Neighbours complaining about noisy dc in garden

[Xmasinthegarden]

We got the dc (8 and 5) a lot of presents for the garden (mud kitchen , outdoor toys, football/goals basketball hoop etc) they both have AuDHD and need to let off steam in the fresh air.

They were in the garden 10-1. Then back out again after lunch 230-430.

We had had a text from the neighbours at 115pm saying ‘we have guests today and would appreciate a little less noise from the garden thanks’ which I ignored but when the dc went back out at 230pm we had them knocking and telling us that they have family there and some are quite elderly and want peace and quiet and their niece has a newborn and all the commotion from our garden is very irritating as they are trying to relax in their conservatory. I said that the dc were not being that noisy and they wouldn’t be out there past 430 anyway. They said if this happens again tomorrow they will file a ‘noise complaint’ and may call the police!

The dc were just playing, not screaming or fighting. Just running about. Some ball bouncing yes but nothing terrible. They play out pretty much every day and this hasn’t been an issue before ? The neighbours moved in Feb this year so obviously it’s their first Xmas here but they would have known our dc play out a lot ?

They have text now with a ‘gentle reminder - tomorrow needs to be a calm peaceful day. Thanks for your cooperation’ wtf !!!

AIBU to ignore this ? We are home in the morning them leaving at 1230 to see my parents so if the dc play in the garden it wont be for that long just 2/3 hours in the morning.

I can’t help but wonder whether they will be as tolerant when the kids are out every day from 8 am to 6 pm during weekends and holidays. going forward, now they’ve finally spoken up after 10 months

Yeah and telling people to “get to fuck” is so part of the festive season.

My takeaway from the posts was the request was made due to elderly guests visiting on this occasion. I assumed neither party was new to the area.. 🤷‍♀️

It’s giving…

Tell them to sod off. My neighbour complained about my children playing in the back garden, playing in the front garden, playing in the street, bouncing on the trampoline- it should only be used for exercise apparently 🤷🏻‍♀️🙄) and then complained I was playing with my children in my house. I ignore her. She’s a miserable woman and hates everything.

One what?

Ignore them. They’re being ridiculous.

Screw the neighbours and screw some of the ridiculous comments on this thread. OP is giving access to the garden at reasonable hours and general children’s noise isn’t considered a statutory nuisance but let neighbours call the police if they want to. The kids have as much right to enjoy the garden as anyone. It’s a hard job managing ND kids.

Well thats exactly what the CF NDNs are doing by demanding silence from the OPs kids, arent they?

So yeh, they CAN get to fuck and fuck off to the woods or the Moon if they want silence.

They dont get to dictate what the OPs kids can or cannot do in their own home and garden during daylight hours.

WTF will the cunty neighbours do when the kids grow up and make more noise in their home/garden during the longer summer daylight hours? Will they bring more bubble wands? Fucking ridiculous.

Two types of people in this world. Those who try to be considerate of others and those who think fuck everyone else, you can’t legally make me so I will do what I want.

The niece also had a newborn

Why shouldn't your children play outside and have fun?
I would assume neighbour has double glazing so shouldn't be able to hear much noise anyway, or do they have all the windows open.
We miss hearing the neighbour's children playing in the garden, when we are outside, as they now spend their days indoors on their tablets or watching tv. So sad.
Let your children enjoy themselves.
Perhaps you can speak to your local police officer, just a friendly chat, then they will be aware if there are further issues with the neighbour. You should be able to find a drop in via your local Facebook page.

I interpreted it the same way . Neighbours haven’t said a word all year , but they have elderly guests and a young baby.
They are just asking for a few hours of peace to enjoy their Christmas.
But no this is too much to ask .

@HelplessSoul do you think you sound clever using that language?

You have to understand that's a difference between living surrounded by other people's screaming kids and your kids being the only screaming kids in that immediate area.

Look at the aggressive, sweary thug parent on the thread! I bet your kids are feral! Not everybody has kids these days and they certainly don't have to tolerate the behaviour of other people's out of control kids! So don't use the excuse that other people will have kids that will do the same!
At my last house it used to be a nightmare when the kids next door but one used to be in the garden for hours with two or three of them permanently communicating with each other by nasty full throttle screeching! Many of you don't teach your kids to talk anymore, you let them scream and screech themselves silly! People like you let them do it in beer gardens etc too! The health issues it must cause when kids just don't stop screeching and screaming for hours! There must surely be damaging to their throats and voice boxes! But people like you clearly don't care! And the family next door but one to my old house were also the sort of people that left their dogs outside barking for extended periods. Foul mouthed, selfish families like yours don't tend to be liked in most neighborhoods I'm afraid.

Erm, you've made quite a leap there! I wasn't advised of any planning work and of course wouldn't have objected anyway. I'm NOT a selfish prick!

But they could've popped a note in or texted (we've always remained on 'hello, you alright' terms over the years) just to let me know there was going to be loud work everyday, all day, for a few months. They didn't, I didn't say anything but it was disruptive and, yeah, I think they're selfish prices. I don't dislike them or anything and wouldn't do anything hostile, I can just think they're selfish prices without it being any deeper than that.

'Pricks' obviously! Also, you're quite rude to me in your reply, why? I wasn't rude to OP.

If they havent commented all year from 8am to 6pm. Then you might not acknowledge it but they are probably very good neighbours. Kids play and its normal to expect noise but hearing a foot ball constantly banging is irritating and kids screaming or shouting or banging a ball as it hits the fence. Being reasonable and you buying a goal net to limit the noise could be just being considerate or asking you for an occasional quiet afternoon isnt really unreasobable. After all, you probably are glad of the reprieve when they can play out in the garden from the noise. Which kids do when excited when its constant, it can be stressful. You have probably tuned it out over the years how loud they are to some extent. They probably dont use their garden because of the noise. They have just been too polite till now to say so. Its only been mentioned as its a special event for them. They probably havent mentioned the three hours in the morning of noise and they wanted to sleep in on a weekend but couldnt as the noise wakes them. I guarentee they have probably bit their lip a number of times and put the noise down to kids being kids.
Its probably a one off or every now and then. It wouldnt hurt to take the kids to the park instead or ask then to play a quieter game. Somtimes just for peace, its worth compromising or putting yourself out. It might be distressing for granny Iris whos 90. To have a ball banging and worry it will knock her in the head if it sails over for example.
You can make it a point of saying you dont mind for the odd occasion but its general noise and thats allowed for certain hours in the day. Been kind on the odd occasion will benefit you and your family when the next time you have building work or have a party or you need your neighbours to understand them being inconvinienced by things you need to do.

Look at the aggressive, sweary thug parent on the thread!

There are quite a few aren't there.

Why?! Maybe the elderly relatives and neices baby should leave if its such an issue!

Wonder how OP would react if the neighbours constantly made a noise or did activities (within legal limits) which triggered her DC?

Stop letting them out for so long

S that's not unreasonable! Some people do live near the sea

@Xmasinthegarden why do people like that buy a house in a residential area, kids outside will make normal kid noise. They cant tell you to keep it quiet. I would ignore.