Will everyone please STOP the extremely tone deaf 'Christmas Fridge' threads

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I see these multiple threads every single year and they drive me bonkers. The four days leading up to Christmas Day my feed is inundated with all the stuffed fridges, it's a complete and utter disgrace. Not just a few posters but sometimes literally hundreds of you all joining in with these enormous overflowing fridges, it's barbaric and in incredibly poor taste. I have already seen THREE seperate fridge threads today alone, it's scandalous... please people just think about what you are doing by jumping on this bandwagon. Now I take this a bit personally and here is why.... There are people in this world who are starving and many families, mine included, are having to rely on food banks this year just to keep our children fed. As in dippy eggs and soldiers on Xmas eve. Many of us are in a dire state with finances and the pressures of Xmas. The fridge threads are incredibly upsetting and triggering. By all means have a nice christmas dinner with all the trimmings but why post it and rub it in the faces of those less fortunate? They will be very lucky to scrape together a very basic dinner for the family this year?

I so look forward to seeing everybody's gluttonous greed in full swing, fridges stuffed full of obscene amounts of food and alcohol that will most likely go to waste. (And waistlines. The greed of Christmas it's all totally out of control and I despair)
All the cheese boards, cheesecakes, cheeselets, and on and on and on.
Honestly I wish MNHQ would BAN the threads, they cause many people anguish and distress.
It is one day so please keep some perspective or even better, pop a selection pack or some small treats in a collection trolley to help all the fantastic homeless charities and food banks ensure more people can enjoy a sweet treat on christmas day.

(Thanks to my local foodbank and those who kindly donated, at least me and my children have a lovely box of celebrations that I will bring out on Christmas Day for us) 🙂

I can’t think of anything more boring than looking at photos of other people’s fridges. Mine annoys me - I can’t wait until the turkey goes and we’ve got normal space back.

I think YABU though. Of all threads on MN that drip with excessive privilege (private education/£20k holidays/millions in pensions/ millions to spend on houses etc) pre-Christmas fridges are relatively small fry.

Yes, this. ^

Now I'm hungry.

i am massively charitable. But you are ridiculous.

I don’t know why people go so mad. It’s a roast dinner. YANBU OP, but please avoid the threads of gluttony.

I’m a single mum on benefits and my children get free school meals and I love the fridge threads. Mine is never as fab as long there but neither is a lot of things I don’t have that others do. That’s life. And I donate to food banks.

Hear hear OP. Personally I want to BAN style and beauty threads because I have no arms or legs so trousers, dresses and skirts are very dangerous for me and all these threads are full of people gluttonously buying clothes that I can't wear. It's extremely triggering. Also television threads, because mine blew up when I fell on it and it makes me sad that other people have one.

I've seen 2 today. I don't click them purely because I hate cheese and I know they're gonna be full of cheese 😂😂

I understand what you are saying. I honestly feel for you too. I don't particularly like some threads either.

But with all due respect why don't you scroll past topics that are distressing for you.

In all walks of life there will be situations that could potentially cause distress. It won't all be banned.

Christmas in the UK has become about gluttony and materialism, and folk losing their minds, shopping as if Armageddon is coming from end of August to end of January, every year. It is all driven by corporate greed. Oh, and hatred of people too - not wanting to host his family, or the dreaded MiL being a mean bitch. None of us are forced to buy into it, but whilst we do, it will carry on. In my part of my little world, I ignore it all as best I can and let the hysteria and madness fly over my head. In the end, it is all relative, and one person’s dippy egg is another person’s feast. Some of us would forego everything, just to hug a loved one again. The priority for others is to see a table groaning under the weight, and to see a stack of presents piled sky high … followed by the disappointment at the gifts, and the inevitable ‘diet’.

I haven't commented on them at all.

I am being insulted because of this thread I have started. People just don't get it why I and others in my situation are so upset and annoyed by it all. Every single year.

Oh, come on. You describe yourself on this thread as an absolute victim. You’re not. Someone else having a packed fridge isn’t taking from yours. Until you linked to these threads, I’d never seen a single one. I’m convinced you’ve searched them out.
Many people, myself included, donate to food banks at Christmas. I don’t know many, if any, people who wouldn’t extend charity at this time of year to those in need.
I’ve been properly skint at Christmas (to the point your egg dinner would have seemed positively decedent) but I can’t say I’ve ever felt that someone else having a fuller fridge has had an impact.
Also, your line about people’s ‘waistlines’ just makes you sound bitter and envious. Not like you’re actually upset through any hardship at all.

