Dh got me a watch…from Primark

[Twinklylightseverywhere]

Would this bother or am I being mean?

Dd went with Dh today to get my present.
Dd is only 6 and couldn’t resist and told me, when Dh went out that they got me a gold watch…from Primark 😬 Dd said to me that I’ve been wanting a watch for ages..?! I have literally never mentioned a watch and haven’t worn one for years. If I wanted to wear one, I have a classic silver Armani one from years ago that just needs a new battery, i’d wear that.
Dd was excited so I made all the right noises and acted excited

Is it just me? I didn’t even know they sold watches in Primark. I’m not knocking the shop as would be happy with fluffy socks, pjs, hot water bottle, candle..anything else really

Yeah, I’m afraid a watch from Primark wouldn’t be top of my Christmas list either… but if they had a small budget, and they think it’s a nice thing, then maybe just go along with it…

Is this your present from your DH or your present from your DD?

Your present from your DD should be whatever they choose for you. If your DH is being cheap and giving no thought that is something else entirely.

Yanbu

He sounds lazy

I would think if i was 6 I wouldnt know if I was in Primark or Harrods.

Maybe he bought for you from your child. Ie asked what do you want to buy mummy for xmas and he will get you something from him. ?

Oh that's a bit rough @Twinklylightseverywhere 😬

It's not a gold watch though, not from Primark!

I would assume he was getting you a proper present from himself and he did a lovely thing by letting your daughter choose the thing for you that she had considered thoughtfully and was excited about. He probably knows you don't wear a watch so anything more expensive would likely be pointless.

If you have a six year old with him you must know what he’s usually like with presents.

So it entirely depends.

My niece bought my husband a car washing sponge one year, I think she bought her Dad some soap. I got a tiny notebook. We all acted thrilled.

Hopefully, your husband let your daughter lead on this gift choice. Perhaps he’s got you something different.

I’m not sure really? I said not to spend much and am genuinely not bothered about a gift as I like to spend more on Dd and some nice days out instead. Perhaps she saw it and dh went along with it, i’d even prefer just a necklace from there, I never wear a watch 🤷🏻‍♀️😅 I will say I love it though etc of course

If it’s from DD and she chose it, then that’s lovely and I would wear it sometimes to make her happy.

if it’s your actual present from DH, then he is yet another slovenly low-effort male who “can’t buy presents” 🙄 and I’d be really disappointed. I’d be asking him what thought process he went through to arrive at a cheap watch in a colour you don’t like. Men like this rely on women being too emotionally squeamish to call them out for lazy crap.

He is usually quite rubbish but always thinks he has got something great so I don’t want to hurt his feelings
Last year I said pjs, but again said I wasn’t fussed about a gift. I wear simple checked or striped fairly baggy, comfy ones. He got winnie the pooh in that clingy, unflattering thick, fluffy material. I’m in my 40’s, just not my thing at all 😂

I think this is probably my gift and nothing else and that’s fine, just now i’ll have to make a big fuss and wear it all the time 🤣

Are you sure a GOLD watch isn’t too lovely to wear daily - more of a ‘special occasions’ watch. Like, holidays abroad, or wearing to the cinema perhaps?

You have mentioned several times that you’re not bothered about a gift and to not bother spending on you etc etc

why is this? You absolutely should be bothered about a gift and so should your husband.‘don’t be down on yourself - you matter

Well what usually happens? Do you usually get a lovely present from DH and a little present from DD that she wraps herself or what? It’s not clear.

When I was married we got each other normal gifts from ourselves but would also get presents from DD that she would choose and “wrap” etc. Now we are divorced we just get the DD presents for each other. They are my favourite gifts because she chooses them, but often they aren’t stylistically what I’d choose either. But she’s always super proud and it melts me. So I wear the earings or display the picture or whatever it is.

If my ex bought me shitty presents from him though I’d not have been thrilled.

edited as you posted again while I was writing this. If he buys you shit presents then it tells you what he thinks of you-it’s either lack of effort/care or deliberate. None are good!

Yes, I think you have a valid point there….😂

No honestly i’m not, we don’t have loads at the moment and must admit I love spending more on Dd and we will spend money on nice food and a few meals and treat days out. I would much rather that than money on a proper gift

I think it's very cute if it's from your 6 year old but if it covers them both he needs a reality check.

Definitely not deliberate, I just think he thinks it’s what i’ll like, not sure. Tbh though he’s always gone with Dd the last few years, so the input is likely largely from her

I don't think I'd be too upset if I had a 6 year old and they were really excited to get me the 'perfect' thing, and my husband had steered them towards a cheap option for it. I'd be glad they hadn't spent huge amounts of money and that she was pleased with the gift she had bought. It sounds like she's very excited!

Now if your husband had bought it for you as his gift to you, that's a different story.

I’m not sure how you can’t see that it either means he doesn’t know you at all-which is terrible or he does know you won’t like it but doesn’t care.

Routinely buying terrible presents that you think your life partner will like really isn’t a sign of a good, attentive partner. Don’t settle for it.

At 6yo you couldn’t tell the difference to Harrods?

I’d let your daughter wear it as a ‘treat’ and gradually she can acquire permanent rights to it through habitual use. That is definitely Primarkian common law.

As a bonus thought, she may even drop it down the back of a radiator. Oh no. Never mind.

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