Would you accept this?

[charlotte82]

Husband had been sacked from work for making comments about customers to his work mates, such as she's really fit, she's got good boobs, she's in good shape, is attractive etc. I feel really betrayed by this but am I overreacting?

Of course you’re not.

you cant say anything these days without it backfiring.

I suppose some idiot has complained. What is the matter with people these days - it's just banter! Your poor husband losing his job over this.

How bad were those comments that he has got himself sacked? He has obviously been really stupid or unpleasant.

He has affected the financial stability of your family. That would offend me far more than comments about women's boobs. That just shows that he's a twat which you probably knew already.

He's lost his job. Not great.
I'm guessing until he finds a new one you'll be picking up the financial slack. Not great.
He's eyeing up other women. Not great
He's disrespecting you. Not great.
He's a sexist pig. Not great
He's an idiot thinking you can behave like this in the workplace in 2025. Not great.

You can say plenty of things without it backfiring.
It just involves engaging your brain before your mouth starts to move

Agree totally
I own my own company banter is just part of working with people
When we interview people we say that there is a lot of office banter and if that is not their cup of tea this is not the place for them
I have heard guys say things about me that I weas not meant to hear - was I offended no
Did I care no
Do I and my friends comment abut good looking guys - yes

FGS LOL
You must be fun to live with
What convent are you in

No of course you are not overreacting. What has happened to you to make you question this?

He’s a moron and a sleaze who has disrespected you and put your household at risk. What part of that is compatible with “husband”?

More to the point when are you going to leave?

So not only is he unable to not objectify women he doesn't know and who didn't need his stupid opinions, he also doesn't have the sense to keep it to his internal voice and feels the need to share with co-workers. And has done it enough times and clearly upset people who have complained or his bosses have heard and been unimpressed that he's lost his job over it.

I'd be upset at being with someone so dumb, and someone who put our finances at risk through his own stupidity and inability to read the room and adapt his behaviour, but also, no, you're not unreasonable to feel it's unpleasant and disrespectful behaviour from him.

As a pp said though - what does that mean for you going forward?

Haha. Convent.

No seriously he's sexually harassing women/been a perv at work and he's lost his job over it. Why wouldn't you be furious with him?

Your standards must be incredibly low.

@surreygirly just to be clear: are you saying you think an employee who makes insulting comments about customers should be protected?

Office banter between colleagues is one thing but giving the same treatment to customers is not the same at all, no wonder he got sacked.

Where did he work, bar, gym, hospital, old folks home? Either way it's awful behaviour and he's rightly been sacked

Absolutely mad some of these comments. I would guess there is a little more to this story, I wouldn’t imagine it’s the first strike….

It’s clear misogynistic behaviour. I guess your question is whether you are overreacting to feel betrayed and not whether he should have been given the sack….

If it was my husband, I would have the ick big time. Shows a complete lack of self control, belittling perv type behaviour. How embarrassing to be the customer, would make me feel so self conscious and uncomfortable. I think my husband would probably feel like a complete idiot if it were him.

100% will not have been the first time. There will have been warnings. What a sleaze.

Probably the tip of a more unpleasant iceberg.

He sounds revolting

Of course you’re not being unreasonable in feeling the way you do. I’d be mega pissed off and angry if my husband lost his job over his own stupidity. I do wonder though if he’s had warnings before and not heeded them as to be suddenly sacked seems extreme.
My guess is the comments were made within earshot of the customers and they’ve complained. There’s a huge difference between banter amongst colleagues and making such comments in front of customers.

Oh my goodness.

Reading some of the posts on this thread I'm beginng to think I'e woken up in a time warp and I'm back in the 20th century. You know: those days when misogynistic language and behaviour and objectification of women was just considered the norm.

Office banter between employees who are ok with it is fine, but completely different to an employee making comments about customers. That is not ok and he should be disciplined for it.

You aren't that fussy about how you're treated by men obviously.
According to the poll and myself included prefer to be respected and treated properly. Not as a slab of meat to be drooled over and having 3 orifices to shag by a scummy bloke who thinks it's okay to perv over our teen/adult d's.

Please tell me you’re trolling?

OP - I’m actually shocked that he told you the reason he’d been sacked. I’m willing to bet the reality is much, much worse.

Yes, banter commenting on some poor womans breasts.... thats all it is.
/s

You forgot to leave the international sign for sarcasm on your post as clearly you are not serious

OP on your other thread on this subject, you said that your husband had also touched some of his female colleagues as they walked past him.

So it hasn't just been verbal remarks that have got him sacked.

I'm not sure why you've started another thread though. You got lots of advice on your other one.