Will everyone please STOP the extremely tone deaf 'Christmas Fridge' threads

[TempNameForObviousReasons]

I see these multiple threads every single year and they drive me bonkers. The four days leading up to Christmas Day my feed is inundated with all the stuffed fridges, it's a complete and utter disgrace. Not just a few posters but sometimes literally hundreds of you all joining in with these enormous overflowing fridges, it's barbaric and in incredibly poor taste. I have already seen THREE seperate fridge threads today alone, it's scandalous... please people just think about what you are doing by jumping on this bandwagon. Now I take this a bit personally and here is why.... There are people in this world who are starving and many families, mine included, are having to rely on food banks this year just to keep our children fed. As in dippy eggs and soldiers on Xmas eve. Many of us are in a dire state with finances and the pressures of Xmas. The fridge threads are incredibly upsetting and triggering. By all means have a nice christmas dinner with all the trimmings but why post it and rub it in the faces of those less fortunate? They will be very lucky to scrape together a very basic dinner for the family this year?

I so look forward to seeing everybody's gluttonous greed in full swing, fridges stuffed full of obscene amounts of food and alcohol that will most likely go to waste. (And waistlines. The greed of Christmas it's all totally out of control and I despair)
All the cheese boards, cheesecakes, cheeselets, and on and on and on.
Honestly I wish MNHQ would BAN the threads, they cause many people anguish and distress.
It is one day so please keep some perspective or even better, pop a selection pack or some small treats in a collection trolley to help all the fantastic homeless charities and food banks ensure more people can enjoy a sweet treat on christmas day.

(Thanks to my local foodbank and those who kindly donated, at least me and my children have a lovely box of celebrations that I will bring out on Christmas Day for us) 🙂

It is very important to raise awareness of gluttony.

@TempNameForObviousReasons I hope that this difficult time in your life passes and you have easier times ahead. Christmas is about spending time with people you love and that costs nothing. Don’t let people on here upset you.
I wish you a happy Christmas and I hope that the new year brings you better luck.

This is another thing I am noticing people seem to be needing more to be offended by themselves they are now putting it onto other people, not making light of people with genuine mental health issues but it is like some people need to find things to control and dress as it up as 'well I have decided it will upset other people so it has to stop' it is odd and I wonder if it is prpjecting other issues they have

Is gluttony one of the seven deadly sins? I think so wasn't there a very very fat man fed to death in that movie Seven?

OP
It seems like you’re being very unreasonable, almost as if you can’t help being drawn to the very content you claim to want to avoid, like some unseen force keeps pulling you into threads you’d rather skip. Consider using Mumsnet’s built-in settings to filter out unwanted content, or try browser extensions and apps that block certain words or topics, customizing them to your needs. Make sure to password-protect these tools (then discard the passwords) and choose ones that can’t be easily removed.

If we all focused on avoiding hurting each other's feelings and feared saying anything that might be harmful, there would be no discussions on any topic, since any issue can be triggering for someone. For example, just owning a sofa could stir negative feelings in someone who doesn’t have one.

@TempNameForObviousReasons nobody wants to upset you.

For whatever reason, you find these threads difficult.

Ok.

But for different reasons, they bring other people who have may have struggled in the past, joy.

So I am sorry darling, I really am sorry that life is a bit shit for you atm.

I don't think there's any intent. I think it's ok for you to allow others a bit of joy.

They're the wrong threads for you, but, there are other areas here where you will find really good support. So find those. There are women on here that will give you good stuff and succour.

Anyway, I wish you the best of the season. Fuck fridges eh?

You can not control other people, you are only able to control yourself - so do and just don't open the threads.

Surely it's a given that a population such as this would have a variety of wealths on here.

In all fairness. As people have suggested, simply don't look at the pictures/ turn off social media for a while. That will be much easier than trying to get the entire world to do what you want.

It’s a feast day. Fucking relax.

Hope you are ok OP. I don't have a full fridge either. We will be shopping on Wednesday, pay day, for Christmas Dinner. It is how it is.
But we will make the best of it.