YABVU

I wouldn’t usually refer to an OP’s previous posts but not having enough money to feed your kids well at Christmas (and berating people who want to share their happiness at doing so) whilst considering cosmetic dental treatment does seem a very strange spending choice.

Incidentally many people can’t even afford non-cosmetic dental treatment so it does seem a bit heartless to be posting about unnecessary but desirable cosmetic dental treatment.

Indeed. Picking on the disabled yet expecting a thread full of sympathy for her own situation.

Dreadful.

So why are you going on these threads that upset and annoy you?

@TempNameForObviousReasons it looks like you are only replying to posters who agree with you. I suggest you ask MNHQ to add a TW to the title of the threads.
I would say however, that you might struggle. Thanks to you linking them earlier, I had a look, and saw that Kim at MNHQ has already posted on one of them, saying how much she is looking forward to seeing the “tetris” fridge arrangements.
As the sensible PPs have already said, why don’t you take a break from this site as it is obviously very distressing.

😂

Sorry you’re struggling.

However, throwing insults at people and calling them obscene and gluttonous isn’t a remotely reasonable response to that. And the donations to your food bank are very likely being made by people with ‘overflowing’ fridges, as those are the people who can most easily afford to donate.

Would you insult people for posting about babies if you were struggling with infertility? Would you post a lengthy rant aimed at someone who posted a thread about weddings if you were upset at being single?

I’ve been poor. I’ve had some very, very difficult Christmases, including two where I was not only in a desperate state financially but also stuck with a violent and coercive alcoholic partner. I completely understand that it’s awful. But being bitter towards others isn’t the answer.

I haven’t seen any fridge threads yet (bit early, surely?)

I have seen lots of threads today where people have been told they haven’t bought enough presents and ought to go out and buy some more. Very wasteful and tedious IMO but presumably some people are enjoying them.

Generally though it’s a case of avoiding threads that don’t bring anything to your life. I’m nosey so like looking in people’s fridges, just as I enjoy checking out people’s baskets at the supermarket and speculating about their lives. No interest in a thread about someone going in an expensive holiday to Dubai, say, so I’d give that a skip.

I have no understanding of why anyone can only put egg and soldiers out for their kids as a Christmas meal . Even on benefits you could squirrel away a £1 a week over a few months surely and as others have said veg is cheap and can make tasty meals . I’m not buying this story if im honest .

Op I’m sorry you are getting these responses there is no need for people to be this arsy.

I have seen a fridge thread tonight and I did look to just be nosey and yes I was very judgy as it seems some fridges are filled to be able to ‘show off’.

Everyone is entitled to buy as they want and also show what they have but I agree it’s insensitive.
As are some posts I have seen with huge lists of what gifts kids have.

I spend a ridiculous amount of money on dc at Christmas but I have never shared what I buy as many friends dc get few gifts and dc are the same when they talk about what they have received. DC also pass on a lot to charity and we also buy gifts for collections as well as send bags of treat foods to food banks.

I have been in a position where I have missed meals due to finances and I am so thankful to be able to afford what I can now but there is no way I’d be insensitive enough to tell anyone who wants to read!

I think I’m trying to say op, I understand.

Take care x

Oooh, I did an Advanced Search on the OP. I advise you all to do the same. She’s…certainly something. SEN kids, vegans, people with MH issues…nobody is safe.

Feasting over the dark days of winter lifts the soul. I don’t begrudge fridge gazing at others. I’m having a £6 chicken this year.

You’re a pillar among men ❤️ (or insert whatever other commendation you were looking for here)

Click on the thread but dont scroll down. Small arrow pointing down at top of thread. Click it and it gives the option to hide the thread. You dont have to read it. Curious as to why you read these threads if they upset you so much. Why not just scroll past? I see threads every day that could be triggering for me so the simple solution is not to read them. You cant police what people put on here just because it upsets you. You have to take some responsibility for what threads you read and what you choose to ignore.