Dh got me a watch…from Primark

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Would this bother or am I being mean?

Dd went with Dh today to get my present.
Dd is only 6 and couldn’t resist and told me, when Dh went out that they got me a gold watch…from Primark 😬 Dd said to me that I’ve been wanting a watch for ages..?! I have literally never mentioned a watch and haven’t worn one for years. If I wanted to wear one, I have a classic silver Armani one from years ago that just needs a new battery, i’d wear that.
Dd was excited so I made all the right noises and acted excited

Is it just me? I didn’t even know they sold watches in Primark. I’m not knocking the shop as would be happy with fluffy socks, pjs, hot water bottle, candle..anything else really

I agree with others, OP - please don’t devalue yourself.

Commenting because I NEED to know what you end up being given on Christmas Day.
I didn’t think Primark sold jewellery so maybe you dd has somehow misunderstood? Mixed up the shop name with another? <feeling hopeful>

My DH once went to co op and bought me take a break magazine, red velvet cupcakes (I hate red velvet) and a hairbrush on my actual birthday.

£10 well spent.

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At least it wasn't, also in Primark, the Rita Ora Rectangular Faux Leather Watch

@Twinklylightseverywhere Tell him exactly what you want! I either say precisely or get it myself. I hate wasted money on crap I don’t want.

Some years, we have money to spend on each other, snd some years, money is a bit tighter, and we obviously prioritise the kids,then take the kids shopping for presents for each other. But we always specifically tell the kids what we need and let them choose. E.g, daddy needs new slippers and dressing gown, choose those then we can get him nice chocolates, socks, etc. Or, I've bought daddy a really lovely watch/coffee machine/gym equipment this year, let's go shopping and you can all choose something nice for him to wrap and give them, then give them free reign.

We're both self employed, growing businesses, so they ebb and flow, and some years we'll have hundreds to freely spend on each other once the kids are sorted, other years, it's essentials only once the kids are sorted.

So if it was a free spending year and the kids wanted ro get DH a £6 watch, I'd let them chuck it in the basket, and warn him to be thrilled and "keep it for best", if it was a more frugal year, I'd gently guide them to choose something from a list of things he actually needs.

So I guess it depends on whether you think you DH has got you some amazing gifts and is indulging your DC to pick some bits and pieces for you... or whether money is tight and he's given her a budget and allowed her free reign... or whether he doesn't know what you like/care about what she picks for you

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Why are they telling you about your present before Xmas?? 🤔

Your DD is 6. She’s probably learning about or interested in time.
she probably fancies the “gold watch” for herself !! …. Especially if she’s told you about it.

I feel your pain!
My husband once gave my children a pound each plus one for him to get my Christmas present from the pound shop. They went for quantity over quality. I feigned delight and every day tipped a little noxious scented stuff down the sink. I kept some back so that in November I could say “ wow I still have enough toiletries left to last another year”. That Christmas I got £4 worth of the cheapest pound shop chocolate. Hey ho my oh never been the best at gifts but he is perfect in other ways.

Hopefully not you op but the snobbery on Mumsnet is huge...Primark, Poundland, Iceland, Bayliss and Harding, KFC, council estates, inaccurate spelling ... etc. etc. etc etc. Whatever happened to live and let live.

And have shit gifts for the rest of your life. Fortunately for me, in our first year together I told my now dh his Christmas present was pretty low effort, so I don’t have your problem. You know, you don’t need to have your problem either. ‘Hey dh, I have a confession to make. I didn’t really like last years pyjamas, they were nothing like anything I wear. I often don’t like your Christmas present to me, I sit there thinking he doesn’t even know me at all or perhaps he just put 10 seconds and £10 into getting me something so didn’t really care what it is. I know it’s late notice but there’s still time to think about your present this year- is it colours I wear? Is it a style like other things? What makes you think I’d like it? Or you could ask me for hints, but for Christmas I’d really like to unwrap a gift from my husband and feel like he loved me and thought about me.’

You sound very hard to please. mixed messages all over the shop. You either dont mind it........... or you do . if your hubby has been lazy and gone cheap by all means be mad but if your daughter has had input, suck it up mama and be so very pleased she thought about YOU and not what SHE wanted. My kid picks me a daisy and that is better than pure golf because they thought about it. Next year, set rules and save every one the stress. Oh and you most are definitely "bothered about a gift", come on now honey.

That is hilarious! I can imagine my son doing this! 🤣 Boys are hilarious!

If the gift is from your DD, then smile through it, wear it once or twice and then put away. If it’s from your DH, I’d be having a chat when your DD is out of eat-shot and let him know that never again is he to buy you a piece of tat like that, regardless of who picked it out.

My Nan used to buy great gifts. She once bought me a Spatula and a book about salmon farming.

Im not sure what you expect of him, when you say not to bother and give hIm
no indication of what you like.

For someone who's not bothered about the gifts you seem pretty bothered about the gifts.

That would do my absolute head in.

For someone who isn’t bothered about a present you seem very bothered about this.
Your DD and DH probably had a great time choosing something together- the value isn’t important, it’s the manner in which the gift is given. Accept it graciously and stop being so judgemental about it.

Shame he didn’t decide on a watch whilst they were in a jewellery shop 😞

I worked in Primark in the 1980s and we sold watches for £1. Travellers used to come in and try to negotiate a better price🤣 When they were told ‘no’ (obviously) they would just go ahead and buy a whole pile of them. Presumably to sell on at a profit. They weren’t bad wee watches to be fair.

Yes, it would bother me if from husband.
Not if from a six year old kid. 😊

Shes 6 ffs why all the crap comments.
Shes 6 and went out with dad to get her mum something for christmas.
She chose a gold watch for mum, she so excited about about what she got, its lovely of her.

When i was 6 i got my mum a bloody awful looking boot/shoe money box from a chairty shop, dad said i could go to any shop, and chose what i wanted to get mum for xmas thats what i did.
To me it was what she wanted and like op daughter i was excited.
Mum had it for 8 till it got smashed in a house move she was livid.

It’s not a requirement to be bothered by a gift, nor is it reflective self esteem. I have, in anything, an inflated sense of self and won’t be exchanging gifts with DH.

Spot on.