Visiting family dramas..

[Notaperfectmom]

We were supposed to visit MIL house today for Boxing Day we usually have another Christmas Day and the whole family comes together. BIL and his girlfriend got a dog couple of months ago and they bring him everywhere with them so DH told MIL just to let BIL know that DS is allergic to the dog and to leave him at home Boxing Day. She knows this as she has gave DS piriton on two occasions. She didn’t tell them as she hates being confrontational and we were nearly on our way.

So today got cancelled and now it almost feels like we were overacting as we’ve been told that the dog is hypo-allergenic so it’s not possible. We have a dog ourselves but we don’t bring him everywhere with us. Everytime DS comes into contact with the dog his nose keeps running and he keeps sneezing and his eyes swell up for 2-3 days.

Are we being unreasonable? Why on earth would I bring my son into an environment when I know he is then going to be miserable for the next however many days.

Is he allergic to your dog?

god why do people have to bring dogs everywhere

(dog owner of 2)

Nope funnily enough!

I’ve heard hypoallergenic often isn’t

no such thing

I dont get it. If your DS is OK living with your dog why can't he be around BIL's dog?

Did the piriton help when MIL gave it to him?

How does this work with you also owning a dog?

What dog do you have? Tbh from their perspective it’s not going to seem plausible he’s allergic to their dog & not your own especially if theirs is a non shedding dog. Could something else be causing his allergies? Has MIL changed cleaning products. Does BIL using a spray on the dog that may be causing it.

I had 4 ddogs. Became immune.. Other people's ddogs can see me very poorly.

No such thing as hypo allergic ddogs.
A rouse to get daft folk to part with their cash...

Allergenic....
Not got specs on!!

There’s no such thing as a hypo allergenic animal! 🤣🤣🤣😂😂 just a myth made by breeders who want to charge more for their dogs

I’m the same, mask with my own cats & dog not so with other peoples. Very annoying.

Why did MIL have to relay the request, your DH should have spoken to his own brother ?

For starters, why the hell didn't your husband contact his brother himself?! Why go via mummy? How utterly childish!
Also confused about son who is allergic to dogs but lives with a dog but whose parents insist he doesn't come into contact with other dogs.
Given all of the above. I probably wouldn't be keen to host a family Christmas either.

I’m guessing it’s a cockapoo, as people often say they are hypoallergenic when they mean they shed less.

I went to my daughter's yesterday.
I'm allergic to her dog.
I just took an anti-histamine beforehand and was fine.

Why can't your child just take the piriton ahead of spending time with the dog?

On the face of it, yes, I think you were overreacting.

DH should have said something the last time it happened. I have said that to him!

He’s 3 years old and piriton doesn’t work.

My friend ended up hospitalised after being around her inlaws hypoallergenic dogs! So there's no guarantee at all that your son would be ok.
Also it's pretty shit having to take antihistamines as they render me very sleepy.

Then maybe try other antihistamines. There are other options!

Why didn't you mention that piriton doesn't work for your son in your post? Seems odd that your mil would give it more than once if it doesn't. Gotta love a drip feed!

I can understand why your bil finds it odd your ds isn’t allergic to your dog but would be to his. Also find it odd DH didn’t speak directly to his brother.

I'd be interested to know the breeds of dogs ( yours and BIL'S) , but for a day most dogs can have a big walk , left somewhere safe and can be OK for a few hours. What is your dog that DC is not allergic to , or perhaps has just got used to him ?

Your son is allergic to dogs yet you have a dog? I’d be calling bullshit excuse to not want to come if someone used this on me when they had a dog.

Your husband should have spoken directly to his brother rather than using his mum as a messenger.

Why would we do that? We having Boxing Day every year with them. DS is just allergic to the dog.

It seems a little chinny reckon that your DS is only allergic to their dog...

I'm allergic to cats. I have owned cats.

It's not bullshit. People have different reactions to different breeds, and people can develop a tolerance to their own animals. I certainly do. But I would still react to other people's cats.

But you said they only got it a couple of months ago so how do you know that?