Child in nursery today and tomorrow 8am til 6pm

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Who's children are still in nursery today and tomorrow.

My daughter in law is working 8 til 6 pm today and tomorrow in the local nursery for babies from 6 weeks to 4 year old pre schoolers.

They have maybe 10 children in each room still, this close to Christmas.

Most have older siblings and they drop off saying they are not working but want a nice chilled day at home.

I know some parents have to work but most are at home.

These are years that they won't get back with their children , I know that they need to do last minute prep etc but leaving children at nursery until 6pm on Christmas Eve is such a shame for the children and the staff.
Am I being unreasonable?

Yes because my toddler would LOVE to be dragged round the ridiculously over crowded shops getting last minute food shopping AND THAN she can sit and watch me wrap up her presents from santa....

Or she can go off and have lots of christmassy fun with her friends at nursery.

Why do you mention your DIL but not your DS?

I think people who choose to put them in until 6 on Xmas Eve so they can chill are selfish (but I've never come across this in real life... my son's nursery is shut tomorrow).

But if people have to work they have to work. There are always threads about how parents of young children shouldn't get priority over annual leave during Christmas, some people won't have a choice but to send them. It's a shame for the DC (and them!) but I'm sure nursery staff will make it a nice day.

ODFOYD
Not my fault if I hit a nerve🙄

What does he have to do with this? The DIL is WORKING at the nursery. The OP doesn’t even say if they have children.

My nursery shuts at 12 tomorrow. And I’m sending her! I’ve got a bit of work to finish off

They probably have some nice activities planned; the parents are either working or maybe doing their Xmas prep in peace!
even better to my mind is that you say it’s a small group! So they’ll probably enjoy it more and do some fun things. X

Maybe because you’ve listed the OP? The son is irrelevant here. The daughter in law is working at the nursery - nothing to do with their own children, if they even have any.

If only people didnt have to work. Most shops here close at 6 today and tomorrow.

If only people didnt have ill relatives over christmas or funerals or serious matters that they need childcare for.

If only people would stop judging other families for the decisions they are entitled to make.

What you mean is your daughter in law is moaning that she has to work tomorrow Lots of other people have to work tomorrow. Some people are working Christmas Day.

Why is it a shame for the staff OP?! Is it a shame for the bus drivers, train drivers, taxi drivers, emergency services, hospital workers, retail assistants and countless others who have to work?

I only have the bank holidays off this year - I don’t work in an essential job but someone in my team has to be online and this year it’s me.

So no it’s not a shame that people have to work. It’s totally normal.

Depends on the child …

This is so mean spirited. When I had little ones with no family help and a partner who worked log hours nursery was the only time I had to do anything that didn't involve children and sometimes that involved sleep or resting or seeing the doctor or actually having a haircut or going shopping without spoiling the magic of Santa.

Surely those kids in nursery until late on Christmas Eve have someone who could spend the day with them. I don’t believe they’re all working.

Sounds fair enough to me. Parents are likely WFH or have prep to do. It’s impossible to get anything done with nursery age kids! School age kids can usually manage to entertain themselves, won’t tantrum in the supermarket or try to kill themselves whilst you’re making the spare room bed…

Wow

Are you judging your son as harshly as you're judging your DIL?
Or yourself? Did you offer to have them instead?

Your grandchildren are being looked after people who are trained to do so and presumably know your grandchildren well.

Lots of people have to work this week; it's their job requirement and they have bills to pay.

WE need lots of people to work this week as well: police, firefighters, doctors, nurses, paramedics, border patrol, people who rescue people when their cars break down, people who deal with car crashes, shopworkers, emergency vets, bus drivers, train drivers, taxi drivers (for those who want to drink with their families and be able to get home), etc And childcare workers.

But I do genuinely think there are a large percentage of people who forget just how challenging toddlers are, even ‘easy’ ones. I could have done with nipping into town today. I just wouldn’t with my two year old, not unless it was an absolute emergency. So it will have to wait. I would have been tempted to have sent her to nursery for half a day if today / tomorrow was a day she attended nursery (it isn’t unfortunately!)

If the nursery has chosen to open, and therefore will be charging parents whether or not their kids go, the parents are completely within their rights to use it. Practically and morally. Some parents will have to work, some may choose to work, some will have Christmas admin to do, some may just need a break before chaos and mayhem starts, some may want to spend quality time with older siblings. There are many many reasons the kids will still be there. And all of them are absolutely fine.

We have a childminder, not nursery, and she has chosen to work a couple of days each week. Therefore we have to pay her for those days. I am self employed so could absolutely choose not to work, but have a lot of work on right now. We will spend 10 of the 14 days over the Christmas period as a family, so see no issue with using childcare on the others. We have no family support nearby, so the time my DC is at childcare is the only respite we get. It means we get the opportunity to do some things during that time that would take longer or be more awkward to do if our younger DC was around, and hopefully the time together will then be better and more relaxed, without dragging a little one around shops etc finishing errands.

You may feel frustrated that your DD is working later than you would like for your family time, however it is her choice not to use annual leave and there are many professions where work is needed 24/7, way past 6pm on Christmas eve. I have worked a number of Christmas days previously, it is really not unusual and I expect it is a bigger frustration to you than her.

Currently sat on the sofa with my nine month old baby while our 3 year old DD is in nursery and it is peaceful BLISS.

She barely knows what Christmas is and will get plenty of time with us over the next week while nursery is closed.

Wind your neck in, OP.

Of course you’re being unreasonable! My daughter’s normal nursery days are Tuesday and Wednesday. They shut early Christmas Eve at 4pm but today she’s gone 8:30-5:30 because I have to work! Tomorrow she is going in the morning because shock I have loads to do including a 2.5 hour round trip drive to collect my partners children for Christmas! My daughter is 2, she will have much more fun at nursery than stuck in the car with me!

what a crazy thread. The world doesn’t stop for Christmas unfortunately not all of us get 2 weeks off work

I work in a nursery and we already know all of the children that will be there until 1pm when we shut tomorrow. It’s sad really that they aren’t at home with families that’s where I will be with my daughter

All the mums who are at home full time, either SAHM or on maternity leave, and have no help and are either single mums or have a partner working away.. they do manage really well.

People make it sound that they are so not used to look after their own kids they must get rid of them to get anything done.

If it was true, that would make an interesting argument in favour of useless dads who can't look after their own kids at the weekend or evenings because they're at work all day during the week. I cannot agree with that.

Its a working day and not everyone can be off

Does the nursery still charge the parents if they were to keep the child off nursery?

Why don’t you take the GC then instead? Imagine judging and creating a post about your DIL for working. Why not your son??
im a sahm and sent my toddler in today. I needed the time and space to shop, prep and tidy without her in my way. What is it to you?

If nurseries allowed people to not pay for these days if not using them, far fewer children would be brought.

A lot of people have a mindset of "I will use it because I've paid for it". If you work full time its so hard to find the time to do all the Christmas cooking and shopping. People end up thinking "well im paying for that nursery day" and drop the toddler off to get jobs done.

I know what you mean tho op.i never sent mine to childcare unless i had to, but that's my choice