Working all but boxing day and I'll still be expected to cook

[Mardy45]

Care worker here, worked Xmas, and working all sat and sun today is only day off yet partner will still expect a Sunday dinner style meal and won't enter his head to cook it🤔
Not working or anything this week, managed to get away with takeaways Xmas eve👀😊,
Hate been a female!!, happy I've cheated, ready made yorkshire puds mash to microwave and pre cut veg😂😂😂😂, knackered and wondering when my me day is😁

Don't do it then - although sounds like too late for this year
Nothing to do with being female, just have a useless man

your partner needs to cook
or you need to change/dump your partner

As it would be a “you day” and your partner sounds rubbish I think you should decide when it is going to be yourself and just do it

Having had a really good Christmas this year- just me and husband
I have definitely decided that 2026 will be much more about choices that work for me

Have you ever heard of the phrase "more fool you"?

Cook or don’t cook.
don’t sit on here complaining about it though, that’s makes you a Martyr

My husband would feel sorry for me and not let me lift a finger on my day off. Can’t believe you cooked anything for your selfish bastard of a man. I am over the shit men on MN and the doormats that enable them.

Hate been a female!!

No idea what you are on about. Being female does not mean you are the only person allowed in a kitchen, you seem to have very odd thought processes

You’re being a fool, and the smiley faces etc don’t make up for it.

He’s treating you badly. Decide whether or not you are OK with that.

Your partner being a useless lump.of a man that is your issue, not being a woman.

I've ticked yabu because you have put yourself in this role. It's not a "being female" thing, it's a being a doormat thing. If you keep doing it and then coming in here to complain rather than actually standing up for your own needs then why would anything change??

If your relationship is abusive please get in touch with women's aid. If it isn't, then please take control of your life and stop telling yourself that having a thoughtless uncaring partner is just part of being a woman. It isn't.

Fuck that.
Why on gods green earth are you buying into that shite?
Stop it right now!
It’s your own doing so you need to sort it and stop moaning really.
”hate being a female” my arse, you should hate putting up with & allowing such shite from your partner

Just say no? Sorry but you have brought this on yourself.

This isn’t anything to do with being a female op. It’s to do with your very poor choice of partner, and how selfish, sexist and lazy he is. Decent men are not like this.

YABU, and a doormat. Really hope you don't have a DD and instill into her that she must be of servitude to her own detriment simply because of her chromosomes.
Oh and don't teach a DS to be entitled and lazy.

You're a fool. I do have pity, but the choice is in your hands.

No way on earth would I do it.

Genuinely op, can you explain why you think cooking dinner should be your role in this situation?

You all knew in advance the work schedules. Yiu should not always be the default cook. I would have firmly established division of labour in advance. U gave made it very easy for your partner-let him do it.

This is your life, you're choosing it every day. Complaining is pointless if you are just accepting it.

Just because you are female doesn't mean you have to do everything. Go to work , come home and ask what DH has prepared for dinner. Don't fall into the trap of doing everything and then being resentful. The only one who can change it is you.

op you hate being a woman because it’s 100% a situation you created. All your fault. zero sympathy for you. And thinking you cheated’ by buying the sides is just sad really

Why are you putting up with this? I absolutely wouldn’t cook on my only day off. Hope you bought him a cook book for Christmas.

You get what you settle for OP, zero sympathy here!

I'm going to the boxing day sales while DP prepares a buffet lunch for his family. Not sure what being female has to do with anything.

Just don't do it, he knows where the kitchen is.