To be annoyed at this?

[ByDreamyLimeLurker]

Hi all, dont know if im just overreacting.

To cut a long story short, struggling a lot with sleep lately due to pregnancy and DP hogging the bed. We have a kingsize so theres plenty room for both. Im now getting bigger with bump and DP has recently resorted to either lying on top of me or giving me such little space im hanging off the bed. This has now been happening for around 3 weeks.

Around 30 minutes ago he woke me up because he started lying on top of me again. Asked him to move around 5 times over the 30 minute period. Kept getting an attitude off him so i eventually lifted my pillows and a blanket to head downstairs for the sofa as ive got an early start at 5am.

As i took my pillows he woke up and said "what are you doing?" So i replied "im just heading downstairs to sleep because I dont want to keep waking you up when you start work tomorrow at 2pm" after i said this i was hit with "aw whatever, BYE!" in a very sarcastic way.

AIBU? i feel like hes being a bit selfish considering im not as small as i used to be now bump is well and truly out there.

He sounds like a petulant toddler

I normally find posts like this on MN quite over the top, but to be honest I can’t believe a grown man would suddenly start LYING ON TOP OF A SLEEPING PREGNANT WOMAN and have no idea he’s doing it.

so I’m sorry, but I tend to agree that this sounds like abuse.

He sounds awful, OP. My husband has never once lain on top of me in his sleep, much less when I was pregnant, and if he ever did, he would be very apologetic about it, not have an attitude.

This just isn’t normal.

Oh OP this is such a massive red flag.
my abusive ex also made me sleep elsewhere during pregnancy, also after the birth when I was ill with an infection so was disturbing him! He went on to become more and more abusive over years. You need to keep a diary so you don’t become like a frog in a gradually boiling pot.

Update 2:

Sorry for the delay in updates as I was trying to make christmas extra special for my wee ones this year as we had a rough one last year due to illness.

Thankfully my pregnancy pillow came and he couldnt roll on top of me, he tried nicking it in his sleep but i took the other side and bonked him right in the face with it. He soon turned his back to me 🤣

He started doing this lying on top of me carry on sporadically back in june then its just been constant the last 3 weeks. Explained to him yesterday that what i was saying wasnt coming from a place of malice or malicious intent, just simply looking to safeguard the bump as sleeping positions are very important especially when high risk. Turns out hes not been taking his sertraline and thats why hes been a bit hot headed. I explained its not an excuse and hes almost 30 years old so must continue to take his medication on his own without me having to prompt him as i know he can do it.

I actually ended up sleeping in this morning it was great!

he tried nicking it in his sleep...

I'm afraid I'm not convinced that he's doing it in his sleep. He sounds horrific, setraline or no setraline.

Keep you and your precious bump safe ❤️

He should sleep downstairs, at least while you're pregnant and recovering from pregnancy/regularly up during the night with feedings, etc. After things are somewhat back to normal you can reevaluate and perhaps consider separate beds in the bedroom if there's still an issue.

He knows what he’s doing. He’s not a good man

To be fair I don't know when I move in my sleep, nor does DH. We've both woken up with the other in our space or hogging the covers. Are separate beds an option?

I didnt say it was purely because of the size of my bump. I said i was anxious because i now have one.

Nah, abuse very often starts in pregnancy. Be careful.

Be careful and keep your eyes open. It sounds deliberate to me.

Have you been enjoying the christmas sherry?

I should buy Two Single beds ,put them TOGETHER and if he's still a prob. MOVE them apart. Surely this is not Rocket science, unless you're flat broke or short of space in the room. This could just be a temp measure.

We didnt live together when i was pregnant with previous children as I stayed with my grand mother as her carer

Eh send him to the spare room ?! Under no circumstances should a pregnant woman have to leave her bed this is outrageous! What a manchild. He needs to grow up before the actual child arrives.

As per my update I posted my pregnancy pillow has fixed the issue thankfully, hes sleeping close as I'm typing this but hes unable to roll on me and he cant scoot me over closer to the edge

I said this to him, he was very childish and selfish considering Im growing our baby for the next few months!

His partner is pregnant and he decides that this is the perfect time to stop taking his medication? And would being off his medication mean that he spoke to you like that?

Honestly? This does not sound like a good or caring partner. I’m sure he has lots of positive points, but his reaction to the mother of his child going to sleep on the sofa because of him is really not a good sign.

God help you.
Yet another pregnant woman with a nasty abusive arsehole.
Stop having children with an abusive man.
Talk to your health visitor.

My ex used to move in his sleep and take up extra bed, it was 100% not on purpose, he would gladly move when i gently woke him but he was in a deep sleep and unaware.

People seem to have decided all.sorts but it comes across to me thats its accidental. His attitude isnt great but its hard if you are being held accountable for something you dont know/cant stop yourself from doing.

I think the long body pillow is worth a try, or he sleeps elsewhere while youre pregnant, which is sounds like he is doing now?

So forever more you’re planning to sleep with a pregnancy pillow?