I just wish people would stop sending me Christmas cards

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They're pointless, wasteful and a poor form of communication. All I do is read the "Happy Christmas from Joe and Julie" and walk them to the recycling.

I haven't sent any for over 25 years and I just don't see the need for them at all.

I always feel
guikry if
I miss
someone and that theyll think I dont care! I guess Ill worry less now.

I’m not the poster you replied to but I too put cards straight into recycling but feel no guilt - why would I?

love this thread, it’s like Mumsnet twenty years ago, a great blast from the past 😊

@Roobarbtwo you had best start a saving account, first class stamp will likely be c £2.75 next year !

I’ve gotten two probably won’t get more. I don’t mind them but I have generally moved onto writing on a gift tag instead (to, from and maybe a little ‘Merry Christmas’).

Because someone has made an effort to send you something and you dont care/havnt made use of it. And it would upset them if they knew? It was more to those who dont even read them which is really rude.

Not a bit.

I assume that the sender got some pleasure out of writing them so they are happy but I don't want the mess they make.

The corporate ones are just trash. Complete waste of time and money.

I send them to people I rarely see. Husband has to write his own messages to people who are more his friends. I do working class type cards to assorted working class relatives... but my mother in law gets a generic one.
Im not in the UK and horrified that sending me a card is £3.40 so I am expecting to add some to my non sender list.
And I want to know if anyone makes them into pretty gift tags for next year. My cards and envelopes become shopping lists.

A bit off topic but what are working class type cards?

Well I’ve opened it, read it and recycled it, what more use can a card have?

Is a working class card one from Card Factory

This is exactly it. Years ago when I first got married we had loads of Christmas cards sent to us. Loads. Now only one or two a year. Like myself, many can't justify the cost of stamps. The DC get loads from their school buddies but not us oldies🤣

That's a point @Davros about raising awareness.

But really – a card we got this year was a charity card for a local hospital. Cost? (I have no idea but let's say £5 for 10 - does that sound right?) so say 50p. Plus £1.70 for the first class stamp (yes indeed). And literally all it said was "from Suzanne and Peter". So to me, that's performative - "ohhh look, we support the hospital aren't we nice" – but they are not nice enough to write info about their family or ask us about ours – plus if they had just donated the £2.20 to the hospital it would have got a lot more money. And no one would have been bothered.

That’s a fair bit of overthinking! Are they not nice people?

Do people really put first class stamps on cards, second are much cheaper.

I'm apparently working class according to the OP because I give my mum a card when I see her at Christmas. Apparently that's a "working class" thing to do

They are DH friends and yes they were nice when I last saw them. That's the thing – why not ring up and suggest we meet? Much nicer.

But I'm trying to say that if they wanted to support a charity they could have done so to a greater degree by donating what they spent.

And @Sesma yes it was sent first class. Of course second class is cheaper (still costs more than the card tho). But our post is only delivered on certain days and second class can take 3-4 days or more. Often more IME (we had a letter from the NHS (of course! Why would you text or email) that took 12 days to get to us.

giving in person as opposed to sending? That’s wc? 😆

Because from their pov, they were letting you know they were thinking of you and chose a nice (im assuming nice design?) for you to read, feel special and then put up if you desire. Poor people probably thought it made you happy.

I would be interested to know what a working class card is, is it the actual card or is it one you send to your lowers

Op mentioned that ones like 'To dear mum at Christmas ' are working class.
I have a spare 'son and daughter in law' if anyone needs it. Because I found 'Christmas greetings to your cockapoo' which will thrill that household.

Never heard of a working class card in my life - is it one you buy from Asda instead of Waitrose?

She said that to me - but that's not how I write my Christmas cards. A few assumptions going on there I think. Apparently it's not the done thing to give cards to people you actually see at Christmas. Never knew that either

Mine had hedgehogs on from the National Trust shop, what class are they.

Thankfully I live in a very long street and I can hand deliver them :)

I quite like them. Folk spend a fortune stuffing their faces at Christmas I think it's quite nice to donate to charity by buying cards and wishing others well. It's a nice thing to do specially for older people who don't do whatsapp group chats.