My friend is falling for an absolute twerp

[Winter2025]

This guy is awful. He's lied about his name at the beginning, massive red flag!! Then he's told other "white" lies too. He clearly doesnt want a relationship with my friend but is happy to let her cook for him and be a shoulder to cry on/give advice to when he wants it. He's slippery and slimy and makes me feel really uncomfortable. I really feel like he's using her. Its bothering me so much. She wants to talk about him quite a lot and I really dont want to talk about him at all. Every fibre of my being knows this man is really bad news. What the hell do I do? I dont like getting involved in other people's relationships but I cant stand to hear about him.

Raise your concerns to her then

I have, cautiously.

Well, you probably need to talk to her about what bothers you. One thing that really pissed me off when I broke up with my ex were all these people who came out to tell me that they never liked him but didn't want to tell me at the time so as not to upset me.

Do I detect a little crush you have on him op?

Hahahaha
I'd rather shit in my hands and clap.

WTF?!

My closest friend made a series of bad men choices. I told her exactly what I knew and thought about the walking red flag, lying piece of shit she was inviting into her, and her kids lives. She confronted him, he admitted it all. And then she cut me off. Up to you but fucking hell, it made me take a step back from most friendships.

You can tell her your opinions on him until you’re blue in the face. She won’t listen. They never do.

Then sometimes u have to just listen and when the shit hits the fan - try to be a good friend without the I told u so -

ill admit for some things online i use a different name,

I think for a good friend, in a new relationship you go as brutal as it gets.

good friend, meet husband and think this, that’s different.