An aldis ham is transformed with a bay leaf and pineapple. Yorkshire puddings are endless if you make them at home, they are so eay to make.
Pancakes for breakfast for the kids? Cup of flour, sieve it into a bowl, cup of milk, mix an egg and put it in. Fruit or aldis chocolate spread for topping.
Good food can be so simple. You just have to find the recipe that works for you. For me its cup recipes.
I get your OP but it's either adapt to our own circumstances or feel so bad about it.

It’s not gluttonous greed - it’s hosting family and catering to that. Having a full fridge isn’t greed. Most people fill a fridge each week with a food shop, it’s no different - just additional when it’s extremely common to have people over at Christmas. I’ve done a huge shop because I hosted this afternoon for friends and did a buffet, I will do my parents on Christmas Eve and then other family Boxing Day - does that make me greedy, because I filled my fridge to feed other people? No, it doesn’t. I’m sorry you’re struggling, but you’re being unfair in calling people greedy when you don’t know how many people it’s meant to feed or how long it’s meant to last.

@TempNameForObviousReasons I have been reliant on food banks on the past, and I can empathise with you. However, having full fridge isn’t necessarily greedy. You don’t know how many people that fridge will be feeding, or over how many days.
As a past food bank user, every year I donate six £50 supermarket vouchers to my local school to give to families in need, because my circumstances changed for the better. We volunteer at the food bank and regularly donate and collect from others. Next week I will be collecting sealed food gifts people don’t want to take to the food bank, just as I am aiming to tomorrow for those who have already been given tubs of chocolates and biscuits.
Not everyone is greedy, or selfish. Lots of people will be doing a lot of work to support people less fortunate and some of those will also be curious about other people’s fridges.
Equally no one should be attacking you personally - but when you call people greedy, and use capital letters for GREED, it will attract name calling back. I hope you have a peaceful Christmas.

OP "I'm jealous, so don't post anything that makes me feel more jealous".
OP "I'm jealous, so i'll make incorrect assumptions and make nasty comments about people that have more than me, whilst making myself the victim".

I'm disabled and chronically ill, and my workload is so high that I haven't even seen what the shops are doing for nice Christmas bits this year. I'm now interested to see these threads to find what I'd like to try and get before it's too late. They sound like just what I need. Maybe OP should only click on the threads that are useful to her.

You relax foolio!

I obviously wasn't being serious.

I would suggest reading through the comments op made on this post before exerting too much sympathy - absolutely vile comments toward SEND children, their families - and anyone who feels for these people are “bleeding hearts”.
The horrible comments on this thread toward you that made you feel hurt, is exactly how SEND parents felt reading your comments.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5404665-to-think-this-is-a-really-awful-thing-to-say-tw?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

if anything is tone deaf - it’s this comment, that YOU made,op - on the above thread

TempNameForObviousReasons ·04/09/2025 19:47
Oh great, another word for the bleeding hearts to get offended about.
I object to SEND children being called 'special needs'.
Why are they special? Are my non-disabled chidren not special?

😂. You’re awesome

Correct!

I hadn’t seen these fridge posts. Hide them if they’re upsetting you so much!

I looked at the 3 the OP linked and was disappointed. There was only 1 picture on 2 of them and I couldn't make it most of what was in it. Off to start my own fridge thread...

But by your own admission here, you’re only now getting upset by it because it affects you. Your original post was pretty vitriolic, so I’m not sure why you feel that’s ok but are now surprised that you feel some posters have been rude in return.

Sorry you’re having a tough time but Christmas is a time of overindulgence for many, whether it be food or gifts. If that’s not for you, leave it for those that it is. If you see a ‘fridge’ post, don’t open it.

I get what you're saying OP, but you don't HAVE to look at these threads, do you? There are plenty of others trending right now, you can go there and read the stuff you're interested in?

I don’t recall seeing many of these threats,
but I have seen a few over the years. Whilst it’s always struck me that over consumption and waste is wrong, I must admit to have never given any thought about how these threads may affect people who are struggling to put food on the table.

I agree that OP could choose not to read these threads, but it’s also worth thinking a little more about how they may affect other people. It’s easy to get caught up in the over indulgence of Christmas (I am as guilty of that as anyone). A little less consumed and more shared is not be a bad idea. I will be taking your advice op and will be taking some of our excess purchases to the food bank today.

Lidl are advertising complete Christmas dinner for less than £1.50 per person. All of the vegetables are 8p per pack.

(Insomnia 🙄)