To think it's really rude to keep your shoes on when you visit someone's home

[Pavementworrier]

There's so much dog poo about now it's basically a trampling of dog poo

Surely you have some indication you’re a shoes off house? Or you ask? I do.

If they don’t wear shoes, you should take off your shoes
If they keep their shoes on, you keep your shoes on

anything else is odd imo

Just don’t step in dog poo! Simple!

I don't ask visitors to take shoes off at mine, but I ask if its required when I visit other people's homes.

Depends on the rule of the house surely?

I’d personally rather not have sweaty feet on my rugs and it stops people putting feet up on the sofa. And I don’t think I’ve stepped in dog mess for years and years.

It’s really rude to make guests take their shoes off.

Mumsnet is obsessed with shoes off in a house! I don’t want to walk in my bare feet on your dirty floors! I don’t know who or what else has been walking on them!

It’s only rude if you ask them to and they refuse without good reason. I will say that when I take my shoes off in other peoples house my feet get FREEZING which makes it a less enjoyable experience.

I don't think it's polite to ask people to walk around on your floor in white socks. Also, other people's sweaty socks on the carpet is not really better.

We want our guests to be comfortable and nobody has walked dogshit through our carpets in the fifteen years since we moved in.

I think generally it is good manners to ask if you should take your shoes off. We have hard flooring so I don't care - people can keep their shoes on. - no-one has been ill from outside pavement disease in my family thus far. 😂

I think I have had read that most handbags left on surfaces have more germs on them than most things. (But I may be misremembering that )

This a very common question isn't it?

If someone's shoes were visibility covered in shit it would be reasonable to request they are removed. Other than that I don't care if you keep your shoes on.

I think it’s rude to put people on the spot by asking them to remove their shoes. If your carpets are more important than your guests’ comfort, then you should either meet elsewhere or clean your carpets more often.

Its rude to insist
Its rude not to offer unless you can't.

Etiquette is a conundrum at times

Why? I wash my floors pretty much daily, so what is the issue. I don’t go on my hands and knees licking the bloody floor.

This has been done to death in other threads. There is strong feeling for and against.

I think this might be my level. Although it wouldn't be "can you please take your shoes off in the porch" it would be "the fuck happened to your feet?"

I have a lot of Scandinavian / Eastern European friends and family to whom shoes off in the house is non-negotiable and at this point I really can’t imagine sitting on a sofa with a cuppa and being comfortable having shoes on. Most of the above friends / family have slippers to borrow if necessary, and obviously socks are a thing.

The regular MN shoes on/shoes debate again!

Anyone coming in to my house must leave their shoes on. There's a mat they can wipe their shoes on before they come in.

Hell will freeze over before anyone is allowed walk around my house in their potentially sweaty, smelly socks or barefoot with fungal infections, athlete's foot, veruccas etc.

If anyone has a problem with that (no one do far), they can remain on the doorstep.

I wouldn't ask people to take their shoes off to come into our house. We have easily cleaned floors and also a downstairs bathroom so there's no need for a visitor to go upstairs. If anyone is staying, I ask them to use slippers or just socks upstairs.

I genuinely do not understand why people have carpets when they seem to cause nothing but stress.

Just get laminate, LVP, or vinyl and a steam mop.

Communal slippers, oh the joy!

I think it's gross to have shoes on in the house at all. No matter who's home it is. I automatically remove mine and would never keep them on in someone else's home.

It's a tiny detail but I always notice it.. that "topsy and Tim" cbeebies show my DD watches, the kids always have their shoes on, not just T&T but the visiting kids too and in the very first episode they are clambering all over the BEDS with them on 🤢🤢🤢 Its so grim I can't even look!!

I would point-blank refuse to enter a house where the owners wanted me to wear sweaty, fungus-covered shared slippers, full of toe cheese and god knows what.

It is literally my worst nightmare. Bowling shoes are bad enough, and they are hard, non-porous, and are sprayed with disinfectant after every use.

You just need to tell them at the door. We ask visitors to remove shoes. If they refuse they either don’t come in or we have shoe covers .

It's really rude for guests to assume they can walk in with shoes on