To be annoyed at this?

[ByDreamyLimeLurker]

Hi all, dont know if im just overreacting.

To cut a long story short, struggling a lot with sleep lately due to pregnancy and DP hogging the bed. We have a kingsize so theres plenty room for both. Im now getting bigger with bump and DP has recently resorted to either lying on top of me or giving me such little space im hanging off the bed. This has now been happening for around 3 weeks.

Around 30 minutes ago he woke me up because he started lying on top of me again. Asked him to move around 5 times over the 30 minute period. Kept getting an attitude off him so i eventually lifted my pillows and a blanket to head downstairs for the sofa as ive got an early start at 5am.

As i took my pillows he woke up and said "what are you doing?" So i replied "im just heading downstairs to sleep because I dont want to keep waking you up when you start work tomorrow at 2pm" after i said this i was hit with "aw whatever, BYE!" in a very sarcastic way.

AIBU? i feel like hes being a bit selfish considering im not as small as i used to be now bump is well and truly out there.

How about "here's a suitcase...now piss off"

I tend to sleep right on the edge of the bed but still get clonked by accident by my partner...I get a full blown apology though.

So he thinks you should just shut up and put up with not sleeping, so he can carry on as he is?

@Justchilling07

She doesnt need her DP treating her like he is, and then claiming he's not at fault or doing anything to rectify, she needs to get a grip of it now and change her own behaviour towards him before baby arrives and stop enabling him to treat her badly. Why should she be moving in the middle of the night, why should she be wondering what else to say to make him see hes being a shit.

He let his heavily pregnant wife get out of bed and fuck off to another room... rather than moving over in bed and saying - oh im sorry I WILL MOVE OVER - come back to bed.

Thats not a nice guy. Half asleep or not.

I'm a very light sleeper and dh often flails around in the night - because of this he regularly offers to go in the spare room and is always really apologetic if he's kept me up even though it's not his fault. This is how a decent, caring partner behaves. I know you're pregnant but I'd be seriously considering the relationship at this point

I hope he grows up when the baby arrives!

You mentioned you have another child, is that one his too? If so, was he like this during your first pregnancy or is this a new development?

@ByDreamyLimeLurker
My DD gave me her pregnancy pillow (once she'd given birth), U-shaped, approx 6ft long.
Its like sleeping in the arms of an angel!
Your H will probably pinch it though, he sounds completely selfish, wft disturbs his pregnant wife then reacts sarcastically, he's a knob

Unless he can start behaving like a decent adult man he needs to leave. Fuck that. Do NOT put up with that behaviour!

Just sending strength OP. He sounds like a right wee pig

Absolute prat and completely selfish. Is he always like this as it doesn't bode well for the future if so.

King-size is 5 foot wide, so that's only 2.5 foot each (a regular single is 3ft), I find a king size cramped even when I'm not pregnant. You have less room each than in a single.

Super king is a game changer.

I feel sad that you having a child with this excuse of a man

Can you sleep in seperate rooms going forward?

Get out of bed and climb in the other side. With any luck he will keep shuffling forward towards where you were and fall out of bed. Bonus if you leave a cold wet towel on the floor your side of the bed, or maybe a whoopee cushion.

He’s an arse, roll up a blanket, place it down the centre of the bed and tell him to keep to his side if the blanket, or tell him to sleep in the spare room/sofa

I slept in a bed on my own when I was pregnant. I couldn’t hack it and needed my space.

Showing this much disregard for your current state AND the health of the baby by adding extra weight to you by lying on you (we're all warned about sleeping positions when pregnant) is a huge red flag. This man sounds too selfish to be a parent. If anyone, he should be offering to sleep on the couch, not you. I'd be reconsidering the whole relationship tbh but that's just me.

I think the vast majority of people want their own space when sleeping never mind when pregnant. I have 2 kids and a double bed and my partner and I never had any issues, he stayed to his half and me mine. It's really unacceptable and he should be apologetic and trying to come up with a solution. I've awful health anxiety and if someone was lying on top of me when heavily pregnant it would panic me.

The man is stealing pillows from his pregnant wife and causing her sleep trouble.. even if he was genuinely doing this in his sleep upon being told he is causing her strife a good half decent husband would feel bad nad apologise, this shit head has decided to become defensive and argumentative and allow his uncomfortable wife to sleep on the sofa instead of himself.

This isn't a nice man at all in any way.

So he rolls on top of you? Did he do this before you were pregnant? Either way he needs to be more mindful when he does realise

Do you have a spare room? Get a bed to yourself if so. You'll never look back.

Make sure he never has the baby in bed with him. He would crush it.

It's like some men take pregnancy as a signal to become utter cunts!

You are being unreasonable to refer to this selfish, overgrown child as a “partner”. He’s anything but.