Probably - but people too lazy to cook their own christmas dinner are spoiling mine

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My youngest DS is 16 and works in a pub kitchen. Dish washing, food prep, plating starters/dessert. He is contracted to do 8 hours a week which is usually OK. Obviously this time of year is busy and because he is not at school he has more shifts.

School finished on Friday, he worked Friday evening. And Saturday, and Sunday. Did an extra shift on Monday afternoon as they were short. Yesterday was rostered 11-6 but got home at 22.50 as they were so busy and needed to prep for the 700 covers they have booked today between 12 and 4.30pm. He starts again at 10am this morning, and although they have said he'll be done by 6.30 I don't believe that so he will more than likely miss our family meal.

So all of you paying £85 a head for Christmas lunch in a very standard chain pub, thanks for that.

Totally appreciate that some people have to work and we are all grateful to the police, fire, midwives etc. But going out for your Chrtistmas lunch is not essential.

Another one who's rude.

Merry Christmas to you too.

I’m going out for Xmas lunch! It’s a treat not lazy.

I’d encourage him to enjoy the fun of the shift rather than give “baby who can’t be away from mammy” vibes. And you’re old enough to woman up and look forward to his return

Will you also find it selfish that people are going swimming on a weekend? or people going shopping at the weekends?

After all, no-one "needs" to swim or shop at the weekends

my ds worked in a pub since the age of 18
no longer
but for many years he did
we worked around him
he is a marvellous cook now and has made christmas dinners for so many years

Many of us don't have all our family around us on Christmas Day, be it emergency workers, hospitality, bereavement, sharing our DC with their other half's parents. It's shit, but it is one day, one day you can reschedule to another day if you so wish.

I think it's great he's working, it's character and resilience building and shows he has a great work ethic. Fair play to him.

He's 16! He didn't have to agree to any of this in anyway, the only person you need to have a word with if you have a problem with this is your son. I've worked in lots of hospitality and would guarantee he has willingly agreed to this and asked for more hours as the £££ for him will be a lot at 16, which is very tempting and he's not as fussed as you about him being at home and doesn't appreciate how you will feel.

He is on double time, they pay him £8 per hour so that's £16 per hour. Yes there will be tips but the division of those is another sore point with kitchen team. Front of house get 75% of tips and kitchen get 25% between them.

It’s pretty selfish of you to have your Christmas dinner when he’s not there! But well done that boy!

If it's a service offered, you can't blame people for taking part in it. Workers on Christmas get well paid for their time, at least where I am. I've never been out for Christmas lunch but some jobs run into Christmas. Just how it is.

Restaurants are people’s living and christmas is peak time. Your post is completely ridiculous.

Absolutely. I hear of so many young people who want a job and cannot find one. I would be pleased he has one. Work experience at this age will help him get other jobs in future. Just make sure he is being paid the right amount, understands how to read payslips and records how much he works so he can check pay.

Lots of people stay in hotels over Christmas because they're visiting loved ones, and there isn't space or it isn't possible for them to stay with the people they've come to see. Or they might be taking a Christmas holiday. The hotel staff, including those in the kitchen and restaurant, will be working.

Is that lazy and immoral too?

Well he's gone to work now to start at 11 am and we are supposed to be eating at 7 after he finishes at 6.30. But last night he was supposed to finish at 6.30 and was not home until almost 11pm. Which I think anyone would agree is a bit late for dinner.

He is not the only child in the family and others have things going on every day so it's not as easy just to shift it all to another day. I also disagree with the comparisons to weekends, or occasions like Valentine's Day. Those are standard working days for almost everyone. Christmas is about the only bank holiday where almost everything is closed.

I do not think people eating out at Christmas are necessarily lazy. I have only eaten out once at Christmas Day. It was to give the person who usually cooked a break. Considered it this year. Expensive but so is Christmas at home.

It’s not the fault of the people going out for lunch, they aren’t lazy they are utilising a service that’s on offer and paying handsomely for it! You can’t be mad at people who want to go out for their Xmas lunch 😂

Having said that our local closes Christmas Day because they value their staff and want them to enjoy the time with their families especially after the hectic run up to Christmas. Maybe your son would be better working in a different pub or maybe a different sector altogether.

Honestly this is the silliest thread I’ve read in ages.

It’s what Jesus would’ve wanted!

God what an utter idiot you are OP

Yep. I've always said people who eat out on Xmas day are selfish as fuck

At least you’ll get to see your son today. Think of all those having to work today and being away from their families, protecting our streets and country. Think of those who don’t get to see their child today as they’ve passed. With all due respect, suck it up.

Thank you for sharing that feedback 😁

With 5000 people!

Good luck doing that with no catering staff.

What an odd take. Hospitality is struggling and restaurants have to take the work that’s out there. A busy Christmas period will keep the lights on and staff paid in January. Your son isn’t being taken advantage of, this was explained clesrly and he chose to accept this job. Good for him!

Shitty first jobs are a rite of passage. Most of us have done them. I’ve worked Christmas before, just one of those things.

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