To feel sorry for the DMIL’s at this time of year?

[JayF2]

The Mumsnetter DMIL’s that is. Don’t get me wrong, I know some will be horrible. But the poor buggers can’t get a break! If they so much as break wind they will receive an essay of a post on here bemoaning their character!

I’ve had 3 MILs from 2 different marriages - all were nicer and kinder to me than my DM - but I’m quite a laid back person and don’t sweat the small stuff and I’m not rigid about things - although I would draw the line at the 6am MIL poster.

YANBU! For what it's worth I had a nice one but sadly she had a brain tumor and we lost her at 60. My mum is lovely and well meaning, but the verbal diarrhoea is another level which I get can be annoying. Hopefully her caring side with shine through if my brother ever settles. I have 2 boys so I have no chance 😅

They really are not. I would love a nice MIL, even a half nice one would do. God I have met lovely ladies where I think why can't they be my MIL. Dh doesn't have a Mum (complicated circumstances). I've a very strained relationship with my own DM and this makes the lack of MIL even worse! I am only in more frequent contact with DM due to my young dcs, otherwise it would be low contact. For the record aswell, I have boys, so I am ready to be the MIL from hell🤣. I always find lovely DILs seem to have bad MILs, and amazing MIL's have bad DIL's!!

I won't say my own mother is an angel. But MIL has her moments. Last year it was forgetting one of her SIL is allergic to oranges 3 times and bringing orange juice to every meal, get adapting everything to be gluten free for the other SIL despite this being a preference. I am pregnant and have been offered smoked salmon 3 times, because "I can't remember everything you can't eat" but other DIL food preference (very loose vegetarian) is pandered too.

Second this 🤣

My MIL is fine, I’m sure I could nit pick and find things to be annoyed about but I’m also sure she could do the same with me. A lot of the MIL rage I find is actually more about having a useless husband and that resentment boiling over. My husband isn’t shy to stand up for himself (not that he has much reason to) but I also want him to be happy so wouldn’t dream of nit picking at my MIL because I’m sure it wouldn’t make him feel great.

Love my MIL. She’s amazing. My own mum is too. Had both sets of parents over Christmas Day all together, was great.

Schrödinger's MIL?

Mil turned up with friends , ate ops cake , took baby out and then took him in place she didn't want him to go .

That's it folks!

Maybe the difference being the daughter understands her mum and will tell her to pack her shit in.

While the daughter in law fumes under the surface with a partner who won’t tell his mum to pack it in.