Aibu does anyone else get annoyed getting the same gift every year?

[grinchmcgrinchface]

lighthearted!

Every year for my birthday & christmas my parents buy me perfume & slippers. Nothing else just those two items to the point I have ten pairs of slippers I have never worn and twelve boxes of perfume
never opened - always the same perfume too.

I don’t mean to sound ungrateful but it’s at that point where I don’t even want to open them as I know what they are. im not even a big slippers or perfume fan so I am a bit perplexed why its always the same thing. 😂

AIBU to ask them not to give me gifts in the future and to save their money? I dont want to seem ungrateful but it seems like such a waste!
Anyone else get the exact same gifts every birthday/xmas?

Surely next time they visit, just show them the massive box of perfume/slippers and ask them again to buy something different!

Do either have memory issues?

I think it's a bit late to nip it in the bud. That's not only opened and blossomed, it's seeded and entire bloody orchard of perfume and slippers!

@grinchmcgrinchface if you say thank you each year, your parents have taken away the impression that perfume and slippers are things you like. Unless you speak up directly, you'll get them forever.

My great aunt on my Mum's side always sends my grandmother on my Dad's side a bottle of Harvey's Bristol Cream at Christmas. My gran always sent a thank you note.

When gran died I found 23 bottles of unopened Harvey's in her shed. She was teetotal.

Speak up!

It's your parents. Why cant you tell them what you need/would like

My ex sister in law always always got me a scarf for Christmas..... every bloody time.

Start gifting them back. So year 2 slippers can be this years Christmas gift. She might get the hint

My mum doesn’t do it anymore but for years she always got me a hot water bottle and dressing gown. I have never worn dressing gowns and frankly think the day I start is the day I accept I am old and past it. I also didn’t need that many hot water bottles, I don’t know who would.

Regift some of the previous slippers and perfume back to your mum this Christmas for her present. Repeat next year and the next. Your Mum will get the hint.

I had this with my Mum, was fed up of getting tatty bits of rubbish, kids craft sets etc that I was never going to use. Tried to politely tell her each year not to get me all the bits and bobs as I don't like the clutter and I always got the 'I'm your mother I like to buy for you'.
It finally stopped last year after she saw a charity bag at my front door with all of the stuff in. I felt bad at first, she'd seen it by accident but she wasn't listening to me.

Also, stick the unopened gifts on Vinted or ebay and then buy yourself something you actually like with the money

Sling the entire lot in the bin

Love my dressing gown, literally wear it like a coat in the house 😂

I've told my parents to just do presents for the kids, and I get them something "from" the kids (they are 4 and 1). This is because year after year my mum bought really bland presents. Like a jute shopping bag. One year I got a pastry brush 😂 I'm pretty certain she likes me, she's just not good at presents. It's odd, she gets annoyed with my Dad for asking what she wants for Christmas or birthdays and says "I just want him to think about what I actually might like and surprise me". But she's terrible at doing that herself. (My dad doesn't buy us/grandkids presents. That's mum's job).

What suggestions did you give, what did you ask for?

I have the same problem but with my siblings..!!
I have had face to face discussions yet still ended up with the same gifts last year… toiletries I’ve got a back log of, books I don’t read.
This year I’ve been more direct and added anymore toiletries or books I’ll end up having to charity shop stuff already not getting used..

There not worth much, two bottles on ebay go for £14. Will probably donate them to the old people’s home for christmas! Sure the ladies there would be chuffed.

Asked for books, gift vouchers, a jumper, chocolates or bisuits when she asked.
She knows what I like its not like she hasn’t got a clue.

Same here I would love a new one. 😂

Nope, they aren’t even eldery both still work!

You have developed an allergy to perfume.
You enjoy the slippers but they are lasting well and you have a few pairs in hand, as it were.
So please can she give you THIS JUMPER, JUST CLICK TO FOLLOW THE LINK, MUM or SOME OF THOSE LOVELY CHOCOLATE BISCUITS YOU HAD AT HER HOUSE LAST WEEK.

That's very weird. Maybe after this Christmas send an email with a link to your Amazon wishlist and just say bluntly you don't need any more perfume or slippers.

I'd sell the perfumes and slippers too.

Surely you’re grown up enough to say, politely, “Mum I don’t need perfume and slippers. I would however like this jumper or these books or this toiletry set. Surprise me!” I can’t imagine just accepting the same gift you don’t like or need for 10+ years & never saying anything!

Think I would be uploading photos to the online selling especially if they are still boxed and have tags! Then buy yourself something nice with the proceeds!

Do you have young kids or can you borrow a niece or nephew? Then they can do what a 4 or 5 year old me did when I asked my uncle why he bought my mum a particular brand of chocolates every year when she didn't like them 😂 Everyone laughed but she never got given them again!

My bil used to grumble every year about people buying him red wine, yet he would never say what he would prefer.

Why not tell your dps you'd like a bottle of bubbly or a glorious bouquet of flowers this year instead. Neither would clog up your house.

Funnily enough one of my children said to her yesterday “another perfume? Mum can open a perfume shop with the amount she has.” 😂

I’m just going to be blunt when it comes up to my birthday/christmas next year and tell her not to waste her money on me. I wouldn’t mind but my sister got a ninja air fryer off my mum & dad last year granted she doesnt have kids but still was a bit awkward sat there with my slippers & perfume. 😳 Probably deep down the reason why I declined going to theirs for Christmas this year! She knows its the only presents I get as well as DH isn’t great at buying things and kids are to young (i just treat myself later on.)