's very hard to know and it is case specific but I'd be desperately underweight looking at that weight.

bemine247 · 29/12/2025 15:00

5,5 and 7,5 stone. I was considered under weight on the NHS maternity tick sheet and had to jump through all sorts of hoops because the tick sheet concluded I must not be eating. Had a 9lb 2oz baby.

It is small but doesn't necessarily meant there's something wrong.

Itsmetheflamingo · 29/12/2025 15:00

mikado1 · 29/12/2025 14:59

It's funny how different weight can look on seemingly similar bodies. I'm 5ft 3 and look horribly underweight at 8 stone but pp looks fine at 7.5.. I've a friend who's taller than me and 8 stone and looks great. So i think it's very hard to know and it is case specific but I'd be desperately underweight looking at that weight.

They say they look fine but they might have an eating disorder. I would really not encourage people to take these posts at face value

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 29/12/2025 15:01

mikado1 · 29/12/2025 14:59

It's funny how different weight can look on seemingly similar bodies. I'm 5ft 3 and look horribly underweight at 8 stone but pp looks fine at 7.5.. I've a friend who's taller than me and 8 stone and looks great. So i think it's very hard to know and it is case specific but I'd be desperately underweight looking at that weight.

Exactly. Some people with a small frame will look fine at this weight. Height really doesn't have much to do with it, it's build that matters. I'm a chunky thing, good peasant stock and I am currently 9 stone at 5'6. That's as low as I dare go, any more weight off and I'm going to look gaunt and wizened. But for other people my height, 9 stone would make them feel huge, if they have very small bones and narrow hips.

ABeerInTheSunshineMakesMeHappy · 29/12/2025 15:02

I guess it depends. It sounds a very low weight to me. Is it an adult or a child? as they are measured differently.

If the person has lost weight without trying, that’s a concern. If they’ve lost weight intentionally, then they’ve gone too far, so yes a concern. If they are elderly and forgetting to eat, that’s a concern.

If they are an adult who has always been this size and appears fit and healthy, it’s not ideal but perhaps that’s their norm? Do they eat normally?

Apparently the BMI calculator is different for teenagers, if they are 16, they are just about in the healthy zone, assuming they have always been slim, but definitely monitor them.

I was 5’4” and weighed 7 stone 10 when I was early 20s. In pictures I look pretty skinny, but I wasn’t unhealthy. I’m more than 4 stone heavier now, plus I’ve lost an inch.

Alwaysaxmasdrama12 · 29/12/2025 15:03

My dd is a child still so not an adult but fully grown now and completed puberty and is 5 ft 4 and 6.6 stone.
She is very slim but doesn’t look tiny / underweight for height.

Catwoman8 · 29/12/2025 15:03

People carry weight very differently, but this does sound underweight if its an adult.

I am the same height and havent been 7 stone since I was a teenager.

Tryingatleast · 29/12/2025 15:04

Knew someone just a lot bit heavier than this, insanely fit and healthy but when she got cancer she went quickly because she had no weight to lose. People talk about being lean etc but as you get older you need some weight on you to fight illness

Brenda34 · 29/12/2025 15:04

It depends. I'm that height and look ill under 9 1/2 stones. I'd look emaciated at 7 stone something. I knew a mum who was a similar weight and height as in the OP and she looked really healthy.

mikado1 · 29/12/2025 15:04

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 29/12/2025 15:01

Exactly. Some people with a small frame will look fine at this weight. Height really doesn't have much to do with it, it's build that matters. I'm a chunky thing, good peasant stock and I am currently 9 stone at 5'6. That's as low as I dare go, any more weight off and I'm going to look gaunt and wizened. But for other people my height, 9 stone would make them feel huge, if they have very small bones and narrow hips.

Ah ok so it's a bigger frame that looks smaller when lighter? Interesting. I look like a big eyed lollipop head much under 8.5 stone. Top half looks particularly skinny, like I'm elderly and underweight if that makes sense!

TheFairyCaravan · 29/12/2025 15:05

I’ve been 7 stone at 5ft 4 and did look unwell because I was. However when I was well and weighed 7st 3 I looked perfectly healthy. I’m now 7st 11 which is about right for me.

Freshstartyear25 · 29/12/2025 15:06

I’m 5 ft 4 and 9 stone 2 and I feel I’m small. My BMI is over 21 and well in the healthy range so I know I’m fine but I always find myself freaking out if I lose even just a pound cos I sort of feel small already.
If I was 7 stone I’ll personally look gaunt.