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Christmas - do i contact my childrens dad

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Flowerpowersss · 23/12/2025 16:57

My ex left me 3 months ago , he wont be seeing the children on christmas day but will proberly call and face time them , the children are happy to spend it with me and my family this year ( the first time in 17years ) ..

Its xmas eve tomorow and hes shown no sign of communicating with me about maybe seeing them tomorow .

Do i contact him ? .

He sees them every other weekend supervised due to him drinking alcohol during our marrige and i just cant trust him .

He spoke on the phone with the kids yesterday and my eldest didnt want to talk after feeling awkward as he was clearly under the influance .

I have a fun evening planned tomorow and im not to botherd about him seeing them , i wont chase him and if he doesnt show willing to see them i wont push it ...

Please dont tell me im.a bad mum , im trying to keep my kids from being sad and myself

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TinselTitts · 23/12/2025 16:59

You've forgotten to tell us their ages.

Are they old enough to contact him themselves?

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 23/12/2025 16:59

I think it would be fine to get in touch and ask him when he plans to see/speak to the children

Endofyear · 23/12/2025 17:44

No I wouldn't. Make plans to have a lovely day with your kids. If he was bothered about seeing them, he would have called you to arrange it.

APatternGrammar · 23/12/2025 17:50

Don’t contact him. Nothing obliges you to, he knows how to get in touch with you if he had wanted to arrange something.

Flowerpowersss · 23/12/2025 17:58

They are 12 and have their own phones , he spoke to them today and said nothing about seeing the😟

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